I just need to vent . . . . .

I don't know how I feel anymore about my ex cap man. He says I try to push him to be open and I don't see how I do that. All I ask of him is to call me more and tell me (which I do believe I HAD a right to know as a girlfriend) who these girls were calling his phone all the time. When he tells me no one, none of my buisness, I feel unimportant, like I'm not worthy enough to know who he talks to. And it pisses me off and also stings a little. And he says I won't compromise. Hell, I would but he won't COMPROMISE at all. I tried to compromise about the calling and the women calling his cellphone, but all I get is "You don't pay my cellphone bills." Like WTF?
There are times when I miss him, when I want to pick up the phone and call him and tell him I love you, but I stop myself and say what for? what good is going to come out of it? I know it's a horrible thing to say, but that's how I feel.
And I told him, actually we both agreed that we are sick and tired or arguing about the same exact thing. And he asked me before why I didn't call to tell him this and that's when I decided to be 100% truthful.
I told him because I didn't want to hear him blame everything on me. Like it's my fault the relationship didn't work out. And when I told him that, he got quiet. I also told him that we both want everything to go our way and nothing is happening. If we keep doing that, we're going to always bump heads. We can't keep mending something that isn't working.
Then he said I wasn't patient. He said I can't keep trying to push him to tell his feelings, but I haven't. I don't see asking him to call more often and AT LEAST tell me who these women are to him asking him to tell his feelings. But I told him face it, we're not going to work. And he got quiet again. Then he went on to talk about how his exes never questioned the women calling his phone and how they didn't nag when he never called.
And maybe this was rude of me to say but I told him because those women were weak and let him control them and step all over them. Not me, I will not be treated like I'm less than what I am. And I don't know if I hurt his feelings but he got quiet after I told him about his exes and he changed the subject. Then he said he had to go to work, said bye and hung up. It felt good telling him the truth. No better way of doing it.
Sorry it's so long, I just had to vent so I can decide if I should move on or not. It's a daily process, but what isn't?


ShaiEssence

P.S. In the middle of our conversation, he asked if I had sex with anyone. I said no, then he goes, Don't. I thought it was funny because we aren't together yet he asked me not to have sex with anyone. And I said that to him, and he just said, "Just Don't."

ShaiEssence - I think its brilliant what you said..these guys need to be told that they are controlling..And the comment you made about the other women being naive and letting him control them was the icing on the cake..well said..

Have the same problem with my cappy (not mine yet) but he's like that..at the moment we are not talking but to hell with him if he thinks I am going to bow down to his wishes..He has to apologise and thats it..they don't half sulk like babies when things don't go their way..and they are not very compromising..is there any wonder they are loners with an attitude like that!

Amen miss. Yea, I do believe that's why they are loners, because of the attitude. And maybe it'll take them longer to find that out but I don't feel like waiting around for him to do so. I rather enjoy life and not miss anything along the way.

shaiessence - Rock on!...lol..brilliant..a woman after my own heart..Keep doing what you do..are you a scorpio? if so, I think it will take a scorpio woman to make these guys realise they won't get what they want on a silver platter..

Why no ma'm. I am a pround Cancerian. :o). And he's a Capricorn of course. I believe he's a Capricorn with a taurus rising, I'm not sure.

I don't get all these moons and stars rising..all I care about is the sun sign and I am Scorpio and he's capricorn also..well its day 5 without speaking..longest we've ever gone but what the heck..if thats how he wants to play it..let him..immature git!..

Lol, I think they are all immature. It's been about 4 days since we've talked and if he's not too careful, this guy I've been talking to for a month or so might be my next sweetie. He shouldn't wait too long.

You should get into the other planets- moon, venus, mars, etc. It would give you alot more insight into the interaction/relationship. And Five days is nothing!

Lol @ Capgirl..Well its new for me..I haven't had that much break from him since I've known him..but no sweat..I don't care..I am talking to a wonderful Scorpio guy in the States who is a real man..makes you feel blessed to be a woman..Cappy better hurry up cos I don't have months/years to kill...

talk about venting well im done with my short term relationship with the cappy, He is too over occupied with his work and with school he has no time for me and I need someone to give me time.
I am not going to wait waiting doesnt work so I told him via IM to take care and to talk to you soon , he said take care and bye, What i take from that is that is over I am sad and feel down my steem is down only because i hate wasting my time another relationship that didnt work but truth I dont think i can ever be with a cappy.
Im sure i will not hear from him again and I am ok with that I just really needed to vent

I don't think a cappy man will ever be available emotionally...do you really want to live life with a man who appears robotic!..lol...hell no..we need lurve...

where is the love...

1st of all he is not sensitive in anyway to the way you feel and honey you must know already that men are not like us we do not think alike and sounds to me that maybe you need some space to decide on what you want from this relationship. Stop expecting the man to make you whole and if he is not doing what you want to make you more secure in this relationship then you have the answer already. Signed been there done that.

well let me vent again i dont get it as i said i thought i will never hear from my cappy again and then he called that night acting like nothing was wrong, acting like we were only friends, I acted the same only because i am not giving him the satisfaction of knowning that im upse, at the end of the call he said ill talk to you one of these days sounding like it was him who was going to stop talking to me i hung up i was very mad.
I really think this is it, I'm just mad i answer the call