No shot at all or is there still hope

So I originally posted this in the relationship forum and it hit me what better place to put it than the Cap forum.

Posted by InTheCloud
I am a Cancer female, he is a Capricorn male.

So a few months back I ran into this Capricorn male. we Frequent the same area but we never really spoke to one another with the exception of a few question he asked me and I gave him rushed answers and was not of more help ans a few time when I just asked questions in a group situation and after a few moment of silence he answered.

So from the beginning I noticed in my round about cancer way that he would stare at me. Naturally having a crush on him I was too nervous to return the stare so I revert to avoiding looking at him. Fast forward a 2 weeks ago he caught me looking at him and as soon as our eyes met I looked away feeling I just got caught doing something terrible. so after looking down at my desk for while I because I though he was still looking I turned and spoke to the person next to me and never looked back at him.

I also would also step away from groups when I so that he would be more likely to speak to me if it was just the two of us. Except I would freeze and make my self look really busy when he would head in my direction at which point he would sit nearby quietly until someone else came along.

So now I noticed he does not look at me anymore at least no that I have noticed. I attempt to make eye contact with him more often but every time our eyes meet he shifts his gaze away. I get the feeling he is ignoring me. but then yesterday I noticed he looked at me for while as I was approaching and speaking to a friend. So I have no idea if he is still interested or not. and we are running out of time because in a few weeks I may never see him again and I do not want to go through the whole shoulda woulda coulda spiel.

Seems like both of yall are too shy and too afraid to step up.

Maybe plan a party and invite him? See if he shows?

When you look at him, look sad like something is wrong. Hopefully he will offer you some help...

So I saw him again today. he straight up ignored when he new I was there. Even caught him staring at another girls butt smiling when she was near him. Heck he was joking with everyone who went near him and just as it was my turn to head there (because we were using somethings near his desk) I might as well have been invisible because the smile disappeared from his face and he did not once look at me. Heck we were next to each other at one point and I laughed at some of his comment and never once looked at me.

he was speaking to someone who was speaking to me before he came along and she actually interrupted our conversation to speak to him. and I just went quiet and stopped talking he and I were on opposite sides of her and I he kept stepping around her every once in a while in my line of sight and he would disappear. every time I appeared to raise my head in their direction he would move so that she was directly between us and I could not see him. Every time I try to appear interested in a conversation he is having with others in a group he turns his back or just move where he is no longer visible to me but then I notice he always slightly turns in my direction from time to time. Is this typical Caps behavior?

later on he kept putting himself in my line of sight when we were huddled together even when I would move so that he could no longer see me he would inch his way in until he were visible to each. This is why I am so confused. When I am in my usual spot he ignores me completely then when in an area were I purposely try to hide from him he manages to face me. This is so frustrating, I think I will give up.

I guess this is why they say communication is key between cancers and cap. Because we are trying to say the same thing in different languages.

Since there is not much to go on I am going to assume away. Correct me if I'm wrong. You are in school together and before semester ends you want to find out if this could be something to work on?

You could do something really simple, imo, like ask to borrow a pen or whatever, just to see his reaction. But wouldn't it be strange to walk accross the entire classroom(or wherever you are) and ask a guy you hardly ever spoke to if you could borrow a pen or something? Yes it would, in a good way, imo. He then knows your interested and then he can do whatever he wants with that info. Back straight, look him in the eyes and ask.

I did something similar with a guy I liked years ago(not in school, though) and we ended up together...just for a few months, sure, but the technique worked. He saw right through me, which was the point, and he took the bait. Done done done. 🙂

I don't know if this is applicable in your case, but maybe you could find some variation of the theme?

Yeah I been working a scenario of borrowing something from him and hopefully it happens. Because it is contengent on me running into him before any of my classmates or pretend that I asked them already and they could not get them to help. Maybe I should just insert myself in group conversations instead going mute as soon as he shows up. Thanks

When I was young, I was so scared and shy, I would actually avoid anyone I had a crush on. I'd be so excited to see them, yet, scared to talk to them. Thank GOD I finally grew up. lol!

And, note: When someone interrupts me, I just ignore them and keep talking as if they're not even there. Then when I finish what I'm saying, I'll finally aknowledge them and ask what it was they needed. It shows you're confident and lets them know right up that they aren't allowed to interrupt you. Of course, I've been told I have b*tch persona, but I don't care. People don't walk all over me.
*scorpio rising gets the blame for that*

Posted by InTheCloud
Yeah I been working a scenario of borrowing something from him and hopefully it happens. Because it is contengent on me running into him before any of my classmates or pretend that I asked them already and they could not get them to help.

Balarky!!! You chose HIM to ask and that's what lets him know you're interested.

No pretending!!! Be genuine. You haven't asked them yet. You wanted to ask him.

Posted by truecap

Posted by InTheCloud
Yeah I been working a scenario of borrowing something from him and hopefully it happens. Because it is contengent on me running into him before any of my classmates or pretend that I asked them already and they could not get them to help.

Balarky!!! You chose HIM to ask and that's what lets him know you're interested.

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Exactly!

Posted by truecap
No pretending!!! Be genuine. You haven't asked them yet. You wanted to ask him.

Agreed again!

His ignoring has gotten to me so much I am starting to think I imagined his actions earlier. I wonder if he took me looking away when he caught me staring and never attempting look back as a slight. But it changed after that.

I am trying how fast do caps abandon crushes and he seems very comfortable with everyone else, not shy at all. Same with me I laughe and kid with evryone but him.

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Posted by InTheCloud
Yeah I been working a scenario of borrowing something from him and hopefully it happens. Because it is contengent on me running into him before any of my classmates or pretend that I asked them already and they could not get them to help.

Balarky!!! You chose HIM to ask and that's what lets him know you're interested.

Exactly!

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I guess. I know I have to let go of my crab tenndencies to protect myself and take a leap of faith.

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Posted by InTheCloud
Yeah I been working a scenario of borrowing something from him and hopefully it happens. Because it is contengent on me running into him before any of my classmates or pretend that I asked them already and they could not get them to help.

Balarky!!! You chose HIM to ask and that's what lets him know you're interested.

Exactly!

I guess. I know I have to let go of my crab tenndencies to protect myself and take a leap of faith.

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That's right. Go get him! What have you got to lose? Please keep us posted! 🙂

Will do.

Posted by FrenchKpricorn
Tell me how do you want to be courtised, as a cap male I have this problem with many girl, let me take notes

For me is simple, come over and introduce yourself and ask me for my name. I always figure a guy who asks for my name in a social setting is either interested in me or knows someone who is. From that moment on I will feel at ease approaching him. Even if I already knows his name like in my case the proffessor calling on him. I still would rather he introduces himself.

So I finally spokevto him today, it was nothing much just asked a few question about our final class project.

He was going to ignore me again until I said hello and he seemed very much into the conversation and was eager to help. And that was it. Now I have no idea how to go from there.

May I ask: do you normally greet each other when you see each other? Not necessarily by approaching each other, but at least a hi or a nod or some kind of aknowledgement?

Posted by HappyCapper
May I ask: do you normally greet each other when you see each other? Not necessarily by approaching each other, but at least a hi or a nod or some kind of aknowledgement?

No we walked by each other like 2 complete strangers

Really? Then stop that immediately - you have talked to the guy many times now. Just say hi...or something... to him whenever you see each other. This creates familiarity and is very effective, imo. It's not something that may create an immediate result, but it may over time and I don't think there's a reason why you shouldn't do it anyway, tbh. Just do it. Has he said or done anything of interest since your last talk?

Posted by HappyCapper
Really? Then stop that immediately - you have talked to the guy many times now. Just say hi...or something... to him whenever you see each other. This creates familiarity and is very effective, imo. It's not something that may create an immediate result, but it may over time and I don't think there's a reason why you shouldn't do it anyway, tbh. Just do it. Has he said or done anything of interest since your last talk?

we barely spoke before more like he asked "do you know what pg she said to concentrate on?" and me "sorry not sure" (really was not sure) that was how our previous convos went. About 3-4 times very brief. today's conversation was the longest one we had. so it really wasn't long. We finish next week so we barely have time and I see him once a week.