Need advice on Capricorn man

We were friends for a long time and he was pursuing me at one point. We hit it off, and though we're opposites we compliment one another well. We got in a big fight and said some very very harsh things to one another. I was reacting to him lecturing to me, and ranting and just harping on me period. I got tired of it. This was back in June. Now a few weeks ago I reached out and we spoke briefly through text. And again today we spoke I said happy thanksgiving he said you too sweetheart. I miss him, and just wanna be friends again. Is there anything I need to be doing/saying to show him that that I haven't done already? I took it as a good sign that he replies back to my texts and that he even texts me on his own. I prefer Caps or people who dealt with Caps for a long time to reply to this.

right i have to answer this as you seem to be in a similar situation to me.
but can i ask.....out of interest what is your sign??

i was friends (still am) with a cappy. he pursued me in the beginning but i wasnt in 'that place' at the time. so we kept having petty arguments over absolutely nothing, he would get really vicious with his words (not sure if this is his scorp venus tho)

however he would always come back to me. i would have said fine thats enough for me. yet he would txt me a day l8r if nothing had ever happened.

you will find caps really resilient like this if they like you. they are also very missable. what else do you want to know?

Same thing for first 2 paragraphs. I just want to know how to get to be friends again. Is it too forward for me to say I miss you, and I want to be friends again? I feel like I've said every other small talk thing where I can't bullshit around I gotta come out with it. We could've had something but he can be too blunt and its ironic cause he is also sensitive. He knows when he's being too harsh but he does it anyway and he will find a way out of nothing to criticize. I know sounds like a winner right.. but he is a good person, with good intentions and I want that in my life. I am a Cancer.

HA!!!

I am a Capricorn female who dated/and was engaged to a Capricorn male (7 year relationship) so yes I know caps VERY well. My sister (a cancer is also engaged to a Capricorn male) and I have helped her understand him many, many times and prevented her from saying/doing some pretty stupid things.

First understand we are both very complex and very simple to. We don't love easy, but we do love deep when that actually occurs..and yes when we are angry/hurt we can be unbelievably harsh. We do —harp?? on people and can be very critical (a feature I am trying to eliminate in my close relationships) but we honestly don't mean to hurt them (well sometimes but only while angry). We are actually trying to help them improve in some way (silly I know) and trust me.. if we REALLY care about you we will constantly sulk over anything we've said or done that could have hurt you in any way. Now the cap man however may be verbally impulsive (but usually not as harsh as the female) but they more withdraw than anything and you will have to know when to give him his space and when to go after him.

—I took it as a good sign that he replies back to my texts.?? This is not necessarily a good sign we will reply out of courtesy even if we don't like you.

—he even texts me on his own?? — This is a better sign as we can be very busy but, if he's texting you on his own then this means you are on his mind (for what exactly is another issue).

Also...

"Is it too forward for me to say I miss you, and I want to be friends again? I feel like I've said every other small talk thing where I can't bullbutter around I gotta come out with it. We could've had something but he can be too blunt and its ironic cause he is also sensitive."

It's best to be as forward as you can. We are generally cautious and he may need some prodding if he feels he may be rejected. HOWEVER, be prepared that he may reject you initially, as a way of protecting himself. If he genuinely cares and trusts you (and his heart with you) he will come around.

Now yes we are extremely blunt. That will not change as he/we don't do this to be hurtful but sometimes are??_are you sure this is something you can or want to deal with?

Actually no we are generally not sensitive because we usually don't give a flying fiddle what people think??_BUT we are extremely sensitive when we care about a person and their thoughts/views of us. I hope this helps??_

Good Luck and be patient??_we require a lot of understanding and time but we are so worth it in the end. You will never have a more loyal, loving, or a more compassionate partner.

Cusp of Magic - They have been dating 1.5 years (almost to the day), they met at work. They started slow and she actually had to pursue him, but once his mind was made up that he wanted her they have gotten incredibly close. They finish each other's sentences and do make an incredible match.

"She's a lucky girl... he proposed after only a year & a half that's not so bad. From what I hear, some cap men can take years & years to make up their mind about you or feel safe with you."

That's funny, my ex-cappy proposed to me after about 16 months of dating, but purchased the ring about 14 months in. I was the one who dragged my feet about the whole marriage thing .... : )

prettyladii: snowball is right on the money. we are so loyal and loving to those we feel safe with giving our time and hearts to. blanket statement - just keep being loyal and steadfast in your friendship with him and he will not only respect your dedication and forthrightness but will become your greatest supporter and friend in return. don't give up. cappies are worth it. never, never give up, and your cappy will never give up on you. xoj

We are talking again.. i'll let you all know how it goes.