How do you know is an Aqua girl might be into you?

Howdy All,

Been a while since I've been on the site. Just a question for all you Aqua girls out there: How do you know if a Aqua girl might be into you?

The background: At my job, there's this cute girl that's worked here long before I came on over a year ago. Our interactions were usually limited to me asking her for some help on things and we didn't talk to much at all.

However, in the past few months, I began to notice that she dressed a little better than in the past. She didn't dress outlandishly but it was a subtle upgrade over how she dressed in the past. I think was due to a change in our job's management so dressing up a little bit was to make a better impression.

Then in recent weeks, I've gotten an opportunity to talk to her alone. She's sort of reserved and it's hard to get her to talk about herself too much. However, she is a little more friendly these days. I've been tempted to try and ask her out but held back due to the "co-worker" issues.

However, I compromised by just asking her to lunch during a work day. In the past, she was difficult to get to go out to lunch with, but she agreed immediately but said we should bring along one of our other female co-workers. I wasn't exactly in position to say "No" obviously, so the three of us had lunch.

Just curious what you Aqua folks think. This isn't the first time I've tried chasing an Aqua female. However, the last time we many years ago and the last Aqua female definitely was different than the one now.

I agree with aqi when she feels confortable enough to go out with you alone she will.
Your patience will be tested for sure.

"I find a lot of Aqua women trip on their tongue if they REALLY like a guy."
It happens...but when I find myself acting like this I either stay away from them b/c their nothing but trouble or I remind myself he's just a guy...

Aquaj is right even if you come to the point of going out with her alone doesnt mean she sees you that way (currently doing this exact thing to a guy myself). Women know from the beginning what they want out of a man (friendship/relationship/sex wise).
the best thing is to build the friendship.

Hey all,

Thanks for the responses. Here's some more info:

To be honest, I am not 100% sure if the Aqua girl has a BF. I'm not usually that direct to ask. 😄 However, one of my MALE co-workers (a Capricorn) tried to really dig into Aqua's personal life and even asked the Aqua girl is she had a BF. The answer was along the lines of "I have a lot of "boy" friends". BTW, The Cappy is attached to a girl that lives out of the country so he isn't really chasing the Aqua girl. The Cappy guy is just curious about people and likes to ask a lot of questions (which the Aqua girl deflects by not answering or giving vague answers).

As far the "FEMALE" co-worker goes, man, she PUT me on the spot several times during lunch. She asked a question since I mentioned I was looking to buy a house: "Are you looking to buy a house first or a girlfriend".

Later, the female co-worker made a joke when Aqua girl said sometimes she has trouble saying "NO" to the bosses at work. The lady said to the both of us: "What if you ask the Aqua girl to marry her?". All of us got a laugh out of it.

I couldn't help to think that the female co-worker knew something I didn't and maybe was just trying to push the process along. Just a guess. I don't really know what kind of impression I made to be honest.

At this point, Aqua girl doesn't talk too much about her personal life. Most of our discussions have been work related and not a lot of personal. I am hoping she will open up sooner or later so I can get to know her.

I'm an Aries and I'm not the most patient guy in the world. However, recent experiences have taught me a little patience is good. I will give the Aqua girl some time to find her footing and see where things go.

One BIG plus for me though: I definitely can make the Aqua girl laugh. My friends always note I have a good wit/sense of humor. I think a lot of people like that and hopefully that'll keep me in good standing. 😄

bling,

this is the reason so many women are single and on dating sites along with their male counterparts. Guys have become pussies about asking a chick out. Just do it...nack in the days men had a thivker skin about rejection, what happened.
And as for the 'nothing but trouble' guys.....I dont usually go for guys who every other girl goes for so I stay away.



coach,
"She won't hint that she likes you, even if she does, because she doesn't really know you, so she doesn't trust you with knowing."

Aqi is so right.

....oot stcepsa rehto ni taht ekil ylbaborp s'ehs,troffe na ekam t'nac kcihc eht fi

huh?
🙂

pppssshhhh.

I find a lot of Aqua women trip on their tongue if they REALLY like a guy.

-exactly, AND honestly if you have to put that much work into it DON'T do it...you're better off setting your sights on someone who actually wants to get to know you, sans 3rd party.

oh boy, I do not feel the love in this room...poor aqua girls.

I do think we are VERY worth it though.

I do think we are VERY worth it though.

-i guess. from my past experiences it was always a mutual feeling between both parties and for the most part things progressed in a very easy going way. If I got any sort of vibe that girl was setting up roadblocks or was reluctant that would register as disinterest to me. Persuing someone in that situation would be a disservice to both parties...

you guess?


No no, you guys are confusing this 'shyness' with disinterest. If theres true disinterest we wouldnt even bother with you. YOU WILL KNOW.

For those guys who need the constant ego stroke...

an aqua girl is NOT for you.

*apathetic shrug*

lol

Are you sure its chicken??

Hey All,

Wow - didn't expect to start such a long winded discussion here. But I guess that is a good thing. Here's the take on my particular Aqua girl (which I sort of mentioned previously).

When I first met the Aqua girl (during my initial months at the job), I thought she was cute but didn't think much of her beyond that. She sort of kept to herself and that was the extent of things. That didn't stop me from trying to ask her to go to lunch with me a few times. It was just an attempt to be friendly, nothing more/nothing less (at least in my mind). However, she refused anyway and I stopped.

However, when my previously mentioned cappy co-worker somehow managed to convince Miss Aqua to go to lunch with us, that was a slight change. I let the Cappy dude do all the work though. He tried to asked a lot of personal questions that were rebuffed, etc, etc. I sort of just sat on the sideline and absorbed this. When a lady isn't open with you, it's best not to keep prying. So, instead of prying, I just kept discussion to work and occasionally other things that maybe were general enough without being too personal.

Through all of this, I sensed there might be an interest. I had a few chances to ask her out but beat around the bush too much. When another opportunity came up, I finally decided the safest thing was to go to lunch. There was little or no hesitation on her part. Just the co-worker was a requirement.

What does all of this mean? Nothing really. We had our lunch and the Aqua girl kept quiet for the most part. I talked more to the co-worker. I'm actually pretty talkative and can sustain a conversation. I just hope the other party will open up a bit. Perhaps you guys are right. The Aqua girl may be shy and holding out a bit.

To be honest, I'm not exactly in a rush. We'll see how things go.

Hi again,

Just curious: If an Aqua girl can be kind of cold, how do you actually break through? I think I am starting to see the slight awkwardness of things. I am pretty jovial and can talk up a storm.

However, Aqua's in general seem sort of above it all. I have many friends (male and female) that are Aquas. I can ramble on about all sorts of things and be happy or mad and my Aqua friends will just sit there and say "OK" without really involving themselves emotionally.

My particular Aqua girl now is somewhat the same though she laughs pretty easily. Alas, I'm trying to find the line between respecting her privacy but still showing some interest.

I guess I'm starting to remember my experiences with past Aquas. Being myself is no problem, but sometimes Aquas can seem so disinterested that you wonder if you are actually getting through.

Capgirlinlustwithleo,

You are right about work relationships. I admit I wavered on this idea for a while. i went through some things a few years ago that wasn't fun at work.

With my past experience in mind, I want to see if the gal is interested and see where things roll from there. If that means just being "friends", I can live with it for now.

We'll see how things go from there.

'She may appear Virgo-esque, but there's a playful, pervy, foul-mouthed little Saggi on the inside begging to be unleashed. That side is shown to very few, so if she does show you that side, consider it a green light.'

OMG, Ive noticed this about myself...the more comfortable I get with a person the more crass, uncouth, and blunt I speak....and the less patience I have with them.

Terrible, I know.

aguaaqi,

You took the words right out of my mouth. All this description of "shyness", "reserved" made me think I was dealing with a Virgo. In fact, I had a friend (long story) who's actually an Aries but definitely had a Virgo rising in her. It took a LONG time for me to break through the exterior to see the real person.

I'm almost thinking I'll have to become a detached observer as well.......see how she's going. 😄

LMAO!

ummmm.. we play it cool & cold, for a long time. It takes awhile to warm up to you. We have a shell tht will always come first, no matter what. If she chooses you to be her partner though, it will only be the both of you. Take it as a compliment. You will be as close to her core as anyone can get.

And I've never thought of the words "Freinds" like other ppl in other signs do. To everyone else "Friends" are those who call you all the time, come by your place, you go out drinking or whatever with them, yadda yadda .... nope!! A Friend to an Aqua (correct me if wrong guys/gals) is a person that you will consider leaving that shell for a few minutes or a few hours at the most to talk with for a bit before you retreat right back into it.

Some good advice so you know not to get your feelings hurt. Watch her other friendships, the way she deals with other ppl. You'll know what it takes.

Reading this is so real.
Talking about myself, if I have no romantic interest, it will be very clear that I'm not interested.
If I do, I would watch from far and see if I can trust you and then start to let down my guard slowly. But if I suspect it might not work out, I'll build my guard again.
Very complicated, huh?
I think as long as she's not rejecting you, you might have a chance. Take it slow to get to know her until she trusts you.

Sorry, one other question that I keep forgetting to ask for you Aqua girls - if you're NOT INTERESTED...how do you let people know?

I just want to know our of curiosity so I am don't go barking up the wrong tree. 😄

As far as how my Aqua girl is going, hmmm, can't say too much really. I haven't gotten much chance to try to even talk to her this week at work besides our occasional work related interactions (which hardly count).

I "caught her" stealing a few glances at me a couple of times and when she saw me looking toward her, she looked away. I guess this "viewing from a far" is no joke. 😄

Mexicantaloupes!

Viewing from a far...is VERY good.

He's an Aries, I suggest a leo.

So you rely on cloudy judgment notos.

I also suggest a scorpio...for fun 🙂

LOL, the one who always claims "Im the only aqua man here, dont listen to them."

Hmmm - Shy and Introverted = emotional immaturity? I don't know if that is 100% percent true, just like everything else said here.

i asked a question and a lot of people given their opinions. Will they be 100% correct? Probably not. Every situation is a little different even mine.

I have considered what people have said and will apply it as I see how the gal reacts. I don't think my gal is emotionally immature. I think she is like my other friend, who by nature is reserved until she trusts you. Then you will see the "real person" beneath the exterior.

Like any other guy, I have fallen for plenty of gals with the pretty exterior. I would hope that I can look past it and find the person INSIDE since that's what ultimately keeps people together.

(ok, off the soapbox now). 🙂

Hi Coach, I'm an Aqua female with an Aries boyfriend and we are like two peas in a pod. We compliment one another very well. We didn't fall for one another like wow I really want to be with them but we enjoyed our time together and liked one another and we grew on each other. What had led me to even want to give my boyfriend a chance was his confidence, sense of adventure and sense of humor.

The fact that she is glancing at you means she is probably thinking about you but isn't sure yet if you are what she wants. The fact that you can make her laugh is a good sign. That means you are able to affect her emotion in a positive way. We like to be around fun and interesting people.

I would suggest dreaming up something very different to do with her besides a lunch. Something that she might never suspect. We also love surprises. At least I do. I love it when the guy puts in some effort and makes me feel wanted and special. We also love adventure and to explore all things new. For example if a guy were to say to me I've been wanting to do some kayaking down the river and I've rented a couple of kayaks for us for the weekend and she says but I've never done that before then you say then we have that in common and it is something that we really must do so we can make an experiment of who can go the fastest, well now she has this challenge in front of her plus the opportunity of an adventure, much more appealing than would you have lunch with me? That is boring, and we do not like to be bored. Surprise her and entice her, have confidence, and keep making her laugh.

Now a guy will not get anywhere with me if he does not make his moves. If I am not interested, I will tell him once he does make his move but if he doesnt make his move, then I will never say anything at all. You must not fear rejection.
She at the very least will most likely become a very good friend to you over time if it doesn't become a romantic relationship and often we become involved with our friends into a romantic relationship.

Just an FYI, I could crush on a guy for months, years without ever telling him. If he doesnt make his move, then I move on despite my feelings. If you can get her to trust you, then you may have very wonderful and comfortable relationship where you each are providing one another what you desire.

Be unique, be fun, be interesting, be brave, be confident, be friendly, be nice and surprise her. If none of that behavior wins her ove

I see my post is truncated from above. I was saying if none of that wins her over then forget her. She has emotional issues and she will cause you too much frustration.

Good luck, I often think it is difficult for men to be with Aqua women because we do get lost in our thoughts. My boyfriend so often says sometimes I can say things to you but I just don't think it is reaching you. Then something will happen and I will say why didnt you say something and he will say I did, but who knows where you were. I do not know about the Aqua girl you like but for me, I am friendly to so many people and my boyfriend often gets stuck waiting for me while I am yakking away to my newest best friend who may only be my friend for that half hour I am making him wait. I think you have to have much understanding but it is ok to let your feelings be known. Just do not wine about it, offer a solution with alternatives if you do have a problem or issue and let us think about it and agree on what's good together. We love that teamwork approach.