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Ok I have met this guy about three months ago. He is a capricorn. I am an aries. I read we are not supposed to like each other. When I met him I thought he was very good looking but not my type. He is crude. He farts all the time. He told me he has some h pylori stomach thing and thats why he farts so much, but he makes such big deal of it. He burps all the time too. He is crass and often says things just to get my attention. He pins me down and tickles me and blows in my neck like every chance he gets just to hear me scream and laugh. He is working on a degree but does not seem to capricorn ambitious he works a job to get by. Those are the main not so enticing points. Here is the thing though I know he has a very good heart. He is very funny and smart and he gets me. I think Im in love with him or on the very verge. I guess my question here is this. Is it okay to love someone that u didnt expect to love? I know he respects me and we see each other quite often. He doesnt exactly meet all my criteria but I cannot stop myself from wanting to be with him.

I have no idea about the whole gas expulsion thing. If youre cool with it then just keep letting him know its ok, and not to mention it. Eventually he should feel more secure. Ask if he can do them quietly I guess. Some people can and some cant.

His behavior towards you could just be an insecure method to divert your attention away from his condition. If I had his problem I would more than likely be very doubtful around some people. I would feel as if I could never really express myself during confrontation because of the "card" you hold. Though, you may not be a person who throws short-comings in peoples faces.

His ambition is there. I assume most Caps have it. Im very ambitious also, just stagnant right now. He's working on it so be patient. We caps feel we have the capacity to do EVERYTHING given enough time and will. At least I do. It makes it hard for us to choose a direction that won't waste our time, energy, or depress us. He wants to be happy and have purpose that he can be comfortable with.

It is so normal and ok to feel like you do. Ive been there but havent always followed my feelings. Im actually in a situation right now like that. My philosophy is "I was fine before I met them, I'll be just fine afterwards". Do not adopt this if you have a bleeding heart. Im a Cap and so I can compartmentalize well and turn off when needed. And my parents ohhh God!!

You need to be comfortable with yourself and around others with, the criteria that he doesnt meet or else it will eventually show especially during hard times between you two.

Two options: take the chance and dive in..or...feel him out some more.

Im not sure whether your main issue is that he is a Capricorn because it doesnt really seem to have a lot of bearing on what youve described above. He seems really cool and plus you said you get along fantastic.

Ambition aside he will always take care of you NO MATTER WHAT. If I were in your position I would deal with my own fears first. I would also make sure that MY ambition is is up to par with what I expect from others because Im the type of person that doesnt really focus on anothers ambition as long as they love me and treat me nice with respect. You make sure that youre secure and financially, socially, environmentally whatever and his ambition wont bother you. Get your own ducks in a row so this way you dont rely on HIS ambition, ya know? He's in college and working and probably has his own vehicle..

So what more is there to question? Never get caught up SOLELY with zodiac stuff. Your heart is what will guide you if you listen to it along with common sense. Even from way down here in NC I can see "HIM" from your description. I dont see "Capricorn".

In life we live and learn and grow. Congratulations!! Youre living life! Love it!!

Oh and another thing...you could always burp and fart with him🙂 When you can that is.

Heres the thing about the farting and burping. He does it on purpose to get a reaction out of me. He has this condescending, makes fun of me at my expense kind of personality and he does it in an amusing way. He is four years younger than me. It is weird because he is so into my ten month old baby boy. He changes his diapers. Feeds him. It feels like he is dating me because he is in love with my child. He is always telling me how to do this or that to help my child. Deep down he is very sincere and has yet to let me down. Most guys I have dated have pretty much put up with my child or acted like they like him to spend time with me. Not him. When my kid wakes up from his nap its all about my kid. He laughs and plays with him till he goes back down. I feel like I could build a life with him but he is not exactly what I ever anticipated. We have been together for three months and we've only been intimate three times. That is clear he is not in this for booty. Truth is I dont have a clue why he hangs out with me to be honest. I dont know what he wants from me but I am not sure how to approach this with him. He is extremely good looking and I am okay looking to be honest.

What I meant to say when I said we were together was that we have been spending time together the last three months. He brought up commitment the other day but I am allergic to that word until I can completely know and trust someone so I changed the subject. We are on the verge of something but Im not sure what that is.

sounds comp. anytime a child is involved it gets tricky. The sort of thing you guys have is definitely a slow thing.

3 months....thats tricky because it is and isnt long enough, know what I mean?

Cold logical Capricorn in me says focus on the kid and reduce the time he spends with him/her. Im not sure if he should be changing diapers and such.
I see an issue that red flags me somewhat. Does he feel obligated to the child, and thus loves you through the child or does he love you and thus loves the child? Could be neither. Personally I think you have to love the mother first, to know her first and love the child, not only because he is a child, but because he is your child and thus appreciate you both equally for the stuff youre both made of.
He has a lot on his plate. Make sure he's not sacrificing anything to prove to you that he's worthy. If he is, then bring it to light and discuss it with him. Even a mother ape has been documented on film saving a human child from the other apes because of the maternal instinct. Not necessarily love, but you said he stays with him until he's down so you couldl be right.

Another thing I remember which appears to flag, if you dont mind me putting this into the forum is...your child is 10 months old, you and your Cap have been dating/spending time for 3 months, and within these 10 months, "Most guys I have dated have pretty much put up with my child or acted like they like him to spend time with me."

Ok. Im no psych but personally, and this is just my opinion formed from the above statement...How many is "Most"? Also, there just seems to be a lot of dating going on in haste especially if your little boy is only 10 mths. Because see, you have been seeing your Cap for 3 months. During the first very early seven months you dont seem to have really taken the time to just be with your daughter without the presence of a male. So technically you kind of make yourself look like youre "daddy-hunting" (NO OFFENSE AT ALL) I think it wise to slow things down to a safer rpm, but be honest with coming out with your feelings for him. If he truly is a wise Cap, then he should be able to see the "safe" reasoning behind this. Slow down, not take the keys out.

let me know if I am way off base.

I think subconsciously yes I have yearned for a dad for my son. His dad died when I was 8 months pregnant in a car accident. My cap knows about it but I only told him one time in the beginning because he asked about the father. I only brought it up that one time and I contained all the pain. Im sure he saw it in my eyes. I never asked for him to do anything. He calls me. I dont call him. He comes over all the time. I never suggest him to do that. I was in a deep dark pit for many months. I decided to start dating when my son was about 6 months old. Have been out on a couple dates and most guys just pacify me not him. I can tell he is very sincere (deep down) and very responsible. He is definitely not obligated to my child at all and has never shown that. It has all come about very natural. He would be the kind of person that if we did end up together would treat my son like his own.

About the changing diapers thing. He changed a disgusting mustard stink diaper the kind that is worse than cutting onions when I was in the middle of washing my dogs. He bitched about it and we laughed about it later but he is not a pedifile if thats where u were going with that one. He has two neices and nephews that he helped raise and adores and he has alot of experience with children.

You two sound beautiful.
PEDOPHILE WAS THE LAST THING ON MY MIND!!!hahahha Sorry for unclarifying.
Changing diapers just seems very close. You guys must be close.
keep me posted. it seems like you know what youre doing. neosaiyan@hotmail.com

I think were about to get exclusive. He just left and while he was here he brought up that c word again. He joked that why would he buy the milk when hes getting the cow for free I looked at him very matter of factly with a wry smile well sure why would I buy the whole pig when all I wanted was a little sausage. He laughed. I think were about to mesh

I forgot I was going to ask you what do you think about a capricorn man and an aries woman together? Every site I have gotten on says hes my worst match but it doesnt seem that way at all.

You matched his wit. Very good for you.

You will both work out just fine if you can both agree to "let go" of frivolities.
Never ever over analyze or take arguments to the next level.
Do not push him too hard and do not let him slow you down too much.
Take this opportunity to learn and gain more from each others differences. You can learn from everyone I believe.

If he doesnt know much about Capricorns, then that makes you just an Aries. You see?
What he doesnt know won't hurt you. If youre not broke then dont try to fix

If you both read about your signs then there is the possibilty of further understanding and increased chemistry. Like GI Joe "knowing is half the battle". 2 heads with zodiac knowledge might turn out to better than 1.

I always find it extremely fun to defy the odds. Why dont you both agree to try to make something unique and special together with your relationship. It is extremely important for the two of you to be open with communication in a respectful way and maybe sometimes in a humorous way.

I think that if it doesnt work out between you two, then at least your precious little boy will not be old enough to remember him and attach to him. The main thing you have to lose within the next few years is your heart mostly. Sorry its just my Capricorn logic coming out. Minimal casualties and safe landing is always a Cap philosophy.

SOmetimes relationships are just like the armed forces or sports. You have to be able to make the best decisions on the fly, especially if not already thought out to some reasonable degree.

i would go for it. but ask some other caps as well as a few more Aries before settling into concrete.