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Im back at square 1.

We all know my infamous tale of the two ill fated lovers -me the aquarius and my capricorn guy-

Well..I know im opening myself up to all types of intense cruel criticism by even posting here but I dont mind. I like getting others perspective and it wont bother me one bit to see it from someone elses eyes.

We last left off with me and cap being A okay. We talked weekly...which was enough to satisfy my appetite. I am still in new jersey while he is in georgia. I will finally be returning to Georgia next week. I am happy to go back.

However, although things were fine in the month of June with cap guy, July is totally a different story. I had not heard from him in three weeks and three days (yep i counted it...marked it on the calender..was that annoyed) In the time that passed where I did not hear from him, I called him 4 times. No call back from him. I send texts to my friends telling them about little daily things going on in my life, I send them to him as well..usually he will respond...but no response from him either this whole time frame. All of a sudden he pops back up last week with a story about him getting promoted at work and having traveled all over the country these last few weeks doing things for work. Basically with his promotion he works less hours and gets more money...but still has more to do in a small time frame.

While I am happy for him, Im not sure if I can just ride this one out. We went for practically a month without speaking. He just vanished. And then he comes back like everythings all handy dandy and once more he is the concerned friend and serious love interest. This is pissing me off, I dont want to bring it up yet but I feel like once I go to Georgia it will have to be addressed. He claims he wants to seriously talk to me in a romantic way...but he is not pulling through in the action department. He was even telling me about how many women he ran into on his trips that wanted to sleep with him. But he didnt feel the need or want to sleep with them. Bragging now? Normally I would drop a guy like this like a ton of bricks. But he was my close friend first making it hard for me to completely label him as a bad guy. Take that plus the fact that I truly do like him, even when he treats me badly...I feel like im falling hard...but I dont want to tolerate this bullshit.

And I feel like maybe he just reappeared right before I am going back to Georgia because he knows I will be in the area again. That he will be able to see and talk to me and have someone there physically for him at home. I dont want to be used like that

I know once again he cares...because when I truly do need him for serious things he comes rushing to my aid...but as far as this love story goes...he is sucking majorly in the ability to balance any type of relationship. It seems to be all about him...
I want to smack him back to reality next week. There will be a conversation, I just dont want to have it over the phone.

Any advice or comments would be lovely! I need them lol...Help me keep sane.

lol that was short sweet and to the point. gracias. now lets see if i can truly do that...im so sprung..gonna be hard

true simply...i am giving him way too much of an advantage just because he was my close friend. He is getting all these perks and benefits and I am getting squat. 😢
I just got to get out of the mind state that because he was my friend first that he wont intentionally mean to do me harm...its time to face the music...no more chances

lol its funny you mention that book cause I just bought it!
I normally dont act like this but he has me just feeling all types of ways. 😢
I have read half the book so far and I agree with most of what it says.

Its hard for me to do the no contact thing. I would practically die of agony wondering whether or not he was thinking about me. Heh.

But my situation is worse cause I havent seen him for 3 months already...and then to miss out on not seeing him once im in the vicinity...its mad! lol...

I was thinking more along the lines of a reunion just to say hey..and then i quietly make my disappearance. I just need to see him up close once to keep my sanity. I probably wont have that conversation. I want to though. I want him to know I do not tolerate that bullshit. But I wont bring it up. Itll be hard but it might be a good way to do it.

Hmmm.... he doesn't sound like he's serious or ready for commitment. The double-talk of bragging about women (i.e. sending you mixed messages) is a huge sign of his immaturity/insecurity. I wouldn't have any big talk about the disappearance. That's typical Cap male behavior, especially for being out of town and in work transition mode. I'd take the chance to see him... If he wants to get intimate, then you could bring up "what is the deal here"? I like Bull's advice otherwise of "no contact" when they start "misbehaving" yet you don't have an exclusive relationship to demand too much.

The girl comment was def stupid and immature on his part.

I think right now you're stressing over nothing. Just hang out with him and see how it goes. Then, reevaluate.

If he's been knowing that you were going to come back to the area and disappeared, he probably just figured he'll see you when you get there. No big deal.

your all right in your own ways.
I am just gonna see him when I go back as planned. Just a quick dinner date on my terms.....and definitely no late night visit! as if he didnt already have enough control on my mind...we dont want the body to be influenced as well 🙂

I have to stop being the classic daydreamer girl and just be normal me like I was before we took this step into romance. If he wants to catch up then he can...but i just cant wait around on him anymore.

Will give you all update on what happens after next weeks dinner date. Need to see how things progress before I decide anything else for sure.

heh...and yes caps do make you crazy...sigh....