Building A ... ?

Career or My Life?

I finally need to decide which is more important :-|

I feel that if I stay in school too long, it will interfere with all my plans beyond school ? such as having a marriage and a family, and traveling to my designated places ? its in my nature to explore and I feel like I'm missing out on the whole world.

My father always said that I cannot have both and be happy ? so now I need to make a decision on which is more important. Building my career or building my life?

Currently (just in case I screw up) I have 2 more semesters before I transfer to get my undergraduate degree. My area of study is still biology -- preferably biotechnology, but I'm unsure which field to go into.

Here are some professions I find interesting:

Clinical Laboratory Technologist/ Technician
Biological Scientists -- biologist
Physician Assistant
Teacher -- I do believe I'd make a horrible teacher

But again, I have to intern first... and that will take time, so much time and attention. Will all this education really be worth it after graduation?

now i have my degree and people i work with are having to do it while working etc. i got it over and done.

Thats amazing! I guess thats why I'm working two jobs, because I'm trying to get everything done before I have to start working a full-time one.

i also struggled with the idea that education was important. i first got a certificate in word processing, then went for an associates in office management, then a bachelors, then switched to a bs in business, then got an mba later. i've never regretted any of it.

I have one certificate in word processing, the other in basic microsoft office operation and the one more in Microsoft Access efficiency. But now, I'm working on my Associates in Science -- this one takes time because of all the science I have to take along with math. I'm using this degree for transfer. I received my Associates in Liberal Arts already -- only because I met all the requirements.

Don't worry Bullerina, you respectfully disagree with my dad all you want -- I did it all the time 😄

Seriously, he always wanted me to be a doctor but he also caution that I never get married. Why? Because all a guy would want me for is my money and what I could offer him.

Just because you have a career doesn't mean you have to fully immerse yourself in it. You will have time for a personal life.

I feel thats what I have to do if I want to be good at my what I do. I understand where you coming from, but I just feel that if I'm not mentally connected, then I can't do it.

I hope you are right Leowithcapandannoyed 🙂

Envision yourself in your later years; does not having anyone to share it with [husband, kids] matter?

But my husband and I can divorce too? My children will grow up and my their own lives and then where will I be.

My goodness, I didn't even think about that way ...

If you want to be a doctor, just go ahead and be one.

Its not that simple ...

Hi Aqua,

Yeah, I've been thinking about teacher for a few months now. Ever since I started working with my advisor, he's been giving different options other then what I've been so focus. Not to say I can't do it, but there's just more alternatives.

...well i don't know about you, but I would not want to be left in that situation as so many women are. now is the time to put yourself first, because when you get married and have kids, you'll be putting others first for the rest of your life and you may resent not doing something for yourself first.

My grandmother was left in that situation and my mother suffered for it. So thats why I'm at a crossroads because its really stupid for me to think this way -- being a female in the 21 century.

why not?

Because of the following reasons:

1. I don't have that much confidence in myself to go to med school -- this may sound chessy but I'm being honest. I really don't have that much faith in myself. Its not that I don't think I'm capable, but what if something goes array and then I'm not able to finish. Thats years of work gone just like that. Plus, my family is not rich and the ones what have a few riches are not willing to help me through school ...

2. I don't know if I'm that good with people. I mean sure, people say I'm caring but you have to be more then that to be a good physician.

3. I'm not good with bring bad news -- sorry, but I would be really horrible with stuff like that.

-you need to understand that what your aptitude is.

-then you need to know in which field you field the most comfortable.

-then you need to know how familiar you are with the field and its working job dynamics.

then decide which field you want.

Independence opens up opportunities in everything including love. You would be surprised to see the choices you have after you have more life experiences and financially independent. You can afford to 'choose' to give up your career to form a family later in life if you so desire. On the other hand, if you have to depend on a man financially, the choice is then not yours.

See, and thats something I dread more then death ... having to depend on someone else to take care of me. OMG, but if I chose to focus on my life first ... then I will be giving up my freedom of choice too ...

cappysweetie, you worry too much .... I haven't meet many doctors who are good in all three... those sound like excuses to me

Is that what they are Sagigoat? 😢 Uh oh ...

Actually, what brought all this on was my grandmother. She was talking about my age and why I hadn't found someone to settle down with yet. She's done this a few times but this time she was a little more serious. She is all for education, but she also realizes that I'm getting old too ... and my other female relatives have mates of some sort and I don't.

My Step-dad even mensioned what was I going to do with my degree after my college years are over ... he pointed out that I don't have long.

Well, I definitely see you in a helping profession of some kind--you have the soul for it.

Thank you very much Aqua ... but, Oh dear ... I've been running from the health profession because of varies reasons. My brain would pop under all that pressure.

but you like hitting men,in that case.hmm.maybe you should rethink😛

on a serious note,read again what i wrote.

but you like hitting men,in that case.hmm.maybe you should rethink

LOL!!! See Devil knows why I should focus on being a biologist 😉

I'm sorry everyone, I may delete this post because it was more of me venting my frustrations.

I can get a tide emotional of stuff and I need some place to air it all out.

Doing that darn "self-report" yesterday was really a wake-up call because I was basically planning my 'academic' life. My advisor will review it in September. My goodness, if he hard me talking like this ... it just wouldn't be good.

My goal was to get a better prespective on things before I made any decisions that I may regret. Sometimes I do things without thinking them all the way through first.

I have good friends who have an undergraduate degree in biology. Unless you have a master's degree in biology, usually folks with only the undergrad end up working as lab technicians, testing products, and such. Most of them went on to graduate programs to study business or improve on their bio background.

Really? I knew that an undergrad wouldn't be enough, but I wanted to intern first before getting my masters' degree in biotechnology ... what do I do about internships?

I am starting something on my own with a friend for fun

How ambitious! Can I ask what it is? Does it have anything to do with bio 😛

So I should intern while in school—? OOOPSIE! Well duh! Hopefully that won't be too difficult.

i think you are not feeling comfortable enough in going for med.

i think you should go for >>biologist

with a ed u ma cation like you have you should be able to get work and travel the world go for it

I get that ALL THE TIME from both my dad and my grandmas. I just tell them that I'll do it when and if I feel like doing it. I know that just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't mean that i have to.

Its cool to know that I'm not alone in feeling imposed upon. All my brothers have kids expect for myself -- however, I want atleast a stable relationship before I bring "little" people into this world. My brothers' relationships were anything but stable.

with a ed u ma cation like you have you should be able to get work and travel the world go for it

Well if it isn't James Tate, hello stranger 🙂

(I do secretly want to get knocked-up though. I suppress it well.)

LOL!!!

don't worry too much cappysweetie just follow your heart and you will know what to do. don't worry about getting married late. who knows? you may look younger after 10 years ..it's not uncommon for a cap woman to look 10+ years younger you know

If I still look good enough to get some dude, then being a cap girl isn't too bad 🙂