OK to ask a cappy guy out?

Hi everyone~ I am wondering...since I had a thing with my first cappy guy, I am kind of careful for this third one. Is it OK to take an initiative asking a cappy guy out? Do they like it? Or they always want to be the one to ask me out? My third cappy and I went on dates three times now and every time he asked me out. Now I am wondering if I take an initiative, would he be OK with it?

Of course Peach. Sometimes I think they'd kind of find it flattering to be asked out. It's different and unique and didn't you say he had some sag in him. Sagitarrius' love adventure. 🙂

Yes, his venus is Sag. No wonder I have several Sag in my chart (at least 3 planets), and I love adventure😉 Thanks, gemgem

Best is to hint that your waiting for him to ask...if that doesn't work bluntly bang him on the head with the question!lol!

Could always try tackling,grappling moves and handcuffs.Oh and don't forget a big bag to throw him over your shoulder and carry him off.

If you haven't already...check out Seduction Rules on the Scorp board - see if that resonates with you.

Best wishes!

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Another option....go to Misc. - pg.9 and click on He's Just Not Into You.

I am by no means saying this man is not into you...there is some good advice from the authors..then again, maybe you have already read that book 😉

Listen to THE BIR😱-) - she's the best of the best where this stuffy needs to be sorted out!!


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Thanks everyone~

Yes, I read the book "He is not just into you" When my third cappy and I went out last time, at the end of the date he said "let us keep continuing going out" We have been emailing each other daily. But he hasn't asked me out yet. Well I told him that I was super busy until end of month (which is the truth)...maybe that is why he hasn't asked me out? Fact is that this week nights including the weekend are all booked. So even he asks me out now I am available earliest sometime next week.

AM~ yes his moon is aqua as well as mars (like me🙂 my mar is aqua)

I just heard from a Taurus guy I went out a couple of times - he basically said "tell me when I am not one of them" - he said in much nicer way. Some guys want something serious right away and other want to take it sloooooow (not to mention our cappies...😉)

Yes, I did the hint thing after the first date since he was kinda subtle on showing his interest. I am more use to assertive ones and cappy approaches are new to me. The hinting seemed to work well🙂 Just curious.

Is it just a cappy thing (that hinting is good) or the horoscope sign is irrelevant?

Freebird~ I found below from the Seduction Rules on the Scorp board

Rule no2 Don't you be the first who aproaches a man!
Rule no5😄on't call him and seldom return his calls!!!!
Rule no6 Always be you who finishes your phone conversation

I guess I have been bad on the Rule no5 to my first cappy...lesson learned. But then I did not return calls to the Taurus guys and then he left (which is totally OK with me)...if we don't return his calls, nothing will happen, No?

Hi Peachy...."if we don't return calls, nothing will happen, No?" Depends on why you are not returning calls. I say follow your instincts...if you don't feel like calling back, then don't. If you have been in the relationship for a bit and feel comfortable, call him. I was involved with a man who I no longer wanted to be involved with...I did not return his calls - it did not stop him from calling me, emailing me, dropping by unannouced....no, I did not take his calls and still don't after a year later.

Everything is relative my dear...if you want just a fun, free relationship - approach the man and call him - he will be flattered, it will fluff up his ego and more than likely he will go out with you (as a FRIEND). Men love to play and they will, it is in their make-up....really the choice is yours and what your intentions are.

IF you are at a place in your life and you are ready to settle down, tie the knot, make a commitment then I so believe that it is the man who must pursue the woman...they are HUNTERS! The relationship will mean more to a man when he is the one to decide who turns him on, who rocks his world, who sizzles his shizzle....you know what I mean - who he cannot live without.

I maybe wrong here and there will always be an exception to every situation...what I have seen with most of my friends, including myself! is that when the woman pursues the man and he let's her - he becomes a bit lazy..it is too easy for him. This may work for awhile but the hunter instinct WILL kick in at some point in time. Most of my friends are divorced - me too. I am not saying that relationships where the woman has pursued the man have not worked - some do but most don't. Studies have shown that the man who desired a woman and did what he had to...even though he did not know that desire existed within him. (because of his love for her - he became more of who he was, he accessed abilites - unused hunting skills to win). In other words, she brought the BEST out in him and by golly he is NOT going to let her go...he will make the effort to work things out, he will be there, he will participate - you are his woman and he fought tooth and nail for you and that means a lot to a man.

I was talking with a recently separated man and I asked him how they met and why they married...his response, "she was HOT and had a great sense of humour - she was just there." He then said that he knew a week before the wedding that is was not right. See? he didn't get the opportunity to prove himself, it was too easy so there was no effort on either part to make the marriage work. He now is a lazy man who is used to woman coming onto him and they do, but those relationships are not lasting. I have gone out with him and he asked me to call him. I have not, nor will I.

IF he is TRULY interested in me, he will make the effort - if not, I have only gained a gift - my freedom for a real relationship to enter.

Life on the cutting edge...isn't it great?

I love it, Freebird🙂 Make sense. I totally can see my first cappy got lazy...and I think he is spoiled to be honest😉 ; I have felt that he is on another occasion. I feel that I really should have left him alone until he made an effort to call me. Well too late. But now I know what to do - will NOT call him.

I didn't & won't call the Taurus guy because I sensed he wants something serious too quickly - I am not there yet for anyone at this point. I am just enjoying the summer with no serious stuff after all...at least until I run into a shocking encounter like I had with my first cappy - well I should know every encounter is different but those guys I am dating currently I am not sure yet if I want to be serious with any one of them. So I keep my option open.

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...he will make the effort to work things out, he will be there, he will participate - you are his woman and he fought tooth and nail for you and that means a lot to a man.
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I can totally see my first cappy is not ready to have a relationship like he himself says because I don't sense that he can *participate* at this moment of his life. So another thing I see is to let him be alone for a while and see what happens...again if it's meant to be will be.

I really think that most men are so scared these days of making a commitment to a woman or getting too involved - they have seen and been around so many divorces that it scares them a bit. Another thing...men still want their "freedom" to roam especially if they have not found the "right" one for them.

I don't know about you but when I am going out with a guy or just getting to know one...I sort of have an instant feeling whether it will go somewhere. If not, I do tell the man that I can only be friends or I am not ready for a commited relationship.....what am I really saying to him? I am just not that into you but I will be your friend. When someone comes into our path that really strikes us...we will NOT utter those words at all due to fear of losing our chance with them....see?

Best thing for now Peachy....like you said, just go out there, be the BEST you and most importantly, HAVE FUN enjoying yourself in each moment 😉

Freebird, yes I do have the instant feeling at the first date or two - some cases first few minutes...a study has shown that it is true that both man and woman in a date make a judgment rather quickly; it is a matter of seconds or minutes. For me, it depends on whom I am seeing but most cases it is very quick. When first time I saw my first cappy, I felt "stay away from this guy!!!" But the fact is that I could not leave the place (where we met) for three hours - when I am with a guy with OK interest, I start to get bit bored by the second hour (some cases sooner off course). With my first cappy, I just did feel the time was passing. And my own body language gave me the clue how I felt from the beginning, although I was not going to admit😉 His showed me that he was very attracted me - the fact is that *very* first words I heard from his mouth was "you are attractive" so the attraction was instant. Well, my instinct was right I should have stayed away from this guy😉😉 But I am with you, this is life and we don't know what will happen next - that is why it is fascinating and we want to live fully each moment. Thanks, Freebird I will enjoy the summer having fun🙂

correction....

I just did NOT feel the time was passing

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IF he is TRULY interested in me, he will make the effort
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It is true. I have Leo and Pisces who just don't give up. I told Leo that I can be a friend - so we are friends but he is consistent on calling me every three weeks or so to check my dating life. The Pisces is very good friend of mine also a biz partner so we talk all the time - he had wanted to be more than friends and approached me a few times for it but every time I said no. We get alone super well but my instinct says no. I have feeling that he still hasn't quite given up; probably he won't as long as I am single...Yeah, if a guy wants a gal, they will go for it whatever & however unless they are coward type (but then why we want that?). That is my experience as well.

Freebird...you are definetely free spirited. I love to read your input. Thanks.

Peach ~ I feel you doll. I think that my cappy is being lazy about US as well. He doesn't want a relationship. He wants to have me and eat his cake too. I won't lie that I've done it, but it's not worth it for the other person if they're hanging on your every word and action. So I did what you did and I just left him alone except for that silly phone call I told you about. hehe. 🙂

gemgem~ sweetie, you did the right thing. We need to believe that we did the right thing. Actually, I have mixed feeling at this point, but I do miss my cappy. At the same time I feel good because I *believe* I did that right thing and did my best at that time. For a while I was feeling like I wish I never met him but then I thought it is great to have feeling for someone with no string attached - I feel like I am growing into a woman I always wanted to be because I met him - that is why I feel good about myself and my life. I keep wishing the best for him.

I just got an email from my third cappy - he is funny. He responds right away when I email him back but if I don't he will wait until I respond, it seems... It is kind of game, but I am going along with it. Will see how things will go with this guy. He is tall & cute (I love a tall guy!) and I enjoy spending time with him.

I am parting with two of my g/f tomorrow (Friday night!!!) to just have fun. A club (I know my first cappy has been) will have a gust DJ (apparently famous ? got a Grammy award) ? so it is a special nite. Will see if he shows up. If he does, I will show him off how many guys follow me around! LOL!

Good idea Peach...Yeah I feel like capricorns play games more than they let on. They may not know they do, but they do in their own way. There's no reason why we can't play it back. I don't think that's fair anyway...we shouldn't be falling at their beckon call. 🙂 Have fun on Friday sister!