Hate being vulnerable

Cannot stop thinking ....

Guys why would you reach out to someone after years, made them feel like they were the best thing in their life, how much you missed them and want to get together again. Shared personal stuff, open up about your feelings, made plans for hanging out immediately and in the future. Initiated sex then stop half way through it as "it doesnt feel right/have developed conscience/didn't want just sex". I feel that his emotions took over unexpectedly. He apologized next day for upsetting me and that he doesn't know what to say, sadly since then neither communicated or reacted to my my messages.

And now what...Is it over just like that? Needing time to process? Reach out or not to reach out again? My old feelings were re-ignited so I wished he didn't bother with all this if he wasn't ready to take further steps.

@tiziani lol you are right of course just thought that someone here might have done the same (guys), we caps are so complex no doubt especially the guys.

Thanks Tiziani! I know how to be in or out relationship easily, but I just wasn't ready for this scenario so it will take me some time to calm the emotions again after they were stirred up so much. Just feel frustrated for not having the answers nor knowing what to do which makes me vulnerable.

I blame the full moon. ?

I've been feeling some type of way too. wanting an ex back then not knowing if you are doing what you are supposed to be doing, but still want him.

Now I'm just letting it all flow, feelings, actions, I need to find what I want. I also thought it was just sex, but like @tiziani said, sometimes we just dont know.

@caplove

Yes it was rushed, i tried to slow him down but it was like redemption of the past or he wanted to prove something and now its all treetrunked. I am upset that he did not communicate since, nothing at all yet he knew how it upset me. He came to my life again to apologize and make up then mess everything up again...

So much about mature approach this time lol. I will let him be for sure, I don't do dramas just venting my frustration here

@Aerazo

Sure he can "change his mind/feelings or not know" but given how close and open we always have been some form of communication would have been respectful and gentlemanly, i think thats the worst part. Even sorry it was a mistake, have a good life, never wanna see ya would be something.

Posted by cappiegirl
@Aerazo

Sure he can "change his mind/feelings or not know" but given how close and open we always have been some form of communication would have been respectful and gentlemanly, i think thats the worst part. Even sorry it was a mistake, have a good life, never wanna see ya would be something.

I don't think is that... it seems to me as he is actually running away from his feelings when he is with you. That's why I say we have feelings we don't know what to do with them

@Capz lol yes we are (him and me)

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Posted by cappiegirl
Cannot stop thinking ....

Guys why would you reach out to someone after years, made them feel like they were the best thing in their life, how much you missed them and want to get together again. Shared personal stuff, open up about your feelings, made plans for hanging out immediately and in the future. Initiated sex then stop half way through it as "it doesnt feel right/have developed conscience/didn't want just sex". I feel that his emotions took over unexpectedly. He apologized next day for upsetting me and that he doesn't know what to say, sadly since then neither communicated or reacted to my my messages.

And now what...Is it over just like that? Needing time to process? Reach out or not to reach out again? My old feelings were re-ignited so I wished he didn't bother with all this if he wasn't ready to take further steps.

He realized he didnt know what he wanted and you were collaterial damage. Sorry...

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Yeah i figured, sucks though. I never give second chances but this guy seems to be my cryptonite, walks in my life 12 years later and manages to get me emotionally stirred up again. I really thought we might have a chance build something new on what we had before. It will take time to get him out of the system. I just dread that's exactly when he will try to reach out again.