weelio
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Is flirting consider cheating?
yeah i think it's a mild form of cheating.
a lot of people claim to be ''subconscious flirts'' meaning they flirt without even knowing but i would be weary of anyone who uses that as an excuse to flirt with other people while they're in a commited relationship.
a lot of people claim to be ''subconscious flirts'' meaning they flirt without even knowing but i would be weary of anyone who uses that as an excuse to flirt with other people while they're in a commited relationship.
*wary
Not if its me doing the flirting... but, if my partner is flirting then that's another story 🙂
j/k
I have been told I am flirty in general, does this mean I'm flirting? Not at all! I am just being friendly from my perspective. Damn Gemini rising 😛
However, people's perception of WHAT is flirting or flirty behavior is, IMO, subjective - whether its a smile, a touch, a laugh, talking for too long, playing with your hair, doing the bump and grind, etc.
But, as Elle said, if it is something you would not/could not do comfortably in front of your partner then boundaries are most likely being crossed.
j/k
I have been told I am flirty in general, does this mean I'm flirting? Not at all! I am just being friendly from my perspective. Damn Gemini rising 😛
However, people's perception of WHAT is flirting or flirty behavior is, IMO, subjective - whether its a smile, a touch, a laugh, talking for too long, playing with your hair, doing the bump and grind, etc.
But, as Elle said, if it is something you would not/could not do comfortably in front of your partner then boundaries are most likely being crossed.
if its me doing the flirting then no
her flirting....yes. if she flirts she gets locked in the basement inside a cage.
her flirting....yes. if she flirts she gets locked in the basement inside a cage.
Posted by Cadillac
Flirting isn't cheating, but don't trust that it's just harmless flirting all the time.
Libra
Sag
Gemini
^^^ Watch out for those two. They cheat all the time.
Cap
Leo
Aries
^^^ Pretty loyal
Scorpio
^^^ Who the fuck knows.
this is pretty accurate i guess..
Posted by ellessque
I'm not a cap.
i woud say anything that you wouldn't do in front of your partner in a comfortable manner would be consider cheating.
I am a Cap. I absolutely agree with this, probably the best description i've read about this topic.
I am very big on loyalty, never cheated.
Personally i can give my feeling to only one person at a time, when i feel for him i am never in the mood to flirt with another man even if he would be the most handsome in the world.
If the feeling disappear, then i break up. I think i am simply wired a way when i can only desire one man at a time. Of coure if the relationship ends everything get deleted from my system.
Beloved Assata:
I agree with you in that (i can't talk for all Cappies - in fatc, i am afraid i will be alone with this) i don't flirt often, because can i say i am to practical minded for that? 😄
I mean, i don't see often a man who i really really want, and just because i see somebody who i find handsome simply that won't inspire me to flirt. In the past i flirt more when i see a nice man (=intelligent and attractive), but many times even at the first meeting i realised that we can get along but he is simply not the one. So why flirt? I would see as a waste of time. (Yes, i am not always a romantic soul, it needs a man to bring it out in me. But my realistic approach spare me lots of heartaches.)
"And since when does smiling and talking with someone constitutes a lack of loyalty?"
"And I don't agree with the idea of "whatever you feel uncomfortable doing in front of partner" If I'm with my partner, why would I smile, laugh or talk with someone else? I'm with my partner..I'll do that to him. I wouldn't feel a need to do that..but if I'm by myself and an attractive gentleman winks at me, I'm not going to scowl at him and say "fuck off, I got a man." I'll say "thank you" smile, and keep it moving."
No, personally i agree with Ellessque. And i am smiling and talking with other men even if i have a partner. It's good manners to do that, also i am doing that when my partner is around too. I don't act differently behind him. But what counts is the intention. My being nice is definitely not flirting. Why should i exclude myself from a good conversation with someone just because i am in a relationship? No, i can smile and talk with them, because i like to know new people, and many times i simply likes to chit chat. 😄 And if a men musinderstand it, what happens sometimes, and my heart is occupied by someone, then when i realise his intent i immediately tell him that he must stop or i end the convo.
(btw i have Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars in Air.)
I agree with you in that (i can't talk for all Cappies - in fatc, i am afraid i will be alone with this) i don't flirt often, because can i say i am to practical minded for that? 😄
I mean, i don't see often a man who i really really want, and just because i see somebody who i find handsome simply that won't inspire me to flirt. In the past i flirt more when i see a nice man (=intelligent and attractive), but many times even at the first meeting i realised that we can get along but he is simply not the one. So why flirt? I would see as a waste of time. (Yes, i am not always a romantic soul, it needs a man to bring it out in me. But my realistic approach spare me lots of heartaches.)
"And since when does smiling and talking with someone constitutes a lack of loyalty?"
"And I don't agree with the idea of "whatever you feel uncomfortable doing in front of partner" If I'm with my partner, why would I smile, laugh or talk with someone else? I'm with my partner..I'll do that to him. I wouldn't feel a need to do that..but if I'm by myself and an attractive gentleman winks at me, I'm not going to scowl at him and say "fuck off, I got a man." I'll say "thank you" smile, and keep it moving."
No, personally i agree with Ellessque. And i am smiling and talking with other men even if i have a partner. It's good manners to do that, also i am doing that when my partner is around too. I don't act differently behind him. But what counts is the intention. My being nice is definitely not flirting. Why should i exclude myself from a good conversation with someone just because i am in a relationship? No, i can smile and talk with them, because i like to know new people, and many times i simply likes to chit chat. 😄 And if a men musinderstand it, what happens sometimes, and my heart is occupied by someone, then when i realise his intent i immediately tell him that he must stop or i end the convo.
(btw i have Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars in Air.)
Oh, didn't check before hit the send button. So i agree that me as a Cappy, don't really know how to flirt. I do it sometimes, but compared to how a Gemini or Libra flirts, i need to improve. 😄
Posted by BelovedAssata
My point is that I'd "act" differently because to me that would be too different scenarios..not because I feel guilty doing that...
How's this for an analogy.
Flirting is like passing by a food booth with free samples..It's on a little stick, it isn't too filling and you can only take one, it might be something really good or not, but i'll probably forget about it as soon as I leave the booth..
Flirting with my partner next to me is like passing by that food booth with free samples, while already walking around with the most awesome-est lunch known to man.
I COULD just grab a sample since I already have a great lunch on me, but why? It'll just make me look greedy and might spoil my appetite, also it might not mesh with what I had brought with me?
Now, I've known people that'll indulge in both, but I'm personally not like that..as a matter of fact, I'll probably would pass the food booth altogether if they didn't have a lady pushing that shit up in my face insisting that I should "try it! Try it!"
I'm sure this is all cultural FloraSecret so it's no biggie if you don't get my analogy but that's cool.
😄 Nice example, but actually i don't get it. You are probably sure and it is a cultural thing. (Or the infamous Aqua Venus... LOL)
As i wrote for me the intention is the most important. I can talk with numerous men, dance and have a great time without flirting. It's not like i am sampling them, it's rather i spend a friendly time with them, that's why my act would not depend on if i am with my partner or not.
Just because i have a man who i love with my heart it doesn't mean that i don't want to talk with anyother men and restrict myself to interact with women. I am not sure how should i say this, but what i do is definitely not flirting, simply because my intention is not that - also i don't push my body on them and don't make flirty commenct. For me it's only being good mannered.
I can't say such a good example like you did. Sorry. 🙂
Yes, i can only love one man at a time. I never cheated (kiss etc), when i was in a relationship and never felt the need to do so.
I really think it's a cultural difference, also i think i muisunderstood you at one point, i start to see now. In my country men are very different from South-American men. Really, at least what i read about them. here women doN't get hit on too often. if you go to a club you mostly dance and talk with only your circle, and it is rare if an unknown men go to your group and ask you to dance.
(And i never initiated anything like this, if i go i always stay with my circle of friends.)
Yes, i would dance with other men in front of my boyfriend. Many times if we are together we dance with each others partners, i also like to dance with my best friend (who is male). There is nothing wrong with is for me, it is not a flirty dance, we just enjoy dancing for the sake of the good dance. They won't touch my boobies or butt, and never do anything inappropriate. (The way i dance with my boyfriend is completely different.)
Yes, just because i have a boyfriend i talk with lot of other men. Why is this wrong? I don't see them as romantic interest at all. I would never kiss them. Never did. I have many male friends, should i just forget them because i am in a relationship? I don't mix sex with this, and never did. Those are men but i don't look at them sexually. Still we can have good coonversation. That's why it doesn't matter if my bf is with me or not.
And i definitly won't take phone numbers in clubs. 😄 But if in my workplace i meet somebody, a new college with who i have good conversation then i exchange numbers with him. (Doesn't matter if he is a man.) I will also talk about him to my bf and introduce them. Maybe we will be friends, who knows?
I really think it's a cultural difference, also i think i muisunderstood you at one point, i start to see now. In my country men are very different from South-American men. Really, at least what i read about them. here women doN't get hit on too often. if you go to a club you mostly dance and talk with only your circle, and it is rare if an unknown men go to your group and ask you to dance.
(And i never initiated anything like this, if i go i always stay with my circle of friends.)
Yes, i would dance with other men in front of my boyfriend. Many times if we are together we dance with each others partners, i also like to dance with my best friend (who is male). There is nothing wrong with is for me, it is not a flirty dance, we just enjoy dancing for the sake of the good dance. They won't touch my boobies or butt, and never do anything inappropriate. (The way i dance with my boyfriend is completely different.)
Yes, just because i have a boyfriend i talk with lot of other men. Why is this wrong? I don't see them as romantic interest at all. I would never kiss them. Never did. I have many male friends, should i just forget them because i am in a relationship? I don't mix sex with this, and never did. Those are men but i don't look at them sexually. Still we can have good coonversation. That's why it doesn't matter if my bf is with me or not.
And i definitly won't take phone numbers in clubs. 😄 But if in my workplace i meet somebody, a new college with who i have good conversation then i exchange numbers with him. (Doesn't matter if he is a man.) I will also talk about him to my bf and introduce them. Maybe we will be friends, who knows?
Oh yes, i forgot to tell my misunderstanding.
You mainly talk about talking to unknown men in a club. But all this time when i was talking about talking to other men, i was mostly thinking my circle of friends or coworkers, not any unknown male who just comes up. I am not sure if i would be even comfortable talking to them, because i would know their intention is not friendly at all. But as i said it is not as common in my country as in yours. 🙂 Don't bit me, you can't imagine how loyal a woman i am. 🙂
You mainly talk about talking to unknown men in a club. But all this time when i was talking about talking to other men, i was mostly thinking my circle of friends or coworkers, not any unknown male who just comes up. I am not sure if i would be even comfortable talking to them, because i would know their intention is not friendly at all. But as i said it is not as common in my country as in yours. 🙂 Don't bit me, you can't imagine how loyal a woman i am. 🙂
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