Please help!!!!

I'm going thru an emotional breakdown normally I can control my emotions but this time it's different it's Been five months since me and this aqua dude parted ways, I've done fine or so I thought last week I was working a game at the stadium and saw him there after that I couldn't get him outta my mind it was very intense my thoughts then I started crying and overthinking things....I don't need criticism or anything negative I need advice on why the sudden breakdown or intense moments in my thoughts...

Posted by stillwat3r
Hey hun... may be because you haven't found anyone to replace him so seeing him again reminded you of something you wanted to work out but it didn't.

it used to happen to me a lot when I had guy crushes: thinking it was over but seeing them made me very emotional.

i don't know exactly what would help you deal with it but I can tell you what helped me...and that is outlining their flaws or reasons why we didn't work out.

I always say to myself like what the Hell is wrong with me he has a gf and he left me for her I constantly remind myself of that

It's part of the healing process. Let the emotions out in a way you're comfortable with. Us caps try too hard to hold them in and that's realy not healthy for us.

And remember. Time is your friend. Time will help you heal as well.

*Hugs*

Posted by stillwat3r
outlining their flaws or reasons why we didn't work out.

That helps me too. As well as reminding myself of their traits and habits I don't have to put up with anymore.

I feel for you. I think I could do okay just as long as I don't see the person. I've never been there, so I don't know what to say, but even when I imagine it I feel tense, so I'm sure it's hard.

Posted by highlyclassified
I'm going thru an emotional breakdown normally I can control my emotions but this time it's different it's Been five months since me and this aqua dude parted ways, I've done fine or so I thought last week I was working a game at the stadium and saw him there after that I couldn't get him outta my mind it was very intense my thoughts then I started crying and overthinking things....I don't need criticism or anything negative I need advice on why the sudden breakdown or intense moments in my thoughts...

hey you wanna go have a beer with me? and then lets go sing down the road.."happy days are here!!" 😄

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Posted by highlyclassified
I'm going thru an emotional breakdown normally I can control my emotions but this time it's different it's Been five months since me and this aqua dude parted ways, I've done fine or so I thought last week I was working a game at the stadium and saw him there after that I couldn't get him outta my mind it was very intense my thoughts then I started crying and overthinking things....I don't need criticism or anything negative I need advice on why the sudden breakdown or intense moments in my thoughts...

hey you wanna go have a beer with me? and then lets go sing down the road.."happy days are here!!" 😄

+1 I do!

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I'm in!

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Posted by highlyclassified
I'm going thru an emotional breakdown normally I can control my emotions but this time it's different it's Been five months since me and this aqua dude parted ways, I've done fine or so I thought last week I was working a game at the stadium and saw him there after that I couldn't get him outta my mind it was very intense my thoughts then I started crying and overthinking things....I don't need criticism or anything negative I need advice on why the sudden breakdown or intense moments in my thoughts...

hey you wanna go have a beer with me? and then lets go sing down the road.."happy days are here!!" 😄

+1 I do!

I'm in!

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Wish all of you was from Miami I would definitely take you up on that offer

Hello :-) I'm new here! I think your "breakdown" shows that you've been supressing the pain that the breakup caused. You need to let it out. I think we all know this, and then sth happens and we burst into tears out of the blue, it means you were out of touch with your emotions. If you find it hard to cry, take some time, watch a movie or listen to a song that makes you sob and let it out. It's healing and necessary. And after you've cried and got it out, you do the opposite, make plans for the evening go out with your friends and you probably won't cry and be "out of control" in public again cause you've already done that at home.
That's the Cap way LOL. We accept it, feelings and stuff but we do it our way, step by step because we don't plan on feeling like shit forever. And then time passes, and he'll be past. There's no short cut to healing from a break up in my opinion. If you want to get over someone properly you need a bit of mourning.

Hi, I'm going through something very very similar, especially the pain. DM me if you want to talk to chat via phone. I'm in NC & I'm here to talk if you need someone!

OH forgot to add....aqua man, my pain is from him as well!