Is logic a minimizing trait?

So, I just learned that a friend of mine has a cancerous tumor in the lower part of her colon. It was not through her but someone else. My response basically was, "well, they'll just cut it out, maybe do a little radiation and chemo. If it hasn't metastasized all will be good"

I'm being accused of minimizing the situation....

My response doesn't mean I'm not concerned in the least bit! I completely understand the severity. I completely understand what she will endure with the chemo (if that is something she must undergo). But, I also am an optimist! I don't believe that this is somehow a fated end and I will not subject myself to such negative thinking!!

Some people give responses such as "It will be alright" just because, because they don't know what else to say and it seems politically correct. No, I give a response based on what I think, not because I simply think (feel) it's the right thing to say. I told my friend the other day before her test as she was all stressed - "No need to worry about it now, take it in stride and do what needs to be done when the tests come back"

I think as Caps we process things different. Without knowing for sure, why worry? It is findings/evidence/data that lead to action. Thoughts?

I could see how they felt that way. There is a possibility that things will be alright and there's a chance of the opposite, and usually when people get the news of something serious they tend to lean towards the most dramatic ending, well some people do. When you are freaking out about your situation, you would rather hear that it's going to be alright, and something to soothe and calm you instead of anything logical. That's what the doctors are for, to tell you what the how they will remove the tumor and the whole process lol, but we all know you meant no harm, and this was your way of being optimistic. In these cases though, I don't think it's wrong to give people what they want to hear.

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It's an action oriented statement instead of an emotion oriented statement.

Caps thought processes are more solution oriented and big picture oriented. Colon cancer is very treatable these days unless it's gone on too long. So, I'd focus on that end of it too.

Just make sure she knows you support her and are there for her. She's probably sick to death of "it's gonna be ok" or "if you need anything" or "oh bless your heart" or "you're in my prayers".

As long as she doesn't think you're being cold, then there isn't a problem. If she's a good friend, she knows you and she is used to your way of dealing with things.

My Cap friend irritates me with the way he'll minimize a serious situation. If its harsh for me I can only imagine someone else....but hey if its him in a serious situation he minimize it aswell and kind of brush he own situations of so...

The title seems wrong to me. One uses logic to elaborate on things.

Maybe it doesn't matter what you say in such situations, just be there for her. Having family or friends talking to her daily would encourage her to have the strength to beat cancer.

You could give her some example of celebrities who went through the same ordeal and survived. For example, Sharon Osbourne from the X Factor had it, beat it and now looks great, is active and healthy, elegantly hiding a colostomy bag under her designer dress.