Help, friendship or something else?

I've known this cap guy for quite a few time on the internet. We met in person through mutual friends three months ago. We hit it off right away as friends. We have many interests in common. I think I'm starting to like him... My question is, does he like me too as a woman or just a friend? I prefer to stay friends than to ruin everything... He calls me everyday and we exchange sms. We talk everyday online. He started coming to my house for a coffee or movie... He invites me to go to football games and exhibitions... He is sweet and nice to me. When we start talking, there's no end to it.
I know he had a lot of flings, he told me. He says that all of that is over and that he is searching for the right girl.
Are we both too shy or am I being foolish?
on the other hand, he "runs away" a lot... He stays at home alone and won't come to meet me. He says he needs to be alone. He never invited me to his home. He already knows my parents, brother and friends. I only met a couple of friends.
We are both the same age. I am an aquarius with libra rising and he is a capricorn with virgo rising.
I prefer a strong friendship with him than to have a fling and ruin everything, but I feel like I am missing out on something.
He never made a move on me... He just says I'm pretty and that he loves me, as a friend, I guess.
Any thoughts?

I never dated a capricorn before. My most meaningful relationship was with a pisces and pisces are romantic and pretty honest and straightforward. I always understood what he wanted. I'm puzzled by my capricorn friend. On saturday he couldn't meet me because he was with some friends, that's fine by me. I said it was ok. He called me two times apologizing and asking if I was mad at him. I told him everything was fine, but it sounded like he did not believe me. He kept asking if I was mad at him and if I still liked him. Do caps need a lot of reassurance? I told him I missed him, but that it was ok. Then he said I had so many friends that I didn't need his company. What?
He gave the first steps, he asked me out, asked for my number and things like that, but he always says we are friends. I want to respect that, as an Aquarius, I cherish friendship above all.

His natal chart?

I know you are right, I should wait and see and enjoy. I'm just afraid of creating false hopes.

As long as you're not having sex then you're not in a fling with him but once sex happens and you have not advised him what your standards are/terms and conditions are BEFORE developing a sexual relationship with a man then most likely you'll find yourself in a fling. So if you want to stay out of the fling category no sex and don't have sex until you are sure about what's going on between the 2 of you.

" He just says I'm pretty and that he loves me, as a friend,"

As an Aqua myself I prioritize friendship over other relationships, this can be a huge flaw when it comes to men and love, you can easily fall deeply in love with your friend but that isn't the same thing for a Capricorn male, when men say I love you like/as a friend it's like the kiss of death, it's his way of saying I'm not that into you...His feelings could change of course.

Don't settle for friendship if he try to become intimate with you or you'll get deeply disappointed and hurt by the Cap...

Make what you want clear before getting intimate, it's important you don't mix up and confuse love with friendship in an Aquarius female kind of way. We Aqua's cherish friendship, an Aqua can easily fall passionately in love with our friends but that doesn't mean other signs are the same way.

Something to take into account

True, I need to become friends with someone first in order to develop something else. And it hurts when things don't work out because I also lose "my best friend". I prefer to stay good friends with him than to be foolish and ruin things. By ruining things I mean to talk about love or something like that. He puzzles me. He calls me everyday but he doesn't accept all my social invitations. He invites to all sorts of things and he postpones events If I can't make it but he never made any kind of physical advance, just shy, innocent hugs.
Time will tell... Or not. 🙂

Just out of curiosity, charts.
Girl: Sun Aquarius 11.48 Ascendant Libra 25.31
Moon Taurus 3.59 II Scorpio 23.30
Mercury Aquarius 12.09 R III Sagittarius 25.27
Venus Capricorn 25.22 R IV Aquarius 0.03
Mars Libra 16.59 V Pisces 3.16
Jupiter Scorpio 9.30 VI Aries 1.57
Saturn Libra 22.15 R VII Aries 25.31
Uranus Sagittarius 4.02 VIII Taurus 23.30
Neptune Sagittarius 26.12 IX Gemini 25.27
Pluto Libra 26.56 R Midheaven Leo 0.03
Lilith Sagittarius 14.23 XI Virgo 3.16
Asc node Cancer 22.30 XII Libra 1.57


Boy: Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Capricorn 9.57 Ascendant Virgo 19.20
Moon Leo 0.53 II Libra 14.33
Mercury Capricorn 29.28 III Scorpio 14.23
Venus Capricorn 24.01 IV Sagittarius 17.42
Mars Aquarius 16.59 V Capricorn 21.26
Jupiter Sagittarius 1.11 VI Aquarius 22.23
Saturn Scorpio 2.54 VII Pisces 19.20
Uranus Sagittarius 6.56 VIII Aries 14.33
Neptune Sagittarius 27.16 IX Taurus 14.23
Pluto Libra 29.14 Midheaven Gemini 17.42
Lilith Capricorn 21.35 XI Cancer 21.26
Asc node Cancer 4.11 XII Leo 22.23

LOL@*ties a bell on tiki*

I'm scared...Is that good or bad?

I have no news, pretty much the same. But deep down I really think he just wants a friendship and I will respect that. It was my birthday, he showed up, of course and was one of the last ones to leave. Last week I went to his house to pick him up and met his dog. I love animals and he respects that. This week we have lots of things scheduled together, movie, coffee and an exhibition. If I don't call him, I know he will text me in the afternoon. But he gives a few hints to show he is just my friend. He says I'm too good for him. I will keep appreciating what I've got.

One more question though. Shall I always be available? I mean, I had a gemini boyfriend who loved when I played hard to get and loved when I wasn't always available. Like, should I ignore him for a while or keep on texting him? Actually, one more thing I would like to know, are capricorn jealous?

Hum, I don't consider myself jealous... I think.

Ok, bad news, he has a crush on a friend of ours. So we will stay friends and that's it. 🙂

I guess I've misinterpreted thinks.

You want friendship right? I think you said you prefer friendship well it appears that's exactly what you have, try not to question every little interaction, so far it's friends and per my understanding nothing really has changed.

FYI men that are deeply attracted and want a particular woman don't say things like you are too good for me. You are too good for me is his way of saying I like you like a friend, you don't get me stiff down below j/k but seriously it's his way of saying he isn't interested in anything romantic with you.

I warned you before that being an Aqua you could end up confusing his friendliness because friendship is very important to us Aqua's as something romantic, Aqua's can easily tie in romantic feelings with a friend but that doesn't mean that for everyone else.

"One more question though. Shall I always be available? I mean, I had a gemini boyfriend who loved when I played hard to get and loved when I wasn't always available. Like, should I ignore him for a while or keep on texting him? Actually, one more thing I would like to know, are capricorn jealous?"

So make up your mind. Do you want friendship? Or do you want a real relationship (commitment and all)? What do you want?

on the one hand you say friendship and now you're asking questions as if you want to develop a REAL RELATIONSHIP outside of being his friend. Can you see how this can be confusing for a man?

Jealous?? Making him jealous won't work, he'll dump you friendship and all, don't play games. Don't try to be less available to manipulate him into expressing/demonstrating how feels, he'll see through all of that.

If you want him, tell him, the ball is in his court, if he continues to show up in your life then he's interested but if I had to guess, he's not interested in anything romantic with you but he likes you, there's no real pressure so he feels comfortable.

Signs he's not interested in you romantically, he always says you're friends, you haven't met his family, he says things like you're too good for me, men don't make these kind of comments with women they WANT, they want to get, have romance and sex with.

Tread carefully, you really can eff this up if you mix the 2 up (friendship-romance), let him make a move, that's the only way you'll know so until then stay friends, be friendly and stay BALANCED emotionally, meaning don't confuse friendship with love or you'll get hurt. Of course you can tell him you like him and want to be with him ro

I warned you that you would cross/mix friendship with love, you are falling in love with your friend, REMEMBER this isn't what's going on with him, he's not an Aqua, we Aqua's do this but other signs don't behave this way. So be careful with your emotions.

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Of course you can tell him you like him and want to be with him romantically but you run the risk of being rejected, I wouldn't suggest you go there unless you can handle rejection.

You are right in everything you said. I do want his friendship and now that I know, I won't confuse things anymore. If I fall in love with him, I will retreat. And I wasn't trying to make him jealous, I hate that, he acted strange when I told him I was going to have a coffee with an ex, he acted like he was actually jealous.

And he keeps on puzzling me, he says he has a crush on that friend and he laughs like he's joking. I don't think he's joking. Then he says he has something important to tell me and that one day, he will find the courage to say it to me.
he send me a Valentine's day message... Well, I'm confused myself...But I would never declare myself, I'm incapable of such a thing.

Well maybe you can sort it out with him but to make this simple, if he hasn't ASKED you to be his girlfriend then dismiss all the flirting if he's flirting, don't pay attention to comments like I have something to tell you, leaving you hanging on the edge of your seat only to never say anything to you about it, that's sort of playing with your head, look he can't do this to you, lead you on if you don't allow him to.

You can play this game all day, the whole puzzle me game, just cut it out, stop feeding into his comments and then turn around and use up your energy trying to figure it out.

You are confused because you took the friendship route, you went into it like a lot of Aqua girls go into it, we attempt to establish a friendship FIRST only to get STUCK because somewhere in between the friendship you've fell in love and you're still stuck in the friend zone, being an Aqua myself I know what it feels like to besucked into all the head games and guessing games with a man, we sit around hoping he GET IT, get that he has to move us out of the friend zone and into love which works some of the time but not all of the time, some guys get it, some don't.

Had you not went the friendship route, spending a lot of time with him, driving to his home and picking him up and just overall doing girlfriend stuff with him you wouldn't be so confused, had you allowed him to COURT you, as in take you out, pick you up, introduce YOU to his friends and his family FIRST you wouldn't be so confused.

Nothing wrong with being a guys friend if you don't feel anything romantic for him and there is nothing wrong with being a guys friend FIRST before things move into being romantic but you must stay grounded and don't get it twisted up with love and then use up your energy sitting around wondering what this means and what that means and why he said what he said that way and brought up that girl and why he did that, that'll drive you mad.

I think at this point your heart is in it so there is no going back, so maybe you should start dating men that aren't your friend and lean back and all of the time you spend with this guy so you won't get it mixed up anymore. Dating a friend and hoping he take a hint and want you in a romantic way is confusing, stay out of that lane.

I said...and all of the time you spend

and I meant to say

and slow down on the time you spend with this guy