In need of a capricorn womans opinion!

I am a Leo woman that started seeing a cappy girl about 2 months ago. Everything was going great, we really fell for each other. 3 weeks ago she told me that she was moving to take care of a sick relative tell he passed away. we talked about it and said that we would give the long distance relationship a try. here is the part where i start to sound like an a-hole, a week before she was leaving my ex convinced me to do her a favor because of her job as a social worker she could not go in to a certain store because one of her clients worked there (the only one in town) to buy a toy. My girl found out about it and was upset that i hurt her feelings by doing this favor. I didn't think it was that big of a deal i would do that for a lot of close friends. My girl did think it was a big deal so after hearing her side, i told her that i would never do that again and i would always consider her feelings before doing something like that. (And i meant it). She said that she believed that i wouldn't do it again. After that she wouldn't let me see her before she left, she told me she had to much to do as far as packing. but i did talk to her on the phone 2 day before she left and We made planes for me to come visit for New Years, so i bought my ticket. i felt like everything was fine, she told me that she loved me. so in a caps world that's as good as gold! the next two days I tried txing her with very little response. the day she left was the last i heard from her. (Good Morning) for Five days i tx her about four time a day, I heard nothing not even a Marry Christmas! I know that she has a lot going on with moving and family and everything but not even a Marry Christmas! the day before i was spoda fly to see her I have heard nothing from her so i said that i was not going and i would leave her alone. (Did I do the right thing, not to go, I just didn't want to be stranded at the airport,ifshe didn'twanttosee me) I don't want to loose this girl she is amazing and i cant get enough of her, so i know i have to keep my Leo heart at bay and stop myself from crowding her. But am i to late. do you think it was my Favor that she wont talk to me or that she is just busy. I haven't tx her in three days. Everyone says to give her time before you call or tx but how much time 1 or 2 or 3 weeks just to say, Hi, i have been thinking of you, how have you been? Just don't want to push but i don't want to her to think I'm going anywhere either. I just want to do therightthing.

I get that she has a lot going on and we both knew that she would. so when making the plans I asked if that would be a ok week to go since she would have only been there for 5 days. if was a definite yes, so i paid the for the ticket and took time off of work and i don't get payed vaca so in all her disappearing act cost me $ 1,200.00. And she knew all this why wouldn't she just tell me not to come sooner so that i could at least find work. do cappys think that they are still in the right? or if i ever talk to her again will she understand why i am upset about this. anyone else ever did this to me i would be furious and never talk to them again!!!!!!!!!!!!!

She probably would have liked you to tell her what you were going to do for your ex before you did it. That would have given yall a chance to talk about it and she could express concerns then. Anyways, it's said and done and she said she understood. Cappys are actually very understanding and if she felt you were sincere, then she probably really is okay with that, unless she feels you and your ex still have something going on and caps can be very insecure. When I'm insecure, I shut down a little, become aloof, back off, distance myself because I don't like feeling vulnerable. But, I can't tell you what vibe she gets from you and your ex. Only you know how you are with the ex.

So, I'm thinking she probably really did understand and that's not the problem. Like the others said, she probably is really busy, stressed, overwhelmed. A dying person is understandably needy physically and while we like taking care of people's needs, it is very emotionally draining for us. Thus, she probably isn't in the party mood right now and New Years is the least thing on her mind.

That said, there is no excuse to leave you hanging like she did. I would be pissed if I were you!!!! You have every right to feel the way you are feeling.

I asked a few time after she left but no answer back, so wit no reply i assumed that if she couldn't answer me back she didn't want to see me ether.

I told her about what i did for the ex cause I wanted to make sure that I hid nothing from her. I made out to be a joke cause i really didn't think it was a big deal. I sent her a pic of the toy and said "for Missy so she can go F herself LOL" I thought it was funny! And a lot of friends thought that it was funny. Maybe I'm wrong i don't know. but I never lied to her so i don't think that she don't trust me but maybe don't trust in general.

everyone says give her space and let her be. but if i drop her a tx once a week is that to much? if she is not answering back I don't want to be a stalker or bother her. This girl is tough for me, never in my life have i ever been intimidated like this.

Thank you all for your comments, they have all helped a lot. But the bad news for me is i don't think she is interested anymore. a face book notification popped up earlier from her page. A friend wrote to her " i hope your doing good and i miss you." she replied cheerfully back to her. If she has time to write back to her friend and not me i think she is done with me.

I would still think that she would get back to me at some point to tell me its over. or would she just hide from me forever?

so did it work out between you and your cappy? i been following this message board at work because something very similar happened to me! but with a Taurus! and just wondering how it turned out for you! did she ever contact you again? 😢