Interesting.......

I read this on another message board and while I wouldn't usually cut and paste something someone else wrote I thought this was very interesting for all of us gals (and guys) having trouble w/our Cappys. I don't know about you guys but I can certainly relate to this.....

"I have been in a relationship with a CAP man for 5 1/2 years. He makes my life HELL. And I consider myself a STRONG woman. I am attracted to him to the point of obsession and I love him and I feel fiercely loyal. Sometimes I wonder where the hell this loyalty is coming from cause it sure doesn't feel like love. I compare my feelings with my previous 5 year relationship with a Scorpio man with a Taurus rising, and I realize that with him I ALWAYS FELT LOVED, although he was giving me the worst silence treatment when mad, and I left him for his friend the CAP, now I think back and realize THAT COMPARED TO THE CRAP THIS CAP is giving me, THAT WAS HEAVEN ON EARTH. It is a paradox. WE have nothing in common really when I think about it, I am adventurous, like to play and smile a lot, I love doing unpredictable things, I am verry emotional and get verry vindictive when hurt, and THIS MAN brings out the worst anger in me. This guy is reserved, cold and calculated. On the other hand I am strong, calculated and work hard and care about money a lot myself, and understand that he is an workoholic...but so am I to a degree. I have tried to find common ground with him, but it seems like an endless battle in which I try to mold myself to his ways, so we can have the same rhythm in the relationship dance. But he frustrates the hell out of me. When I need affection he is not arround or willing to open up, when he opens up I am so fed up that I don't even enjoy it anymore. I tried to break him and hurt him, and I get really vindictive when hurt(my scorpio rising is strong) but nothing seems to touch him. He calmly turns around and strikes back, stronger than before, and I am the one WHO GETS HURT AGAIN. It is like playing a game of chess with the computer with these men. You cannot outsmart them, They enjoy seeing you crawl and try to fight them. My suggestion to the verry sensitive women outhere is: UNLESSyou enjoy the damn rolorcoaster and the challenge to break them and marry them, stay away from them. They SMELL WEAKNESS AND FRAGILITY and THEY ARE DRAWN TO ITunless you have heavy earth aspects in your chart like me, and can take on his assaults with dignity and grace and never EVER SHOW HE HAS HURT OR DEFEATED YOU, you will never be more than game to them. TRUST ME.

wow! now that is something!!! lol does not look good ladies!

Wow. Very interesting and what a good read. Thing about it is, I've never met a male capricorn in my life as of now. So I'll be one of the lucky ones.

Interesting post besos...what amazes me the most in regard to the above post is this woman has been in a relationship for 5 1/2 yrs. with a Cap man who treats her like HELL- he brings out the ANGER in her - she keeps getting HURT ....my question is WHY IS SHE STILL IN THE RELATIONSHIP!!!!! Why is she not taking responsibility for her own happiness? Baffles me...this is most definately not a very healthy situation...I think she should be looking at herself and the choices that she is making....

"This guy is reserved, cold and calculated. I have tried to find common ground with him, but it seems like an endless battle in which I try to mold myself to his ways, so we can have the same rhythm in the relationship dance."

~~~It seems in reading alot of the post on this msg board this is probably true.

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"I tried to break him and hurt him, and I get really vindictive when hurt(my scorpio rising is strong) but nothing seems to touch him. He calmly turns around and strikes back, stronger than before and I am the one WHO GETS HURT AGAIN. It is like playing a game of chess with the computer with these men. You cannot outsmart them, They enjoy seeing you crawl and try to fight them."

~~~I don't know about this one...any comments? I'm curious if any of you have experienced this. I would definetly like to know for future referenced...lol.

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"My suggestion to the verry sensitive women outhere is: UNLESSyou enjoy the damn rolorcoaster and the challenge to break them and marry them, stay away from them. They SMELL WEAKNESS AND FRAGILITY and THEY ARE DRAWN TO ITunless you have heavy earth aspects in your chart like me, and can take on his assaults with dignity and grace and never EVER SHOW HE HAS HURT OR DEFEATED YOU, you will never be more than game to them. TRUST ME.

~~~Greeneyedgem and Gemgem? what do you think - a rollacoaster? I think so...but what about the Cappy's prying on weakness and fragility? I'm curious any comments...where the h $ !! are all the Cappy men? Lol.

I would have to say that it is the wildest rollercoaster ride I have ever been on! LOL Its teaching me patience and to let go of always having to be in control. I dont think that my cappy pry's on my weakness or fragility. I have alot going on in my life at this moment and he seems to just want to keep his distance why I handle my situations!

G~~~~

I haven't even met my Cappy and its been a rollercoaster ride but hey, I'll hang on for as long as I can! Patience? I thought I was an "extremely" patient person until I started talking to this guy. Girl, I've learned that there was a whole new meaning to the word "patience" since then.....lol! I just hope I get to meet my soon even though the thought of it scares me. I worry about all of the what if's? What if he doesn't like me, what if we really hit it off physically and then he really runs away - that is what worries me the most.

Yeah...rollercoaster is right. haha. I'm so bummed, but I'll agree that I don't think it has entirely a whole lot to do with them wanting to play games. I think it's just them doing their own thing or figuring things out. They want to make sure that they choose the right person. It's definetely aggrevating though. I feel like I'm taking crazy pills! haha.

G~~~do you feel like your taking crazy pills or need crazy pills to help you through...lol! The thing I can't figure it is all the while they (these d@mm Cappy men) are trying to figure out if we are the right one and if we are girlfriend/wife material we are sitting here waiting. Even if we are still living our lives we are still waiting b/c we had such attractions to these men, feel like they are the one for us, have never felt such an attraction to somebody, just know he's an awesome man so we'll live our life but not really ever give anyone else a chance until Mr. Cappy decides whether or not we are the ones....My question is what happens to us (and yes, I'm like a fool waiting to meet this Cappy) when we have invested so much time, effort, energy, emotions, etc. in these men and he decides we are not the one for him.........we're screwed bascially. I guess its worth the wait though b/c here I am...lol!

everything happens for a reason! If we dont win the hearts of these men there will be others...as much as we refuse to see that right now! Im thinking I will give myself a time frame I say Jan.8th 2006 that will be one year that I met him and my divorce will be final and there will be no more excuses! At that point it will be all or nothing he would have had plenty of time to see me for who I am even through a divorce, he will see what a good mother and friend I am. And if he is not ready then im outta there. In my heart I feel that he will come around but we will see...

besos gosh....are you scared that you might not find him attractive? This is the longest BLIND date I have ever herd of!! lol

G~~~if you read my orginal post under "Help" that I posted today you will understand maybe a little better. I know I've seen him b/f and he won't admit it. I'm so crazy about this man's personality, what he stands for and just who he is that I really don't care what he looks like honestly. I'm truly into what I know is inside of him as a man. I'm really depressed now. He called today and we were joking, laughing and just talking in general. Super great conversation and while discussing our mutual friend that we have that just got married is already having problems he said not once but "twice" that he is not going to get into a relationship. I felt honestly like that was directed towards me and that was my intuition talking to me not my insecurities (which I admit I have). I feel kinda depressed now b/c I guess he was letting me know since the time for us to meet has finally gotten here.

Nah...don't feel that way besos. He's just talking. Those are his insecurities coming out. It's up to you to point out the optimism for him so that he sees things a little differently. And YES I feel like I'm taking crazy pills because I'm crazy!!! hahahaha.

they always say that!! When I met my cappy i asked how come he did not have a girlfriend he was so sweet so handsome. He said he did not want a "relationship"...Then we started spending more and more time together and he was like I want to be with you so bad..yada, yada im like why the sudden change? He said I met you, you are like no other woman/girl I have met....the prob. why we could not be together was because of my situation. But I think thats what they all say... I mean how do they know if they are going to fall head over hills for you or not! Its just a shield to protect their feelings and an escape for them if they are not interested.

I would say enjoy the friendship he has to offer, give it time and show him you care by being his friend. Dont let it get you down? Also I know you have put it somewhere how long you have been talking but can you remind me?