He Changed the Locks ? (Vent)

? And that's fine because its his house but ?..

Well, before my step-dad changed the locks, he (all of a suddenly) thought it was important to keep the chain-lock on throughout the day. When I lived there, he only bothered with the chain lock when he was going to sleep. He made sure the regular lock was on but not the chain lock ? most of the time I put the chain lock on the door.

Also, the new lock is sort of confusing to me ? I mean by the way you are suppose to lock it. So I would turn it and walked away believing it was locked. Well, I guess I wasn't turning the latch correctly because my mother told me that I left it unlocked. The changed the locks without telling me, and no one bothered to show me how to lock the door (the latch is very weird, trust me), they just laughed when I realized the door was unlocked. Anyway, I was really irresponsible for leaving the front door unlocked and I apologized for it. However, I should've known that would've been good enough. As a result (of my own carelessness), I'm banned from the house if my mom isn't there ? which means if she's working. If I'm in a crunch and need to use the internet for school or anything, if she's not there, then I can't do it. Her work hours are opposite of mine, when I'm in class or off, she's working and when I'm working, she's off.

Keep in mind; I'm the one whose paying for the internet ?he isn't ? 😢

Why am I paying for something that I can't even use when I need it? My mom convinced me to keep it on and I did, but now I regret it because I can't use it when I need it?

Is he a Cap man? If he is he is jealous of you and your computer usage. It does something to him.

sounds like the biggest problem is being under his thumb and being in an unhealthy enviroment. my suggestion would to be to pool as much of your resources into finding a roomate or some where else. because in a situation like that i can almost guarantee moral will fall the longer you wait.

Is he a Cap man? If he is he is jealous of you and your computer usage. It does something to him.

Hi Krobe,

No, he's an Aquarius with a taurus moon.

Hi Genome,

No, I have already moved out. He was already mean before I moved but he changed the locks after I moved.

hmm, then stop paying for the internet for him 🙂. if she needs it then the terms should be that you can use it when you need it too. i'm guessing its not that easy, though. but when people want to get sh***y, let them wallow in their own outhouse.

You are right Gen, its not that easy. I'm thinking about getting the internet thorugh my phone -- I have a notebook PC so it shouldn't be a problem. I'm worried about the price though ...

well, i say discuss it with your mother some more. i've forgotten to lock the door sometimes, i wouldn't be surprised that he has too. it sounds more like he didn't want you in there to begin with. I understand the love for a relative, but nothing should warrant you taking abuse from someone. (meant you loving your mother but not putting up with his bs.) hmm i know a girl who has her internet through her cellphone. its slow, but i think she pays like 15 $ a month. if you want i can ask her how she does it.

That would be awesome if you did Gen 🙂 You don't have to do it right away, just when you get around to it. Thats so nice of you 🙂

Yes, I will talk to my mom about it. The funny thing is that he nor she uses the internet ... I do 😢

then it makes no sense to keep it there. I'll get back to you when i can about the cell phone internet. its for you, its your money, your work effort, therefore your right to give and take as you please. if she wants it there for other reasons, then i would thing negotiations must be had. but why the hell pay for something then have to kiss ass to use it.

but why the hell pay for something then have to kiss ass to use it.

Thats how I feel ... I really need to work on the relationship between me and my step father, we can't go one like this 😢

hmm, agreed it doesn't sound healthy. Probably have more patience than i do, i'd have gone across his head or something. but i don't take people messing with me that well.

My friend isn't available atm, but like i said i'll get back to you about it soon as i get it.

Yeah Aqi, when I was moving, I left some papers on my bed because I didn't have anywhere to put them. When I came back to get them, they were gone. He put them in a trash bag and they were all going to be thrown away. My mom saved it for me.

eh, old men have trouble with new things new ideas, and more importantly not being needed.
empty threats keep them going. sometimes its stress, but i find old men usually very difficult to get along with inside 'their domain'. can be anything from a fight from weeks before, or just doing something in a way they don't want. not saying that can't like or love them, just have to let them think they are the boss sometimes.

appy, are you sure he isn't on meds?

Prime,

He's on blood pressure meds, but he hardly takes those because he doesn't like taking meds. He has thyroid problems just like me, but he let his meds run out a while ago. For some reason, he will not go back to the docter to get anymore. My mom tells doesn't want me to say anything, but he's always on my case about going to the docter.

So yeah, he takes medication.

Could he be jealous of your relationship with your mom?

I don't know Aqi... its really funny. If he thinks I've awaken my mom when she sleeping, he will start yelling at me and threatens to throw me out -- thats before I moved.

The day after I went out with my virgo friend (remember the Hangover thread), I had to go over to see my mom because I needed to see how much she wanted to be paid on her bills and I owed her money, so I wanted to give it to her. Haha, I vaguely remember that day (I was a little out of it). But I do remember him putting me out saying that I will NOT getting over my hangout -- I guess he could tell that I had too much to drink the night before. So he did put me out of the house and told me that I needed to go pass out at my apartment.

My mom thought he was harsh, but she said that it was his home and that I needed to listen. His an Aqua guy, she's a pisces woman -- guess who has more control.

That's weird cappie, because aquarians are usually a LOT more understanding and concerned with others' well-being

Not him 😢 One minute he acts like he gives a damn, then the next minute he acts like he doesn't 😢

I barely speak to him anymore because I'm so disappointed in how are relationship has turned.

He should be the loving father figure, but instead he's being an ass. I would totally avoid him. And I mean TOTALLY. Your mom has chosen to be married to him and live with him and put up with that, but you shouldn't have to.

Yeah, I know my Mom feels differently. She thinks that if we are apart, our relationship will get better. Whatever, she just doesn't want to look at the issues that are very obvious -- especially with him.

Its funny, she will point out all my faults but try and make excuses for his. Haha, and when she does defend me, she acts like she doing some noble deed or something. ~sigh~

A thyroid problem. A lot of hormones are produced or get influenced by the thyroid, I wonder if that could be a part of the problem. a hormonal imbalance.

I have one two -- hyperthyroidism (my thyroid is normal now 🙂) And I take my med like I'm suppose to so my mood swings don't get out of hand.

That or, he just doesn't like you. Not like he hates your guts, but more like a biological primal thing. You are someone else's kid, not of his sperm.

OH BELIEVE me Primegen, there a HUGE backstory with my Aqua Step-dad and my Scorpio father. If I were to ever post that on DXP, it will throw everyone for a loop! Well, at least it through me for a loop when I understood with was going on.

Bears kill the young of rival bears so as to mate with the female bears, you know I always wondered if people do a little bite of that too but in emotional and verbal abuse.

::: tears :::

That so not fair 😢

Well it is just a theory, not saying that's how it is, but often I wonder. I know if it were me, I would have a hard time treating the kid as my own, especially if the real Dad is around.

Oh is that what you meant? Okay, I get it 🙂

Well, my dad passed away in 1999 so my step father doesn't have that aspect in his life. Actually, he passed away right before I officially met my step-Dad. I met him probably a few weeks after my father passed -- that was so hard to do. However, I got over the past, my aqua step-dad just keeps haunting me with it.

Yep, I told you it was a long story ...

Thank you so much SimpleMe 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

I so appreciate your understanding 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

The fact that he's an Aqua with a Taurus moon may be the problem too ... a saggie guy I was seeing had a Taurus moon and my gemini uncle had a Taurus moon -- they can be meaner then some rattle snakes.

When he says that you woke your mom.....you should contradict it heavily and then also slip it in that she is YOUR mom and you have more rights over her

I've done that in the past but my my didn't really help in the situation ... which sucked 😢

Actaully, I had a talk with her yesterday how he treats me -- whether she wanted to her it or not (she didn't of course). She finally stated that she doesn't like the way he treats me but she doesn't know what to do about it. So she rather have us have no relationship with each other but she doesn't want me to change towards her.

But ... I can't help it, things will never be cool if things don't get settled.

I also told her that she should already know my general personality -- I never intentionally mean to hurt anyone and if I do, I try to make up for it immediately. But, he does things out of spite (😢) and my Mon knows this.

I'm think I will distance myself from both of them after a while. I need to learn more on my own anyway.

I'm not that scared 😉

I hate that dr. hyde junk. soon as the person they are trying to impress leaves, boom, you get hit with bad attitude.

I think it sounds as if your mother is just scared of being alone, so she tries not to anger or isolate him. the few aqua's ive met are exceedingly quick to disappear.

That's exactly whats wrong. She already discussed the fact that she never wants to be alone. She thinks since I've moved out that I will abandon her soon, and thats SOOOO not true, but I don't like all this damn tension either 😢 😢 😢

She has a libra moon, which doesn't help her personality at all 😢

Being a pisces female, it doensn't help much ...

hey i have a libra moon! i hate you now, go away! Hmm, just keep with her, and maybe distance your self from him.

HEY, I thought you had a virgo moon —

😄 LOL, caught you 😛

you can't catch me, i'm too wild and free! *lets nipple slip* I'm so fun! Why the blazes did you think i'd have a virgo moon?

you can't catch me, i'm too wild and free! *lets nipple slip* I'm so fun! Why the blazes did you think i'd have a virgo moon?

You don't ——

Well, ooooopies 😛 What is your moon? Is it really libra?

check me profile, or last time i trust a pisces thread or something 😛.

well that moon explains it!

Yeah, Lady M,

Those Taurus moons are something else. The Saggie guy I was seeing had a Taurus moon and he was mean!!! Thats why we aren't together because of his meanness -- it finally came out when I didn't do what he said.

Hi SimplyMe 🙂

Yes, my mom says she not scared of him, but sometimes it seems like its hard for her to tell him certain things. I hope I can get her to become stronger, but ...

I don't know

it finally came out when I didn't do what he said.

Next time comply and be happy 😛. jk, jk.

also said scared of losing him, not scared of him. change and being alone is often considered scarier than abuse/unhappiness. but either way might work i suppose.