I want to get my Cap girl back. Help ?

So, she's my first girlfriend and a Capricorn, while I'm her second boyfriend and a Cancer, we're both 20. Honestly we came to each other pretty fast and nothing much was expected. However the relationship lasted nearly 8 month (it went really bad after 7 months, mainly because we are opposite and both too stubborn.Slowly she felt less and less affected to me). She finally said she want to break up, 2 weeks ago and it was 2 weeks of tension because I don't wanna lose her yet. I tried to make it up and promised to be better understanding, but her words were final and can't be changed. When I asked if she ever truly loved me she even answered 'No. It was only a spur-of-the-moment thing'. It was devastating to me.

Now, is it really time to let go ? Or there is still a chance of winning her back ? Please help, I'd very appriciate.

Wow, thanks. And I'm so sorry about your boyfriend too. I guess this is the use of it, when everyone can talk their hearts out and be somewhat comforted 😄 I'm sure you'll find someone else who's best for you.

Anyway, back to the matter. You have to understand that I've already tried,several times, but failed. After the break-up we even went on a 3-day trip together with some friends and I hoped it could have worked out but no. Yes, she might loved me back then, but now the fact is she's only annoyed by my every attemp. I think that I should wait just for her to cool down first,no text, no call, no facebook, and then the mission here is not APOLOGIZING her, but how to make her love me again.

So what I need of you is 🙂 As a Capricorn, can you tell me: when you have no more(or just little) feelings for a guy, and you said to him that it's really over, how can you again fall in love with that guy? How long does he have to wait before making a move on you one more time ? What actions would change your mind ?

Posted by capinc
20 years old? She hits 21 and you're in a whole different ball league. Me, I would walk away from this one, work on myself and have fun while you're young.

I appreciate your opinion as well, and sure will consider it if things go bad.

wwhat, seriously I hope its a joke you're telling me, the cry and drunk thing. Dont do that. Sorry if I said anything.

And thanks, I'll wait 3 weeks and make my last shot. If it's still a no go then so be it, time to move on

@xxoommmxxoo: I hope you feel better, as soon as possible 😢

And yeah, to this point I think I gotta take side with noname, whatever your real name is haha. She had thought about it a long time, I know, and when I heard she said the words they're so final, a little voice of myself told me in my head 'it's over'. But human nature is fighting, so I'll still make my last shot and if this time she says no, I'll respect it and just be friends with her.
How you like that, noname?

Posted by noname
I know this is going to sound heartless but nothing is more annoying than not able to get this message across - I-WANT-TO-BREAK-UP-YES-FOR-REAL-PLEASE-DO-NOT-FIGHT-FOR-US-THERE-IS-NO-US-WHEN-I-TOLD-U-I-WANT-OUT

In fact, if you ever loved her and you love yourself, you will respect her wish and not try anything further. I can never understand why people think not going away when the other wants to break up equals to fighting for love. Fighting for your one-sided wish is more like it.

+1

Let it go! When a cap makes up her mind, it is made up. I promise you, she considered this decision Long and Hard before she made it. She analyzed everything and weighed all the pros and cons. Caps very seldom do anything rash. I think she told you it was "spur of the moment" because you weren't accepting what she was telling you.

I once dated a Cancer and when I needed to break it off, he wouldn't listen or aknowledge what I told him. I would have liked to be friends, but he wasn't hearing what I was saying and I had to get flat out rude with him to get him to comprehend that it was over. He kept arguing why we should have the relationship and I felt like "dude, I've already thought this through and this is what I want". Afterward, every so often, I would get rude and crude texts from him. We only dated a couple of months and he wouldn't let go. Still, now, two years later, when I ran into him all he could talk about was his new gf and how much sex she wanted. I thought "how tacky". So, yeah, now, the whole experience with him, even when it was good, seems like a bad experience to me with regrets on ever going out with him in the first place. Don't be that guy, man. Have dignity! Let her go. Handle it with grace, dignity and self respect.

Ah, young love...while I would say move on I understand that a heartbreak at your age feels like the end of the world. I'd say give her space for now and then check-in later and see if you, yourself even feel the same for her. Good luck

Wow thanks for all the comments, and no offense but I'd never imagined myself taking advices from women. Anyway, as strange as it is even to myself, I'm over it, now I'm ready to let her go, even want to be friends with her. Such a cliche to say it, but life really moves on haha.
But I'm affraid my dignity is gone 🙂) During the process of not letting go I unfortunately lost it. But no matter, we all do stupid things while we're young, I think we're gonna laugh about it together someday.

And P.S to truecap: Yeah I also thought so, she only said it to push me away. There was something real between us, just too bad it's gone now.
P.S to noname: you were right, and FYI I didn't even make the last shot. Just changed my mind after a day. Crazy stuff, love 😄

It sounds like the girl has made it crystal clear that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you anymore, so anything you do now is probably just a lost cause. If a Cap wants to end something, he/she will end it no matter how cold, harsh, or brutal he/she ends up being.

I'd say you should just try to heal from this relationship and then find someone else.

Let it be, when I broke up with my second gf I thought I will never ever find someone like her again... true, I found a better one.