Marking Territory

Do you Cappies like to mark your territory?

I've been seeing my Cappie for almost 5 months and he always leave some form of visible marking on my body from sex. We aren't "officially" bf and gf but we act like we are. So, I wonder if he leaves these marks intentionally to ward off any other potential pursuers or if its just him being kinky. For clarification, I'm speaking predominately of bite marks.

I always piss on the arm on the couch.

I like to bite too, though. Just not hard enough to leave a lasting mark.

cheeky - I think we're almost there. He had me meet his parents last week and has reserved the next 5 weekends with me. We're both in our 30s so parents was specially arranged. I just think he's freaked over commitment.

I was just wondering if this biting thing is a Cappie thing or just him.

Posted by CapTenn
I always piss on the arm on the couch.

LOL

What about hickeys? Or is that referred to as a bite mark.

lol, right?

Biting seems so bloody 😆

Posted by Wynter

Posted by CapTenn
I always piss on the arm on the couch.

LOL

What about hickeys? Or is that referred to as a bite mark.

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No hickeys -- that's for amateurs.

A nice bit impression into the skin FTW.

YES! I have marks every time after seeing my Cappy. He says he doesn't mean to but.. they are getting more visible. I have one on my arm right now and my friends have seen it and asked me. I haven't told anyone about my Cappy yet because I don't want it to be official until next summer, but he is so sneaky about getting me to talk about him!

He bites too...grrrrrr!!!

Yes, there's no hickeys involved. Just bite marks. First one was on my lower leg - that literally marked my leg for a good 2.5 months. Then butt cheek bite marks and upper back/neck line bites and scrapes. The bite marks are generally very clean bite marks. Two distinct rows of teeth lol

SunMoon - mine says he doesn't mean to either and that he doesn't realize he's doing it but I don't believe that at all.

Mine leaves hickeys. I think he's marking his territory, but that doesn't mean he wants to be official...those are two separate things.

Posted by stillwat3r
^true.

But i still don't think hes marking his "territory". Biting is just too common for caps for it to mean anything.

Look at this post and all the caps saying "yay" to biting myself included although i hadn't verbalized it yet.

Maybe so...I've never had a bite mark, sounds painful. But surely if he's always doing it, he knows it will leave a visible mark...

I don't have any bite marks from my capi - should I be concerned?

I honestly don't always remember when he's doing it either and the bite marks are so deep I'm shocked I didn't notice. I can't help but think he likes people noticing. Yes, we aren't official but everyone knows about me and that he's dating me.. and more and more I'm being involved in his life, even his work life and he's talking about us taking a holiday trip together. He just has always liked to mark me and I've never had anyone do that to me before so consistently. So i thought maybe its a Cap trait - based on this board I may be right.

It's not just the biting, either. He's just dominate in bed in general.

I'm not saying it's the same for everyone, but from my experiences, it's always been a territorial thing (even with Caps), especially when you're in the "where do we stand" phase. They may still be trying to figure things out, but don't want anyone else getting "their stuff".

My bf used to do the same thing...always leaving marks on my neck. He even told me before we became an item that he didn't want anyone else having me. After a while I had to tell him to stop...it's all cute until you have to cover them up.

Oh, I get the hand prints too but those don't stay for a long time although the last time left some longer-term marks haha.

Lol i dont think its a Cap trait, any man can leave biting marks scratches etc.

Marking territory is telling me straight in my face im yours and all that. Nothing else!

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Posted by hoolahoopsy
Lol i dont think its a Cap trait, any man can leave biting marks scratches etc.

Marking territory is telling me straight in my face im yours and all that. Nothing else!

+1

although i think statistically caps like rough play on the majority.

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Yeah i think theyre one of the fewest signs that are down for anything. Ive read their deepest fantasy is earthy erotical to punishment and bdsm!

It's not that I want it - I just find it curious. To be fair, I like rough sex as well. I just have never had marks left on me.

We have a deeper connection outside the bedroom as well. We speak daily and despite living far from each other we try to see each other as often as we can and he even lets me stay in his place alone and makes me feel at home. I've met most his friends and most recently his parents. He's starting to use "we" talk more often now and we're heading in a good place relationship wise.

I was just curious if there's an ulterior motive with the marking or if its just kinky sex - perhaps its just kinky sex. This element of "us" isn't a defining element or anything I'm using to gauge if we're serious or not. I look at all the other factors to determine that.

He does have a lot of female friends and recently mentioned one that was upset because the guy she's seeing won't call her his gf after a year and he thinks thats wrong.. so I know he has a time stamp as to how long he'll drag this out without saying something more official. From everything I've heard on this board 4-5 months dating isn't long in Cappie land - if it helps his venus is Aquarius which I heard is even worse.

Posted by cheekyfaerie

Posted by hoolahoopsy

Yeah i think theyre one of the fewest signs that are down for anything. Ive read their deepest fantasy is earthy erotical to punishment and bdsm!

I don't even wanna tell you the kinda porn I'm watching these days. 😄

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But the world must know! 😄

Oh, and guilty on the biting here.
I love straddling that fine line with a woman between pain and pleasure, taking her to that... edge where she can hardly take it anymore but doesn't want it to stop either.
Love those gasps 😛

^ True, I think Caps just like rough play too. My Cap said that sensuous sex and lots of kissing is something he does when in a relationship. He always says that he has more that I haven't seen yet because we're not official yet, and that the sex will be different/better when we're together.
Damned sexy goat enticing me... 🙂

OP: Sounds like he's trying to incorporate you into his life which is a positive sign relationship-wise. Is this something you want?

I would like a relationship with him and he knows that is the ultimate goal. He has only specified he likes the pace and I can see him moving things along action-wise.

Only reason I mentioned more about our relationship is because I wanted to clarify its not a FWB situation - its actually deeper and sexually exclusive. I think it was cheeky's comment stating words would be less manipulative than marks. I'd agree -I'd prefer the words, but right now I don't have them. He's a chatterbox but not when it comes to us.

I haven't told him to not leave marks. I don't mind them because they're not on my neck. My neck is no-no territory because its trashy. If its on my butt or something nobody sees that.