Is My Cap Man In Love This Time Around?

Me (a Pisces) and my Cap man have a 20 plus year history together. We were friends first for 11 years, dated for 4 years. Broke up mainly due to the fact that although we wanted one another we still weren't "ready" as we both had individual issues that needed our attention and didn't allow for our relationship to be in a place that was good for us both at that time.

Eight years passed of no contact. My Cap came back into my life late last year after he confessed that he'd been trying to find me after 2 long years of searching (mutual friends knew how to contact me but weren't sure of his intentions so they held out giving him info on me until they knew he was coming back correct). Over the course of the next several months we talked about everything that went right and wrong between us, took responsibility for both our parts in our relationship demise, and forgave each other for being human and making mistakes which we have both learned from. Now we are officially back together and it feels so good and right and very different from the last time, like a dark cloud lifted and we both see each other with even more open eyes, affection and respect. He is definitely showing me that his promise to do better this time was not just talk and vice versa. The strong connection that has always been between us is even stronger now and I couldn't be more happier or at peace at where we are right now. My only question at this point is whether or not I can deem my Cap's feelings as his finally being in love with me as opposed to just loving me before. I say this because he admitted to me that he wouldn't allow himself to fall in love with me before as he didn't feel himself worthy. Now that he feels better about himself and his life and we both have decided to be together again I'm wondering if he has or is in the process of falling in love with me/us? We communicate consistently in some form every day and when we are together we are the best of friends and lovers. His actions and words have not contradicted in any way. Any thoughts to share?

I get that you're cautious..you've forgiven him and you think that everything is too good to be true, before everyone throws in the doom and gloom and starts giving you stories about how their capricorn man was nice for a while and then went back to his old ways...one, we're not you..we don't know the nature of this relationship, so it's just on you to be able to deduce if he's real or not(we can make inferences but you're the only one to be able to judge that)...two, just because you forgive a person, doesn't mean that you should ignore the signs of when things start to go back to a horrible pattern, since you know what you know now and have a wonderful opportunity to try again, you should have the forethought to be able to nip it in the bud when you see it.

Other than that...just enjoy the moment. From this post it's like you're trying to search for things to fall apart when it doesn't seem to be, ya gotta watch that before you lest you manifest your worries into happening.

A mature Capricorn is a hell of a catch...congrats on that, and I wish you guys the best.

Great story! No one can really predict your future,least I can't but if I go by my gut feeling alone I'd say he's not in it to stay given the history you both have one with another, if he had come back with a ring and married you then you'd know he was for real 100% but given the fact that your only dating (again)well your sorta back at square one, no progress has been made beyond dating, IMO and it's just an opinion one of many, he'll most likely come up with an excuse why its not going to work out but why focus on that, it'll just create unnecessary drama, enjoy your relationship, enjoy what you have with one another right now and try not to add in the recipe of stress and fear.

....have with one another

I got the same vibe as QS Have you had commitment issues with other men in your life? Are you just seeking different opinions from DPX in order to use any of the negative ones to wind yourself up into a ball of fear and get out of the relationship, before he has a chance to do so (even though he may not be planning that at all.) Just thoughts that came to mind after reading your story.

Thanks everyone for your input. Yes, I think I was just being overly cautious and looking for something to be negative about to give me an excuse to bolt. LOL But I've gotten over that and am letting things move forward without hesitation or fear. It is going so very well for us now and I will enjoy that for as long as possible.