How open are you?

Fellow Capricorns, how are you with your friends and associates? I would assume one would be very open with family and lovers, but as a Cap (myself) I tend to be typically not that open. I rarely show my inner self to people, even friends. They need to be on the "bestie" level for that and they need also to be very open with me. And need to have opened up first. Curious how are all you? How you figure who and how open you'll be?

Nah, I'm not that open at all. I don't really trust anyone.

@FrenchKpricorn
LOL well that's really your own definition isn't it?!

So you've never showed your innerself to anyone?

I'm pretty guarded most of the time.

I don't think it has a lot to do with rising. I'm a gem rising, so I appear to be very open. But when you try to go beyond that rising, the walls are thick...while I still take advantage of my rising to seem open.

I'm very guarded with everything unless it's family or lover or best friends i got to be very comfortable and i have to trust them

I have a ton of cap friends...all cold as ice to everyone else but cool as a cucumber and open with me

My female cap ace...is so sensitive and can be very petty...but the world would never know that as she is super composed and ice queen....we talk often about her personal life and etc...how being succesful and accomplished is such a big deal to her and how it bothers her when other ppl excel or exceed sooner than she does...

My male cappies are interesting to...they feel everything and have such deep feelings about so much....I'm always giving advice to a Male cappy about a women...interesting to be on the other side of the guarded and iced out aura

I'm a fellow earth sign very candid and very real..hence my posting style...I think cappys appreciate real authentic ppl and they can sniff out fake ppl...I would never be in a relationship with a cappy but friendship works...

So to answer the question is a cap respects that your real authentic and genuine they'll be the same with you...if not you don't exist to them lol simple.

Im surrounded by earth signs. Virgo sister, Taurus "whatever you want to call it," Capricorn best friend.

I use to talk about my anxiety and all my other issues with my Virgo sister, but once she revealed that my issues were rubbing off on her and she was getting nervous in similar situations, I stopped. I now talk to her to get another pov on things, an often better more thoughtout and well rounded pov. Although Im older, I really respect her logic. I can get pretty extreme in my thoughts and feelings and she reels it back in and lets me know its not nearly that serious. She makes a lot of sense and I love it. She also coaches me a bit in social situations. She is not intimidated by people and can work a situation to her advantage. I simply cannot so I often need her.

The Taurus sees a different side of me, of course, but I find I reveal more of my feelings to him. I didn't really have the tell him about my anxiety because he sensed it not long after we met. He even gave me vitamins to help with it. Im still a bit cautious with telling him everything, like what all goes on inside out of fear of the energy rubbing off on him, but he's the one with a listening ear. He listens to me ramble much more than the Virgo and Cap. Im also not afraid to share anything with him...good, bad, and ugly, Im just cautious when I feel negative or anxious, but he's the one that knows the most about how I feel. He can see through me in some ways, but he made an interesting point once that I only tell him what Im comfortable sharing, so idk.

The Cap sees more of the real me, in a sense that Im nicer around the Virgo and Taurus. My sister thinks I can get mean, the Taurus probably occasionally senses it or feels it, the Cap actually sees it. I just don't care to conceal that side of myself around him because he's mean. We just say a lot of mean things to eachother lol. I can talk to him about everything though, but on another level. We can get into different kind of conversations, mostly about life in general. We have debates, and I guess he sees a more mental side of me, or the deeper side. Neither of us get emotional with eachother but we'll try to understand or dissect a feeling.

I still think I need more people to talk to and share myself with.

People mistake my bluntness for openness. But there's exactly one person who knows my feelings as I'm feeling them and events as they happen because he makes me safe enough to express myself and doesn't judge me or hit me with the "I told you so." Everyone else gets a slightly amended version of events, especially if the story ends with egg on my face. I just don't trust my female friends or family to be ALL the way on my side when shit hits the fan, because in my mind, they slightly relish in my shortcomings.

Like for example, I was involved with a guy for a few months that the majority of my friends knew about because I talked about him a lot. When they realized it had been a while since I mentioned him I just nonchalantly said I dropped him because he has too many issues for me to deal with and left it at that. Only ONE friend knows the whole play by play of what REALLY happened, because I felt he would be the only one who would let me cry in his arms with snot running out my nose without calling me weak or stupid. I would never let anybody else see that because those type of incidents become examples for them to use when they want to point out something negative regarding my character.

Posted by Cappedoff
Fellow Capricorns, how are you with your friends and associates? I would assume one would be very open with family and lovers, but as a Cap (myself) I tend to be typically not that open. I rarely show my inner self to people, even friends. They need to be on the "bestie" level for that and they need also to be very open with me. And need to have opened up first. Curious how are all you? How you figure who and how open you'll be?

Besties? Very open.
Lover? Very open, however, it depends on the level of the relationship. Committed? Open. Nonestablished? He knows what I want him to know.
Family? Some family members very open, some I'm as closed as a locked door.
Acquaintances? Guarded.
Co-workers/associates? Guarded.

So, basically it depends on the type of relationship I have with that person.