is this cappy in love with me?

i've posted a couple of previous threads about this guy friend of mine, and even on other forums..and of course i've asked my friends about him... and the word that keeps coming up when i talk about this guy and how he has acted and behaved is love :O:O.. of course.. no one will ever admits they're in love with you...definitely not a guy..but there are ways of telling i guess... i just want to know because if that is the case and i've been oblivious to it, it's better that i know now so i can act accordingly and not mess him around or anything
ok so i won't go in to everything but just a few things that have happened and what he's said to me etc..that has even made me question what it is he's feeling..


ok so we have been friends with each other for three years now, but i met him five years ago...we lost contact in between for a couple of years...

when we finally got in to contact again..he told me how he felt when he first met me..and how he couldn't take his eyes off me and had some crazy feelings inside which he could not put in to words..and then he said he should never have let me walk away.. (basically we lost contact and he didn't stop that from happening).i'm the one that got away to him..or was at the time..and then how every single day he was wishing for me to be beside him and how his heart broke when i wasn't around..

so the time we have been friends we got in to a few arguments..here and there..and then i stopped talking to him and then he stopped talking to me lol...and everytime that happened..he'll come back to me and then tell me how depressed he was and he couldn't sleep or eat, just thinking about me and him and how we weren't talking

also another big detail..all this time he has been in touch with me he has dated no one... mostly that was because he wanted to sort his life out first and didn't have time for a relationship..and now that he does..
i'm the person he thought of first :O..

he's been asking me to see him now more often.. (we're friends but he said he wants more)for a long time now...

he keeps saying i'm the only one he wants, and how he wants me more than anyone else...he kept telling me how he's got interest from so many other girls/women but he doesn't like any of them, how i'm the sweetest person he's ever met and known

he's even mentioned marriage lots of time..and his plans for marriage..
how he wants to be in a relationship for a little while and then marry the girl..he asked me how i'd want my

wedding to be. and my honeymoon..
and that i should be thinking about this at some point

Yes, YES, he is in love with you! Girly, what is it that you want from us? lol

Posted by champranger
Did he ask you out again?

loll..well i ahven't called him back yet.. so i shall have to wait and see

Posted by lnana04
Yes, YES, he is in love with you! Girly, what is it that you want from us? lol

reassurance i guess lollll
i dunno.. then why does he keep disappearing on me for weeks and months and months on end...
and in order to get him to speak to me i have to send some silly text lol

and then all the time he mentions other women/girls

thats what confusesss mee
lol

so you're saying that he disappears because he doesn't think i feel the same?

he's not exactly told me he's "in love"..
thats just all my friends guesses.. and what they have gathered from what he's said to me

so we may even be wrong

Posted by Metoo
I mean, just ask HIM and stop all of the guessing..
If he is bringing up future things like marriage etc. then yah, its indicating his feelings are
getting fairly serious.
Why dont you go on a walk or fun holiday outing and sit down on a bench or at a coffee shop and have a very honest talk with him, tell him your feelings in a direct but lighthearted manner and ask him if he can tell you if his intentions are of friendship or more and try to get clear answers.

You didnt mention how u feel about him, but if you arent feeling you could be his girlfriend and be with him in the longterm then dont be stringing this guy along.

It is equally important for you to first determine how YOU feel about him and if u determine it is only friendship you better speak up immediately and not play the cat and mouse game then turn and run when he catches you. That is the cruelest thing to do to a person so dont string along, and dont allow yourself to get strung along.

If you really are friends but its getting gray, have the maturity and respect for eachother to sit down and talk it out.

i can't ask him that straight out..by the way are you in love with me? and what if i am way off the mark?

i mean some people seem to think that if he was in "love" with me he wouldn't play all the trying to make me jealous games...and every so often mentioning how hot different women are and how much they want him ..

and then on top of that it can go weeks and months without him contacting me..so then i wonder if he does feel something for me why take so long to speak to me

but apart from those contradictions..what he has said to me does point in that direction

i do get a bit confused at time though...but you are right i do have to speak to him more and be direct with him

Posted by champranger
Actually, I want to correct saying ... you will not find out by waiting because he is not going to say it.

i really don't think he'l say it anyway

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Posted by candy10

i can't ask him that straight out..by the way are you in love with me? and what if i am way off the mark?

i mean some people seem to think that if he was in "love" with me he wouldn't play all the trying to make me jealous games...and every so often mentioning how hot different women are and how much they want him ..

and then on top of that it can go weeks and months without him contacting me..so then i wonder if he does feel something for me why take so long to speak to me

but apart from those contradictions..what he has said to me does point in that direction

i do get a bit confused at time though...but you are right i do have to speak to him more and be direct with him

What is it that YOU want? Just friends? More than friends? Express this answer to him. If just friends, then he will know to move on. If more than that, then he can stop thinking that you don't want him.

I think the mentioning of the different women is just to see how much he matters to you, if any.

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yes fair enough, i think i've avoided that topic for a while as he doesn't push it... and he seems to be getting on with his life..plus i don't hear from him now a lot of the time..

but then i always assume he'll be around

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Posted by candy10

i can't ask him that straight out..by the way are you in love with me? and what if i am way off the mark?

i mean some people seem to think that if he was in "love" with me he wouldn't play all the trying to make me jealous games...and every so often mentioning how hot different women are and how much they want him ..

and then on top of that it can go weeks and months without him contacting me..so then i wonder if he does feel something for me why take so long to speak to me

but apart from those contradictions..what he has said to me does point in that direction

i do get a bit confused at time though...but you are right i do have to speak to him more and be direct with him

What is it that YOU want? Just friends? More than friends? Express this answer to him. If just friends, then he will know to move on. If more than that, then he can stop thinking that you don't want him.

I think the mentioning of the different women is just to see how much he matters to you, if any.

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yes fair enough, i think i've avoided that topic for a while as he doesn't push it... and he seems to be getting on with his life..plus i don't hear from him now a lot of the time..

but then i always assume he'll be around

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Posted by candy10

i can't ask him that straight out..by the way are you in love with me? and what if i am way off the mark?

i mean some people seem to think that if he was in "love" with me he wouldn't play all the trying to make me jealous games...and every so often mentioning how hot different women are and how much they want him ..

and then on top of that it can go weeks and months without him contacting me..so then i wonder if he does feel something for me why take so long to speak to me

but apart from those contradictions..what he has said to me does point in that direction

i do get a bit confused at time though...but you are right i do have to speak to him more and be direct with him

What is it that YOU want? Just friends? More than friends? Express this answer to him. If just friends, then he will know to move on. If more than that, then he can stop thinking that you don't want him.

I think the mentioning of the different women is just to see how much he matters to you, if any.

yes fair enough, i think i've avoided that topic for a while as he doesn't push it... and he seems to be getting on with his life..plus i don't hear from him now a lot of the time..

but then i always assume he'll be around

🙂

And what you have mentioned seems pretty normal to me. So I wouldn't think those are any indications of his interest, or lack of.

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i suppose..but i do get those people who say "if he was in to you, he'd call" lol