Independent Cappies

I had always tried to be as independent as possible, and not ask favours from anyone if at all possible. I find it takes tremendous courage, integrity, and energy to be so.
Some people try to probe into our lives, and business, thinking we have something to hide, and may label us as 'social outcasts' behind our backs.....😢
We feel invaded, and angry , but act cool to preserve our integrity. Why do people think it is any of their busines to reform anyone?
Does any other cappie 'discretely' feel hurt because of this?
Are we 'really' social outcasts'?

I personally think that everybody is a social outcast. Every last soul on this planet is a social outcast. I mean, how can you explain the fact that we all say we need 3 feet minimum of personal space- space that separates us from our peers? And in highly industrial nations that is magnified to roughly 20 acres per individual!

Now, maybe if we all acted like a big happy family and had a great big planetary group hug- regardless of my 20 acres or that 3rd world Arab's 5 acres of personal space- THEN there would be no such thing as social outcasts. But, then, the planet would spiral out of orbit from all the 6 billion people stampeding to one place to group hug.

Space is necessary, but how "out of the loop" you really are all depends on YOU!

~~~J O S H U A~~~

Oh yeah, and sometimes people just like to lend a helping hand. Maybe they see what a struggle you're putting up all by your lonesome, and therefore want to reach out. Think outside the box. You're not limited to that 3 feet or that 20 acres of boundaries. They probably don't see it as "probing" at all, and are confused as to why you do!

*Smiles* Alright-- GROUP HUG! =) hehehe

~~~JOSHUASCOTT~TTOCSAUHSOJ~JOSHUASCOTT~~~

I agree with Josh- everyone is socially outcast. I really don't know of anyone that feels 100 percent totally accepted for who they are. You need to be yourself. When I was younger and dating I tried to be who I thought the other person wanted instead of myself... Never lasted past the first couple of dates... Got dumped- I was too unexciting. Then one day I woke up and said screw em if they don't like me for who I am who cares I can find someone who will. It's amazing what kind of results that kind of nonchalant attitude can get. It was like people wanted to be around me because I didn't care if they liked me or not. Of course don't put people off by being aloof just relax. Not everyone is out to get you.
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By the way Josh- If I hadn't read your previous posts about being in school & getting grounded I would think you were 30 years old- you must have an old soul!!


~Thea

The wonders of being a Capicorn, huh? Thanks for the compliment- up until now I thought I was just being obnoxious and offending everyone and not knowing how! It's funny, but more often than not I feel like I stopped maturing somewhere during Elementary School. I guess maybe I took one too many blows to the head! (I used to get beat up on a fairly regular basis for trying to act smart =P)

--> --> Josh (who can't help it if he read the complete works of Julius Caesar at 13)

Josh, I don't see any reason why you like to put yourself down.
We cappies, are a bit too modest, and unassuming, which may be at times interpreted as a low self-esteem.
I see some less 'endowed' folks, with a lot of confidence, and few assets.
So it is all in the mind. THINK BIG, and EXPECT to be treated as a KING
Well, maybe we don't want to be treated as ROYALTY. But just enough to make others beware ....!
JMHO

Independent cappies...I can truly relate to this statement. I act like a rock, but yet inside I am very sensitive. I can also be very blunt and people don't know how to handle this. Yes...at times I too feel like an outcast...our strong nature...we do surpass the other signs...true climbers...never to give up!! Never give up!!;o)