Need advice on a Capricorn man

I met a capricorn man on vacation 4 months ago and felt an amazing connection. I thought about the extraordinary feelings for almost 2 months before I decided to go back to see how I felt. When we saw each other, I unexpectedly told him how I felt and why I had come back to see him again. He was shocked. The next day he told me that he was attracted to me. We agreed that we should take it slow and would try to see each other in a few weeks. I called him when I got home (he had asked me to) but did not hear back so I called him again and he called me back the next day. I could tell that something was off. I emailed him 3 days later and he replied that he was not ready to get involved, especially long distance and that he thought that the disparity in our resources (I am more financially successful than him) would bother him too much. He said before things got too deep, it was best if we did not see each other again. I emailed him, poured my heart out, asked him to think about it and call me, if he changed his mind. He called me two days later and said that he wanted to see what could happen between us. I went to see him last week, at first, we had a great time, he took me to his home, but then he started to pull away. Things became awkward. We had a very honest conversation and he really opened up to me that he is just not ready to be in a relationship. He is trying to start a business, get his finances in order and asked for me to please understand. So I left early and after thinking about everything, I called him later that night and left a message that I did understand him (which I did) and that I was good with everything. I did not expect to ever hear from him again but he called less than 2 days later saying he didnt want things to end that way, that he was glad I understood he was not ready, could we be friends. He said he never opened up to a person like he did with me and he did it because he wanted me to understand him. I told him I did. The conversation was very nice, even though I was hurt, I thought there was closure. But he called me back that night, thanking me for my support. We talked during this week, we even talked about starting over. He told me he was a true capricorn. I called him back on Sat and have not heard back. He's gone silent on me. Any advice on his back and forth? It's driving me crazy? My brain says to forget him and move on. But my heart feels he is my soul mate. My feelings about him are very intense.

Thanks for your insight. It is helpful. Yes, I think he is afraid that our life style s are too different and that it would be too much of an adjustment for me - for us to be together. He has never been with a woman like me. And since he does not know me well - he is assuming I am a certain way. And I think he is struggling with his assumptions versus what could be. I guess I am learning he is a deep thinker.

Hi all,

Im new here and I too am dating a Cappie (older man early 50s) So I read 'the older divorced cappies are more content in thier lives and career takes a 'little' back seat to romance'....Hmmm not so. I met mine 5 mos ago and we live about 1 hr from each other, have younger at home kids each and so dating is a challenge, but always manage to get together weekly... this was GREAT. He was so attentive at first, affectionate with HOT texts, passionate and called twice sometimes 3 x day, (we even kissed for hours on our first date..yup!).... fast forward last 2 weeks or so. He is between 'busy and slow' at work (he owns his own co) and his lunchtime phone calls have slowed, he always called as he was taking HIS lunch and I guess thats a control thing, we talked everynight too. Now Im calling HIM at lunch time these last few days, and our dates are slowwwwing down. Weekend drama with the exe and kids and such... Why the sudden change in tempature.. I read so many of these helpful blogs and thought I would see if I get a different answer with the older cap males. I guess they are ALL the same.. We have never discussed feelings, he is always holding my hand when we go out in public, kisses me in public and is still affectionate when we are together, but the hot texts have stopped... zipo, nada. I dont know what to do about asking him to open up to me....OK guys any ideas. Im in my late 40s btw. So not out to date alot, I want to settle down with someone and I felt he was too.... although never discussed.....