My cappy brother

Hey guys !! I have a cappy brother (jan.7)and he says that he tends to overanalyze information too much.Do yourself or someone you know (who is a cappy or virgo) tend to do the same thing ? Or my brother is the only one ?

I am a cappy and am often told I over-analyse everything. I am getting sick of being told that who I am is wrong, it is just the way we are and the world needs all types of people in it. We can't change how our minds work, we can just channel it into something productive. I am actually working as a computer programmer/data analyst so I am getting paid for being who I am which is the ultimate job. I admit that my mind automatically tries to solve emotional problems too but I have learned to just let it go through its processes and refrain from acting too impulsively on whatever conclusions it comes to. I have had to accept that there is not always a solution and I cannot control what other people do or how they feel about me. Its all about finding the right balance and understanding who we are. So tell your brother not to worry, to let his mind analyse and explore every possibility, he may not come up with 'answers' to every problem but he is bound to have some great ideas and profound thoughts which will be stored for future use at the right moment, just when someone needs to hear them.

I am a capricorn too, and I analyze relationsnips from A to Z.
I was not always so, until I realized that when and if I didn't (do that) I would most likely be taken for a ride. At least if the relationship goes sour, I know that I probably 'consciously' gave it my all, mind, soul and heart, in equal potions, and thus I can move on not feeling guilty, miserable or sad,... not even looking back.

For #168.

In what ways did you analyze these relationships before getting involved? In other words what were you looking for or NOT looking for? I know cappies are cautious, but I would like to know what it is that the guys do look for. Thanks for any insight.

# 199, that you for asking ~
I look for fidelity, honesty, vulnerability, consistency, commitment, and appreciation.
The flirtatious sweet talking type doesn't impress me a bit..!. I also apprecaite one who allows the relationship to take its own course, as opposed to a 'schemer'. No strings attached ,for either side, unless they both know and say so.
Honesty is also on top of my list, and while a little discretion in the beginning may be favourable, it is a no-no in my book, as well as playing hard to get once it becomes a habit, and I tell you I know men who play that part very well, even AFTER the relationship had its course, thinking this is a 'challenge'. Why, and what for?
However, someone who would take me for granted would better think twice . Working to keep the relationship 'alive' is a favourable every step of the way.

Pretty strange 168.187. I would have thought that a cappy would abhor such a thing? Although I can see how they would look for it in another person such as a partner however. I'm sure it would fall under the "just like myself but I'm afraid to show it" category huh? LOL

I'm crazy about a Cappy and with the exception of the vulnerability I'm everything he should be dreaming of!!! Or perhaps I am vulnerable and just don't know it? Possible.

I agree w/everything you've said however! Now if only most of the caps I know would feel the same way as you do. Can you explain what you meant by the paragraph which starts out with "honesty, etc. etc. etc."? Especially the discretion and habit part?

Hello 12.78
I guess I was trying to draw the line between being honest, and 'trying' to please or plain disctort the truth. When in a relationship, some men pretend to really like the woman, or be really interested in what she is saying, or doing, when in fact much of it has to do with his own ego and a lot of capricorn men say things that they don't mean at times, just to earn points, in 'listening', and saying less. Meaning what one says and saying what one means is not hard at all, if one 'relaxes'.
Sometimes a woman may be misguided by a 'talker' who likes to hear his 'own' sweet voice.

Sometimes what men say they want and what they are actually attracted to are not always the same thing. They may look right past someone who fits the above criteria and go for that intriguing elusive woman who fuels their fantasies. Their expectations probably get more realistic as they get older though. There are also a lot more things than star signs that cause attraction, ie psychological patterning from our cultures and families. When it comes down to it you either make a connection with someone or you don't. Every relationship we have is different and teaches us something new about ourselves and what works for us. I do admit that Cappies seem to especially get turned off by show-offs and manipulators. But that doesn't mean they will fall in love with you just because you are honest, and if you have to change yourself to for someone to like you then it is not a healthy relationship.