Question about new relationship with Cap M

Hi everyone! Pisces F here with a question concerning intimate relations with fairly new Cap M relationship.

Our first few encounters included sexual activity, among other things, with us both sharing that we felt our connection (in general) was special, and we both anticipated it going somewhere.

At one point I mentioned that I like to wait until I am in a monogamous relationship before beginning a sexual relationship, he said he was fine waiting. Well, sending wonderfully confusing mixed signals, I made the moves the next time I saw him and we ended up in bed together. (It's hard not to, ha ha!)

Well, for the last few weeks, we haven't done anything beyond kissed. He hasn't tried to make the moves in any way, while we continue to communicate often while away from eachother, and have even made plans months down the road. I'm quite secure with where this is heading so far.

But.. I'm also very curious about the fact we've basically moved backwards in the sex department, as if it never happened and we are building other things between us and waiting to be intimate.

Is it obvious that he is respecting my wishes? Is he simply being respectful?

Could he be too reserved to make the moves on me now for fear of rejection per what I said? If so, could it be frustrating him that *I* stopped making the moves?

I've never been in a situation like this before, and although I'm not incredibly concerned, and very interested in just letting it flow (and I hope it doesn't seem as if I'm complaining, because if he is simply being respectful of my wishes, then that's great) ... It just makes me really curious what he could possibly think about it. Anyone have any ideas or been in a similar situation?

With Caps it is about effort. He could be waiting for you to initiate and him to close which is what my Cappy does. Yes it is very hard to resist them 🙂

Enjoy!

Close, like close the deal? Hehe.

Thanks 🙂

I mean, if he is waiting for me, I should be waiting too right...? Until I've been asked for official GF status per what I said to him? Lol.

🙂

I've already send wishy washy signals once, best not to do it again?

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Haha, yes. 9/10 times i initiate, he
"Resists" which i think is his moment to collect himself and plan, then it's on. He closes the deal 🙂 I think it's a very clever way to make sure I don't get sick of him and keeps me wanting more.

Ahh I get it now! Plant the idea subtlety as we continue our interactions.. and the rest is up to him... 😉

That's a good idea.

Other thought, what if we just.. Aren't monogamous yet? I mean, I am not dating anyone else..... But gosh that'd be a bummer if he was. Based on our interactions and plans, I don't believe he is.. But..

But.

Ha.

Never assume
Anything with Caps. If u don't have a title, and i would now add, met his fam, friends and got the status on fb or whatever, he could still be on the field.

Met closest friends, and have been invited to thanksgiving, out of state.

No title, no internet stats.

Thanks SunMoonStars for your help 🙂

I like reading your posts on this board

PS, if it's helpful to anyone else who reads this.. He has scorp moon, aqua Merc venus and mars.. Libra rising.

No problem, im not an expert but hope my experiences can help!

Caps are hard to please

Tis the Cap/Pisces season?

Caps are easy to please, we are rather simple! we go after what we want with a gusto - but, don't play too hard to get or we'll decide you're not interested and say forget it! Our patience can wear thin. Show us your hand, we'll play ours, albeit rather strategically and to our advantage (we're not going to outright cheat to succeed in our endeavors, but we certainly will not allow ourselves to lose either). We do have great staying power though if we find you worth it and can be quite the rock for your anchor if you choose to dwell within our dark, black, pool of angst - uh, I mean of serene, calm, clear, mystery 😉

LOL lildol, that is awesome!

I think a Virgo or Taurus would have no problem pleasing a Cap, but as a Saggy, I find it hard. Maybe I'm just too cluttered and restless 🙂

Posted by LouLore
Hi everyone! Pisces F here with a question concerning intimate relations with fairly new Cap M relationship.

Our first few encounters included sexual activity, among other things, with us both sharing that we felt our connection (in general) was special, and we both anticipated it going somewhere.

At one point I mentioned that I like to wait until I am in a monogamous relationship before beginning a sexual relationship, he said he was fine waiting. Well, sending wonderfully confusing mixed signals, I made the moves the next time I saw him and we ended up in bed together. (It's hard not to, ha ha!)

Well, for the last few weeks, we haven't done anything beyond kissed. He hasn't tried to make the moves in any way, while we continue to communicate often while away from eachother, and have even made plans months down the road. I'm quite secure with where this is heading so far.

But.. I'm also very curious about the fact we've basically moved backwards in the sex department, as if it never happened and we are building other things between us and waiting to be intimate.

Is it obvious that he is respecting my wishes? Is he simply being respectful?

Could he be too reserved to make the moves on me now for fear of rejection per what I said? If so, could it be frustrating him that *I* stopped making the moves?

I've never been in a situation like this before, and although I'm not incredibly concerned, and very interested in just letting it flow (and I hope it doesn't seem as if I'm complaining, because if he is simply being respectful of my wishes, then that's great) ... It just makes me really curious what he could possibly think about it. Anyone have any ideas or been in a similar situation?

OMG! You sound insulted that he isn't making moves to have sex. Why is this so important to you?

Posted by LouLore
I mean, if he is waiting for me, I should be waiting too right...? Until I've been asked for official GF status per what I said to him? Lol.

🙂

I've already send wishy washy signals once, best not to do it again?

But you already did it.

Here's the problem. You said one thing, but did another. So, you say you wait until you're in GF status, but you SHOWED him what your words said aren't true. Words are nothing, actions are everything.

How is he supposed to believe what you say from now on?

I'm not trying to be mean, but you set yourself up for FWB.

Posted by LouLore
Our first few encounters included sexual activity

Posted by LouLore
At one point I mentioned that I like to wait until I am in a monogamous relationship before beginning a sexual relationship, he said he was fine waiting. Well, sending wonderfully confusing mixed signals, I made the moves the next time I saw him and we ended up in bed together.

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Is why I said what I said.

You can't say one thing and do another, not to a Cap anyway.

^^^ Exactly

Truecap - I've really enjoyed reading your input on this board, so thanks for the reply

I was afraid I had set myself up for fwb as well, but we are still spending time together without the benefits.

Hence my question, if it seemed obvious he is simply respecting what I asked for. OR is there no going back one you've already slept together, and this could fizzle soon due to confusion.

Just hoping someone might have an objective opinion on the subject.

Which there has been so thanks y'all.

Thank you Jancap! I was anticipating the reply of a male cap so I definitely appreciate it 😉

I was/am hoping this is the case. I will follow my instinct 🙂 it's hard to keep off. He is soo.. Calm. 😉

I think if he's spending time with you without sex, (especially after you've already done it), then he really likes you for you and not the sex. Best advice my daddy ever gave me on how to measure how much a man is into you.

Caps like to build the relationship foundation. So, that's what he's doing.

Just to update: all is well with cappy. More than well! He was totally waiting for me to make the moves.

Xoxo

Also, so I don't get any flack 😉 it's gettin a bit serious, and I'm confident we are exclusive. Way happy with this cappyyy

Posted by LouLore
Just to update: all is well with cappy. More than well! He was totally waiting for me to make the moves.

Xoxo

WooHoo! Happy for you both 🙂

Mmmm........a double Pisces with Sag rising. Hugs, sister 🙂.

Hold your Cap by the horns and keep the good work. Best of luck to you!

Thanks guys!

Undine: *hugs to you sister✨ - And will do =)