Capricorn gone psycho!-help?

So I have a capri sister, who i've offically deamed 'socially retarded'. She is cold, heartless, disrespectful, and quite frequently disreguards my needs. Don't get me wrong, i love my sister, but she recently got with a cancer boy and ever since then shes been a total bi-otch! She has flipped from her happy self because of a bitter, overly emo, arrogant cancer, thus resulting in her complete mood change. She only listens to him and his needs (when he whinnes), and has become very cruel and rude over the past 8 months. anyone have an opinion on cancers and capri's? and / or a repellant?

what happened to my ubber defensive 'lets go down swinging sis'? she doesnt have a lot of friends because of this douche bag, she's around him 24/7 and everyone agrees she's changed. shes dated a lot of cancers b4 and became sweet and chipper, now she seems like shes on a rampage of vengence... any advice on how to get her to see reason?

You're probably right, but shes just so unemotional... and its a little irritating that i can't speak to her without her either being defensive or completely unresponsive. i once had an arguement about how unemotional she is so obviously why she cannot understand why im mad at her. her response...she just started crying and yelling that see she can be emotional... me ...'not what i was trying to explain to u'. so i just walked away, i've noticed there is no use trying to talk things into her when she cant grasp the concept.

Thanks for ur advice, some useful some not. I'm not interested in my sisters attention or am i in need of it. its more like i dont enjoy her mockery of my existance or his for that matter. i typically try to advoid them, but every time i happen to be around my house while they're home its like asking for harassment. im just exhausted with it and as much as i push her away... she lives in the same house. i just cannot understand as to why when im just trying to be nice they throw things in my face and annoy me. like when 'they're' or shall i say 'he's fine', they harass me, then when 'he's not fine' she's all up in my room crying her eyes out. if i ask for the same in return (i.e. if i need advice or something) she just pushes me off and continues on talking about her relationship. i feel shes being unfair and completely self centered. i do noy understand why she's so one sided. when hes around shes on her highest of highs and puts ppl down, when hes not she acts like a kitten. bipolar much?

wow, im lucky im not a scorp... lolz! hey guys im just a tuarus girl who happens to like phoenix'! but yea see exactly what i expected, ur all saying its my problem and all in my head such a tradtional capri thing to say when its not. im asking for new ways to approach her on this issue. i've tried telling her and talking to her about her knewly aquired bi-otch behavior, but she put it best 'he's an a**hole,, i'm an A**hole thats who we are', with so much pride its disgusting. i couldnt imagine what happened between her being sweet and always cool calm and collected to ubber wench and never wanting to hear ppl out. shes like such in her head and her own little world i dont wanna deal with her. but as my sag mom says, u cant avoid ur sis and shes another one who agrees no one likes my sisters horrible attitude towardslife. shes such a downer now and as much as i'd like to say that it makes sense, it doesnt! she used to be so happy and fun to hang out with now shes either highly moody, judgemental or flipping my friens off. i know that guys been a bad influence and honestly u'd like a capri would be more to holding there personality than being weak and clinging into someone elses.

Yay so im not the only one whos seen that type of behavior b4! Yea my sister used to be into a lot of mixed fighting (UFC's and junk), she was even on a team, like total team spirit chick! went to college ditched a lot of her friends, now she has like 1 or 2 she ever hangs around and its like invasion of the body snatchers! When shes with Tess (kick ass chick shes miss 'wanna steal a monster truck, lets do it!', then when shes with dumba** shes 'on ur inferior to me'.

that says to me 'fuck off', therefore i go and hang with my friends, what do i care if she wants to believe shes on top of the world. fine, go get ur worshipers and so on, im not one. then this past summer i went to the beach with a couple of my friends, she calls me and FLIPS OUT! she yells and curses me about about how i didnt invite her and then some. At this point im stunned, like 'wasn't i to inferior to hang out with u?', wtf did i miss— then again she flips out at me cuz i went to a concert with my friends and didnt tell her about it... im like... uh the blog said it was on the 11... so? i didnt kno she was going she barely talks to me.

I just think, shes pulling a bipolar moment, like to weird. I don't think my sister hates me, cuz when shes not around the bf she calls me up to hangout and wants to party with my friends. but at the same time, when shes around him she wants everyone to kno she will step on u! Yet when shes all alone shes all talk no action.

"She is cold, heartless, disrespectful, and quite frequently disreguards my needs."

"I'm not interested in my sisters attention or am i in need of it."




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People who feel compelled to control other people to whom is not their responsibility, nor right to have control over ... normally are suffering from a lack of control in their own lives and need an avenue in which to find satisfaction in controlling something.


This affliction isn't one of your sisters .. it's one of your own. You have it in your mind that you don't like the way she is living her life and so want it to change ... however, this change isn't for her benefit, for she loves him .. this change is for yourself because you don't.

To love your sister, or any family member .. consists of standing by her and supporting her, not defying her in her own personal decisions, which btw is her right to be anybody she chooses to be ....

.. since it's her life.

My sister is a first decan Cap, and she's very indivdualistic and unemotional. I used to dislike this, because it seems the only person she cares about is herself, but eventually i get used to it. I think you have to accept that your sister has a life of her own, and there;s nothing you can do about it.

I'm a capricorn female and I've been through that face before. I think she's just in love with him. She's probably having problems of her own with her bf and to her, top priority is the BF. She doesn't realize that, but don't get me wrong, whe I was in this face, I still cared about the family, I was just too busy with the bf and had probs of my own. When we love, it's from the heart and noone else exists.

Just be more patient, she will grow out of it. She might get hurt from this guy because she's abandoning all her friends/family, and she will be coming to you..family and friends, then she will learn from this mistake..cuz I sure did!

Capricorns are fiercely loyal to their mates, and she will take it personally if you focus on him and say negative things about him. Have you tried asking her where this comes from? Is she, perhaps, trying to prove something to him in these situations?

Leave her alone and dont try to help her with her problems. If she is anything like a Cap which she apparently is, then she's already got it figured out. I dont really like help with my problems because I dont need it. I already know what I want to do and have it calculated. Everything else is just a distraction. I never like telling my problems to anyone because it ultimately does not help me. Either the help is just reiterating or off-base. Usually its just a matter of time because Caps will work with their mate as long as we see that they are trying or progressing, even if its slow. If she's been holding in alot leave her alone. We like to be left alone seriously. Outside advice from people who do not understand us just gives us more variables to factor in and overloads us.

My brother is an aquarius and knows what to ask me. Im 27 and hes 23.
He keeps it simple. If I want to talk Ill come to him and he knows that. Otherwise he always knows Im on point and will handle my business. We never really care to talk alot unless we're chiefing. He'll say "yeah". I'll say "I wouldnt do that" TOTAL UNDERSTANDING.
Females may be totally different for obvious reasons. She seems finally free to be an asshole and hang around the people who understand it. We hold in A LOT. We are efficient and do not see the point in a whole bunch of theatrics and drama, bandwagoning, wasting energy, and "pointlessness".

I agree with Sea Siren. WE ARE FIERCELY LOYAL. Our mates are a reflection of our personal tastes and decision making. When you represent a Cap you are his/her representation of what he/she values and respects. It does surprise me like you said in the very first message, that she would put her own rep and integrity in misrepresentation. I did that with a Cancer for 2 years. More than likely shes trying to bring him along into maturity and hes just waaay too ridiculous for her to understand his illogical patterns. BUT, she probably gets through to him sometimes which pushes her to continue.

SuperCap, Capris...I have a similiar problem with my Cap brother...we have been always been thick as theives, since our mother died, we use to watch the game together, smoke blacks and talk...and I mean for hours...yes I'm a female that grew up around a lot of males...anyway...I met my boyfriend in 2002 and 2 years into the relationship, my brother hooks up with this chic, she's a Scrp/Sag...first of all, she was dating our "cousin" (that lived with us and my brother's other rib)first and the only reason they didn't have relations is because he didn't have condoms (he had just had child he didn't want) about three or 4 days later, she's coming over to see my brother talkin' bout she really want to be with him anyways, that's after she found out that the apartment wasn't in my cousin's name and that he had a child...so he gets with her and slowly he changes, with his last girlfriend he wasn't like this at all...he kept his individualism...i tried to warn him but we only got into an argument so I just kept my opinions to myself...and i tried with her until she was beyond standing...so i remain cordial but we weren't going to be tight like i was with his last girlfriend...well...it's 4 years later...I haven't spoken to him in a month...we use to talk 2 to 3 times daily...in the past 6 months he started calling less, and when i did call he acted as if he was sooo tired and always making up excuses for why he was sleeping all the time...(of course i was concerned and ask questions)...so I got tired of it...and just let it be...my phone number hasn't changed so i figured when he remembers he's not sewn to her hip then maybe he'll ring it...

But i can understand what the poster means...because I did sacrifice alot to bring him up after our mom died, he was 11 and my dad was there and not there...for him to turn his back and change up like that...i ain't going to lie it hurts...and i don't want all his attention...he could call me for an hour on Saturday and have a real convo like we use to and it's fine with me but i can feel the fakeness of it when we talk now...and i can't go there...he knows that if this was reversed i'd never put my boyfriend before him...boyfriend/girlfriends come and go but family is suppose to be forever...oh...he married her last year without telling me or our other brother and he's cut off friends like changing socks...any thoughts...

Hey yea, bringing this thread back!

Thanks for the responses and advice on this issue. Recent update, yea i took the advice of 'eh.. just deal'... which is what i've been doing anyway, but its good to hear im not eh only ones whos lost a cap sibling to a wack-job. Scrp1106 your stories really upsetting, honestly i would've jumped at that chick and kicked her far away from my bro if i were u, especially if they dated ur cousin first... thats kinda gross.

Anyway my sisters been recently having a LOT of trouble in her relationship (i.e. she wont leave me alone....) and has been wacking out nonstop. I'm not quite sure what happened but about 2 weeks ago my mom went psycho on her about her bf (she HATES him and his control on my sis) and my sis went to her bf to cheer her up. You'd think a cancer being the most emotional sign would in fact cheer her up... NOPE! he said some crap about wanting to go watch tv and went on to do his own thing. So she screamed and ran out of the house.

After doing this i go to find her guy only to find out 'eh she ran off'.. my natural response 'And you didnt run after her!?'...'what good are you!?'. So i packed my shit and got outside to find her four blocks away from home crying. She walked it off with me and eventually we got hot coco and i made her laugh (she actualy acted like herself for a min) and we walked back for her to kick the crap out of him. I'm not sure how they're doing but now she seems just lost. Yes its true caps are very loyal to those they love, and i've seen her defend his stupidity a thousand times. Shes a fairly introverted person and yea i've come to live with that, and i've attempted talking to her of recent times and it seems to sorta be working. So im happy to say my sister might have gained her sanity back.

I'm still very confused with her actions and im just comming to the conclusion that questioning its kinda pointless. and yes i've noticed a huge difference between the male and female caps... i can handle the males, the females make absolutely no sense!

Btw side note, shes my older sister. Next off P-angel... shut up.

I probably never stated this clearly. I do not have a problem living my life, i down right enjoy it. BUT i do have a problem with someone invading my life and attempting to join in my lifes enjoyment and then belittle or mock me. I do not enjoy watching someone transform into the exact opposite of their original persona and then hear about how bad it is from everyone else. Or shall i say, i'm not gonna stand back and watch my sister screw up and not put in a word. I am in no way trying to 'tell' her what to do, i'm just informing her that her crude behavior to our friends , family and to myself is not appreciated. Next Yes it is her life, just like my life is my own, but regardless we're sisters. Especially with the fact that we live in the same house and will most likely run into each other, theres not 'extreme avoding'. Yes i can avoid her if i choose to and have been doing considering i havent agreed with her personality adjustment, but hey she comes to me for advice. Am i supposed to remove my own opinion from advice given?

No i am not against change in anyway, but i dont see the point of not voicing out and saying theres a problem when i've seen it for a while. It's like when a person is outgoing and cheerful, suddenly becomes crude and heartless along with severve mood swings... i think theres a problem