Not sure what to do...

Okay, I"m going to try and make this as short as I can. I went to school with this cap and always had a alittle thing for him, but never spoke to him. A few years later he came into my work and I forced myself to introduce myself. We chatted for a few minutes, but that was about it. About a week later I found him on myspace and he accepted my freind request. I believe he was in a relationship at that time, but about three months later he contacted me. We began emailing each other back and forth once or twice a week. He asked me everything under the sun and answered any questions I had about him. This went on for a few months, but nothing ever progressed. Always just talking. Well, in this process my ex kinda came back into the picture and we started to work things out. When the cap guy found out I was shocked to see he seemed alittle sad about it, but wished me luck in my relationship. We didn't speak for about two months and things with my current boyfriend weren't working out as great as I was hoping. And my 'could be' cappy was always in the back of my mind. He popped up on myspace chat one night and started talking to me again. We talked for around 4 hours the first night and 6 the second! I had no idea i had that much to say/listen to. On the second convo we exchanged numbers. We began texting and talking on the phone every couple of days and he finally asked me to hang out. Well I started to feel bad because I was still with my boyfriend and didn't want to cheat. the cap and i talked about it and decided it would be best if we didn't hang out and soon after I broke up with my bf. I didn't talk to the cap until he noticed that i was single and asked me alittle about it. he was pretty standoffish for about 2 weeks but later told me it was because he didn't know if i would get back with my ex or not. We ended up hanging out at his house for about or 7 hours just talking and laughing. He made mention a couple times that he was having a lot of fun and doesn't usually connect this quick to girls. Said he wanted to take me out again and we ended the night with a simple hug. After that I got alittle overwhelmed and maybe pushed things alitle too hard. I wasn't waiting for him to contact me first like i was before, however i was only contacting him about once a week. I never asked him to hang out or anything, just talked. Eventually he kinda stopped responding to me or gave really short answers.

So after his bday, i stopped contacting him all together. I didn't hear from him for about a month and the day after Valentines Day he popped online and started a convo with me. Asked how i was doing and my mom (who is alittle sick right now) and mentioned that we hadn't talked in a long while. Then he asked me how my valentines day was and i told him. I asked him and he said he's never had a good one. So we continue talking about stuff here and there and then he asks me again, but this time it was what i did and if i went on a date or anything. I gave him the run down on my day in a more thorough sense and he replied with his. So neither one of us are dating anyone...or at least we didn't have a date on valentines day lol. so I thought that was weird and then that saturday he asks me if i have any plans for that night. I couldn't because of work. He was like "oh I was hoping I could do something fun tonight" lol instead he ended up hanging out with his best friend and his fiance. the cappy and his friends fiance do NOT get along. I"m guessing that if I had said i was free he was going to bail on them and hang out with me? or have me come along?? not sure. But i promised myself i wouldn't contact him at all. The only time i did was to update him on my mom (which he asked me to) and that turned into a 2 hour convo. So my ultimate question is, do you think I'm wrong in thinking that he is interested? and maybe because i got alittle eager he decided to back off at first? Should I continue not contacting him and let him initiate conversation?

I'm so very sorry this was so long. I know i said I would make it short....oh well

From what I'm gathering he doesn't really hang out with people much. He has a set little group of 2 or 3 guys, but normally he's with his family. Before I started contacting him at all he was calling or whatever about once every 3 to 4 days actually. and we would talk for an eternity it seemed like. He did actually flirt with me several times, but I'm really shy about flirting with someone I'm not completely comfortable with yet. I hope he didn't think i was brushing him off. I"m guessing I've done a few things to maybe bruise his ego too. Like getting back with my ex while we were talking and then rushing in and taking over the initial contact. I don't normally do that but I can't think straight when he's on my mind!

I don't think it will be too hard to me not to contact him (i hope) I was able to do it before and I've been keeping busy with different things so hopefully he can put in the back of my mind a bit.

thanks 🙂

Thank you both. 🙂 It helps to finally write/type this out. I was able to kind of look at things as a whole and read into the details of things he's said and done as well. If that makes sense. But mostly I'm glad I got some advice on it. My friends don't really know for sure what i should do and I know i'm annoying them with talking him so much. But he's a really neat person overall and very talented. I want to take things slow, I'm very patient. and I plan on treating him as a friend unless he initiates more again sometime.

Anyways thanks! 🙂