Understanding the Cap Male (in love?)

Ok, now, let me get this straight. Need some understanding here...

Sssssooo cap men want women to do all the normally "male" things in the relationship when it suits him. Which includes, but are not limited to:

.call him regularly
.pursue dates with him
.initate sex with him
.constantly affirm him b/c of his fragile ego
.be patient b/c he is shy and doesn't want to get hurt (been hurt ssssooo many times b/4)
.reassure him because he is sssoo misunderstood

If the woman does all this, he is not responsible for any hurt feelings or frustration. There's no sense of accountablity placed on him at all. He comes out smelling like a rose if something goes wrong. After all, "HE" didn't:

.tell you to call him,
.to have sex with him,
.to date him,
.to have an exclusive relationship with him,
.etc., etc., etc.

Now on the flip side, she must also remember that she is a woman so therefore, in his book, must become passive and submissive when it suits him:

.be a doormat b/c he MUST be in control
.be there whenever he wants her
.assume the "position/s"
.have his babies and take care of them like they are the "second coming"
.never confront him or talk back emotionally b/c he will stare at you blankly, even though he provoked your emotional outburst
.be a good girl in public b/c he can not stand to be embarrassed

Stay tuned. This list is updated daily. Last updated: 1/26/06

Actually the title of this post should be revised to read "Understanding the Cap Male (in love or in lust)" as it may apply to whatever state suits him.

OMGosh PATHFINDER.....
you hit the nail right on the head!!! ha ha ha aha h never heard more clear in my life!!! im going to print that!!!

I anxiously await RiffRaff's (and others') reply! This is a very good integration/compilation of information, Pathfinder! Seems to be what I'm getting as well as the overall picture.

Under submit/passive, two more:

.Do not BORE him
.LOOOOOVVVVVEEE his mama (even if she can't stand you)

Last updated: 1/26/06

Yay pathfinder, you hit the nail on the head dead on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thatis them

Share your knowledge, please feel free to add to the list ...

.kick azz (stand up for yourself, "flip the script", etc.)

I got the blank stare the other night...then 2 hours later i received his tender love...he allowed just enough time to pass so he would think the two weren't connected.HA! The motto for cappies should be "on my own time sweetheart..."

heres another-
They have amazing memories and take stock of everything you say....wait...wait...wait...BOOM they bring up something and make you look like a complete idiot....

Lol, thats very true Where. My Cappy (ex) did that to me alot. Had me stumped everytime. And he also repeated alot of things that I said.

Trust me on this, ladies, b/c this is what they do ... "watch us"

If you watch these guys for awhile instead of get emotionally involved, you may find them to be very predictable. I can only say that had I taken the time to just watch my cap instead of getting frustrated and leaving him alone, I would have known all this in 1992.

I think that once you finally have an exclusive relationship or marry a cap man, unless you are an earth or water sign, you will be bored with them.

Pathfinder,

Love his mama? LOL!!
I think not....

Sorry, I can't tell that lie.

LOL!!!

LOL!! I feel you, VirgoLady!! My list is like "cappy man" satire -- just for laughs!! Please feel free to add.

Pathfinder:

Its coaxing! When you take the initiative or get subtle invitations for him to do stuff like call you, date him, etc. you are giving him the "thumbs up" to go for it. I can't speak for all Caps but my biggest reason not taking the initiative with women because I am chasing a goal and I don't think that I am ready for one(well, a serious one anyway!!) until I achieve my goals. The only way that I will "go for it" if I 1.know that this women is willing help succeed and 2.she gives me the ok!!

Thank you Riffraff,

This is good to know. This tactic certainly worked with my Cap.

RR- Interesting... What is your goal which you're pursuing currently, RR? I don't know why men, or Cap. men, find love and goals to be mutually exclusive. Why can't you have a serious love interest and be climbing the mountain together at the same time?

My goal is to be an Accountant. I am currently going to a community college in VA to purse this. I don't want anything or anyone to slow me down!

RIFFRAFF~
Have I missed something? I see that some fires were started elsewhere, but when we were talking about the Pisces... you said you loved her? And now you say...."I don't want anything or anyone to slow me down!" Why would you want to get anyones emotions tangeled up with you.. if in fact you are not ready? I mean I understand you have goals and your needs to be met.. but isnt there another way to go @ it? Also I read somewhere that she has two children...if in fact you did start to date her please tell me that you would not put her through the emotional test. You see I have two children and its hard enough trying to be supermom but when you throw heart ache and emotions into the mix..WOW its not easy! Also if her children are a problem if you cant be open to loving her children as much as you love her... you should not even go there!

I hope everything works out for you and you find a special someone that can make you feal special... Did you know.... that "YOUR ALWAYS AFRAID OF YOUR TRUE LOVE" & THAT LOVE IS NEVER EASY"

I just pray that everyone finds happiness and love... its an amazing feeling even if it does hurt. "NO PAIN NO GAIN" I guess...

love~ GEG

p.s. It would be kind of you to take back the name calling RIFF...everyone is just sharing how they feel and no one is wrong everyones feeling are vaild.. xox

GEG~ He's been lacking consistency in his stmts. all along, and his fragmented thought process is making my head spin. I don't know why we're addressing him, as it's clear that he's immature and aptly described by his name, "RiffRaff", resorting to name-calling and profanity.

You must not be as smart as you think you are CapGirl if you are confused with what I am saying!

If you are confused....Ask me! and I will answer you ASAP.

I'm sorry capgirl but isnt thay what these goats do anyways 🙂 "make our heads spin"
Dont let anyone get your "goat" ha ha!!Sweetie!! I agree with the name calling RIff please lighten up it hurts my heart... I have alot of things to be sad, frustrated, angry & hurt about.... but i dont bring it out through name calling!!! PLEASE appologize so we can all get along!! its getting messy...

love geg

wait a minute. let me see if I got this perfectly clear. the women up here generalizes and talk junk in this entire forum, but I have to apologize for two comments that I made?

Ok here goes.......

I'm sorry that you all are so sensitive! Happy?

Thank you soooooo much!!! Yes Im very happy! I know that took alot!!! xoxoxoxoxo I'm so proud of you !!!!!!! I knew you had it in you!! Ladies lets give credit where credit is due!!

And when he says "the women up here generalizes and talk junk in this entire forum," you have to admit that he is right.. and we are doing this becasue we are confused, hurt denial...whatever so lets accept his apology and move on... and actually... my jaw dropped when I saw the Im sorry.. think i even fell out of my chair... Its not easy for them/men to say sorry! 😉 thank you

love, GEG

Whatever makes your day, GEG.

IT sure did!!! thank you 😉

THIS IS GOOD- THE FIRST POST BY PATHFINDER~~ so I "bumped" the thread.

LOL @ Capgirl...woman on a mission 😉