Posted by MyStarsShine
Just shout at him
"Well you're not as good as the window cleaner"
😂😅🙃
I am a movie buff please say postman.Posted by fyrephish
I think it's a matter of perspective. Virgo women are refined, thinking things through on a granular level and teasing out what won't work. But this is for everything that they do, all of the time. It's innate and can also be exhaustive. So when speaking, what comes across is the simplified version which is short and to the point. It's with the purpose of fulfilling a goal, no emotional thought involved. So for people who may not operate in the same space, this can come across as cold, detached and mean. The reality is that Virgo women are very loving, caring people, but it's shown in ways that are not conventionally associated with love, affection, and intimacy. This is why I think Virgo women are seen as bossy. We just need the thing to get done.Period. I'm a Virgo moon btw.
Sorry but the tone and the delivery matters more than the good intention plus people cannot read your thoughts so thry dont know your reasoning, no you are not seen as bossy as you say if you talk bossy you are mean and bossy.
And if you took the time to talk to people about your reasoning they might disagree with you on what the dedired result is. And expecting that people want or should want your result is presumptous and overbearing not caring. And therefore telling people whatthe rught goal Iis how they treetrunk and what to do to acvomplish YOUR DEsIRED OUTCOME in a concise is bossy and mean. Own your bad sides dont explain it away.Posted by Undine
"Do I go back into past memories to win the war against my mom?"
You can't win the war. Because you didn't actually take part in one. You were born a prisoner. You had no rights. Not even the right to complain for being abused. Fighting or not, made little difference.
Your "job" was to get the hell out of there. Be free again.
It wasn't your war. Please understand that and get out. It wasn't even personal. It could have been anyone else in your place. It's not because you were sickly! A normal parent would have loved you and protected you even more. Your mother was not normal.
Thank you so much. You change the way I think about this problem.
eah my mother was not normal, I keep forgetting that. I ate dinner at a friends place I started puking, she picked up but didnt speak to me at all cause she felt humiliated. On the way home she had to pull over cause I had to puke again,
she yrlled me to hurry up and get in the car. I had convos with her recently she is still not compassionate even though shr became a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst. She trains medstudents. She likes roleplays where she plays a patient who is dying and the student have to deal with it.
Some cried. I dont know what to think of that. Thats something I gotta explore how she is not normal cause I kinda fet into stockholm syndrome and agree with everything she says when I am around her.Posted by Undine
I can partially relate. My mum had two healthy and well behaved children, yet she appeared to be "overwhelmed" by everything, from her job as a teacher, to her marriage, to her being a mother. She was a malign narcissist. Father, grandmother and I...her scapegoats.
I don't seek any trigger for those memories though. For years after I left home, the smallest contact with her would anger and upset me, for hours afterwards. It reached a point when I broke contact with her for a few years. It was a good thing to do, since it practically reset our relationship. I don't even feel the anger any longer. This is something I recommend you do.
Also, I promised myself I would not let anyone abuse, belittle, or gaslight me, ever again.
Did you ever have therapy for your "inability to get out"?
I am probay going to do that? I talked to my mom and she straight up told me she knows she might be toxic and she doesnt feel positive emotions when she thinks of me.Posted by Redbull
This seems kind of deep for dxp. But I guess something Tauruses can recognize. I too watch a lot of yt right now different stuff and while yeah I still think about past stuff Im better at moving forward now as Im somewhat older. For me location and change of scenery has a lot to do with it been through owning 2 houses even moved to a whole new city. Somehow it really automatically leads to not dwelling on "back there" because its so new. So it kind of helped change me. Now Im back where grew up and its like a lotof it is just seeing the same places and being reminded of things so that part gets minimized/eliminated when not here. Thats one example of a simple/automatic though not necessarily fast or easy way to experience freedom and change perspective.
I saw the codepedency thread and people opened up and replied a lot so I hoped this thread will be accepted as well.
Same thing I moved away as well, now I am thinking about moving back did you get a new social circle? Or did you started where you left off?Posted by kreol
You’re a fixed sign, Taurus at that. I’m one too. We simply stay stuck on our feelings at times. Seeking out every morsel as fuel
The familiar feelings appear cathartic but it’s an indulgence unless you’re the doing the work of untangling yourself. Seek therapy if you’re able to or at the very least talk it out with a trusted confidant and also have that dialogue with yourself. If possible speak with your mother.
The best advice I have been given regarding this simply was to let go of things which no longer serve you. Ask yourself what do you gain by holding on to these trigger pulls, how does it help you move forward and progress
New experiences triggering memories - remind yourself of where you are, stay in the present and understand that your perception isn’t reality. You are not your emotions. Observe them, let them wash over you like a tempestuous wave.
Seeking out trigger states is like going into the eye of the storm but you’re not meant to stay there, you’re meant to come out the other side. Perhaps you overly identify with these feelings so much that now this has become your identity. Maybe not but something to consider. You are not your trauma, you are lot more than what you have suffered no matter how crucial it has been for your self-awareness and well being.
Taueus cannot justlet go. And its a subconscious pull I dont want to be miserable. I like to think I have a goof intuition if a fightvis worth fighting for I hold onto it. Cause I know this subconscious dilemmas hold me back.
I feel unproductive when i watch yt to suppress the states maybe I have to let the waves just wash over me cause thats what taurus do. I also never fought back I refused everything. I did talk to her, she became a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst to figure whete she went wrong, she is still not empathetic preaches the same preach and thinks her kmowledge makes her opinion more valid.
Can anybody relate to that? I had a yraumatic childhood, I was sickly my mom was overwhelmed and turned into a tyrant, now things trigger old memories, but I actually seek out trigger states, and once I am in the state I cant get out, and watch yt to numb myself.
Why this pull, why the inability to get out
of there? Do I go back into past memories to win the war against my mom?
Yeah I was open with my first fling a libra chick, cause she was very friendly.
Unfortunately I took it for granted and
stopped controlling my lesser behaviors
I even used the lword prematurely.
She was either thinking I was whiny or
I just made her uncomfortable cause
she just said one sentence about herself: I was sexually abused. That stunned me, made my problems insignificant.
Maybe they can't take a joke from you?
Whatever the reason is.- I was going to post this in my tears of joy thread but you are always cool aunts and you often look like her.
Nobody mentioned Aries yet. They deserve happiness too, whats their match?Posted by Sunsetvirgo
Postein bed) by ParkourlerPosted by Sunsetvirgo
No toxiitity ?
Out of alllll the signs, Virgo would be most peaceful with a Taurus.
I could be wrong but didnt you write something like I can picture a taurus man looking fondly at his cancer woman fixing a meal?click to expand
Yup!! But for Virgo, out of alllll the signs, I think Taurus would be best for us. Taurus’s best is with cancer though
Lmao idk if that made sense. What I’m trying to say is that the most peaceful for Virgo is a Taurus. The most peaceful for a Taurus is cancer. If that makes more sense
Taurus would neutralize virgos neuroticism
but virgo is too rational to baby taurus,
but taurus would connect with virgos rationality which would give also peace. Taurus would have to be okay with a modern relationship. Even though Virgos are HUGE givers(esspecially in bed). Cancer would baby taurus which is needed. So one ends up soaking up the craziness (not sure about that) making the partner relaxed. I think it comes down to taurus craving nurturing and a more traditional relationship or not.Posted by Sunsetvirgo
No toxicity ?
Out of alllll the signs, Virgo would be most peaceful with a Taurus.
I could be wrong but didnt you write something like I can picture a taurus man looking fondly at his cancer woman fixing a meal?
