Ok Cappies I Need a little insight (for a change

First of all let me say that Im used to being on the other end of this give and take. Over the years Ive tried to tell it straight over on the scorpio board without the candy coating and for the most part it has been appreciated. I find myself in a complex situation that I could either walk away from or stay the course as originally intended. Theres a lot at stake here and I take this situation very seriously (as any good Scorpio would) lol perhaps thats why Im in this mess. I hope anyone who responds will take a second to see my viewpoint and intent before posting. Im not so much looking for advice as I am for insight from all you Cappies out there. Im not crazy , Im not stupid or naive. Im just in love........ or is it all the same—?? BTW I was married to a cappie for 14 years and this one is different and the attraction is based on a different dynamic.
It will sound like a bad soap opera but please bear in mind that
art imitates life and sometimes vice versa.
Bored yet—?? you wont be. I cant believe Im going worldwide with this but
sometimes you have to take leaps of faith and trust your instincts. OK HERE GOES:

6 months ago one of my roomates nieces came to stay with us. Shes beautiful but she wears a countenance of indifference most of the time. Whenever we interact however she turns into someone else. I worked in mental health for 9 years and Im very good at observing and reading people. This girl has 2 personalities , one she shows to the world, very boisterous, forceful and dramatic, and the one Ive seen, which just melts me. Its as though she has adopted this over the top personality as a defense mechanism and only shows her true self whenever she thinks nobody is looking. Problem is that Im always looking (but she seems to know this). We share many traits , too many to list, but enough to keep me constantly amazed that someone else thinks like I do. Its as though she had a study guide on me. She says things in group situations that nobody else pays any attention to or understands, except myself and when she says them they are exactly what she needs to say although to some these statements may seem odd. We both have a tendency to rationalize out loud and work without a net. We say what we think regardless of whether the people we are speaking to get it or not. Sometimes it takes them a while to get it, sometimes it just flies over their heads......... Doesnt matter to us ; we've told them whats what. Shes intelligent
beyond imagination, shes a writer like myself and she shows her true self in her writings . But in public shes loud, brash, rude, and often offensive. She has adopted this quasi ghetto persona which irritates the hell out of me because I know her true self, her inner child if you will . Actually my inner child is in love with her inner child because it is truly wonderful to behold.

NOW FOR HER DRAMA..........She was molested as a child by her fathers best friend and business partner. When her father confronted the man he had a heart attack and died on the spot. She witnessed the whole thing so Im sure she got some satisfaction out of it.She was also abused by many of her mothers Man friends and even by her own brother, who took her in when she had nowhere to go and then took advantage of the situation. When she came to stay with us she was breaking away from an abusive relationship with a man who beat her and on more than one occasion had her jumped by females he was also dating. He also had one of his "homies" attempt to rape her, while she was pregnant with his baby, which she later miscarried. Ive heard that she had also been "sold on the streets" to men.
I was attracted to her from the moment I met her, there was something in her eyes that hypnotized me and still does but only when were one on one. In a group of people she puts up her walls goes on the offensive and wears that mask of indifference, which I recently found out w

walk away honey!! I'm sorry your feeling this way... but it sounds as if hse needs to work on herself before she can except a "REAL MAN" like you. Maybe talk to her Aunt and see if her Aunt can talk her into some counceling. Shes been drug through the mud and does not know what its like to have a decent man. And until she can see that she is worth more she will continue to act like this. I wish I could hug her! She will be in my prayers! You cant help her she has to help herself!! good luck


GEG~

hi and wow,
i'm almost speachless...what you've described is very close to me. 1/4 is my birthday. close, but not in every way. i, too, for a long time thought sex was love. only now, late in life, do i understand that is not true, even though to have great sex with love is my, and everyone's goal. i must ask the age of this girl and of you. from my point of view, i need a man who is strong, confident, one who can make me smile from within (because of saturn's hold on me, i need to laugh as much as possible), and one who will melt my heart and body. i adore scorpios. more then they can know. i have one now who just practically owns me, but i can't let him know that. he's younger then me, and it is very complicated. if you love her, and she is of the age that she is ready for a commitment, if that is what you want, take all the strength you've got and let her know it. she might hesitate at first, but then you will see her slowly show her true feelings. we caps are SO cautious. my feelings are that she's young and, yes, still trying to find love through sex. see, you being a scorpio will (sexually) make her really find herself. which is basically what she is trying to find. but let me warn you, make sure this is what you want. caps do not like being messed with.