Please help me with this cappy guy

We talk everyday. For few days he didnt msg me for a week. Then later he texted me and asked me why i didnt msg him. We had a lil arguement on this and later i told him that i missed him and he told me he missed me too. After that we got close he again started to text me regularly and things started to get better. Whenever i feel like things are progressing he tends to pull aways and becomes emotionally cold, which is annoying. I try to tolerate it somehow and tell him my feelings for him. He never says no to start a relationship but he never continue it either.. He opens up more when im less emotional and more playful. Sometimes he shows me his affection and calls me baby or babe n treats me like his girlfriend. But when i get bit emotional he pull awsy and again treats me like a friend and calls be buddy. We live in a long distance and he tell me that he feels a bit insecure coz im 23 and in college and might find many guys in future. And he said its hard to build a trust in a relationship and he dont wanna let his gaurds down easily. Since few days he's been acting aloof. He dont texts me. I have to initiate the conversation. He said he is going busy with his work. But sometimes i doubt as he had female friends he but me talking to them and avoiding me. Is he loosing interest in me? I told him in a very loyal person n he can trust me. Did i scare him away by coming off too strong on him? Do capricorn need alot of reassurance in a relationship? Please hepl me what should i do? Im so confused. Has he found somone else? Or is he loosing interest in me thats why avoiding texting me?

"I try to tolerate it somehow and tell him my feelings for him. He never says no to start a relationship but he never continue it either."

What did you say when you told him about your feelings for him? What did he say back? You say he never says no to a relationship - does that mean you asked him to be in a relationship with him? What happened?

We have had many converstation on starting a relationship. Im the one who always initiate the topic abt it. I asked him do wants to start a relatinship. He always says that he wants a relationship with me watnt to make me his girlfriend but he dont like the distance. Last week i was quite happy coz he got bit close to me n treated ne like his girlfreind andi was feeling that he is ready for a realtionship. He gets a bit cold n when i show him affection and care with his stress for job i try to calm him, he likes it. One time he said "i get angry and a lil sad too that ur not here". I was curious n i asked him is he ready for a distance relationship? His ans was "i dont know" "its not a business deal that i have made a 5yrs of project and expecting it to be the way i want, thats y i take a day at a time" "we both r living far apart and anything can happen" "maybe u can back away first" "vulnerability is from both sides and from my past experienxe i guess its better to keep ur gaurds up" he feel comfortable when i talk to him like a friend making him laugh and being less emotional. Thats when he opens up to me (not much but give me subtle signs). Last night i told him my feelings that im not gonna leave u if u r with me. Im a loyal girl n ill never hurt u like ur ex did to u. He didnt express his feeling much just listened to me n thats it. He treats me like a girlfreind then pull back and a freind. He is playing with my feelings? Did i come off too strong with my feelings? Or has he found someone else?

I think you have been very clear about your intentions and feelings and if I were you, I would take a step back and let him initiate any future discussions about relationships or feelings between the two of you.

But whatever iv told u, what do u think about him? What are his views and feelings about me? Why is he playing hot and cold? His mixed signals frustrates me alot. Then again i have to play it cool..

Walls of text.

Ugh

Posted by truecap
Walls of text.

Ugh

Sorry, I was on my cell. It just looked like walls of text. My apologies.

I don't see the point of long distance relationships unless the distance will be temporary. That seems to be what is bothering him.

It also seems like he wants you to do all the work in the relationship. Watch out for that. It should be 50/50 as far as contact, plans, etc.

If you have repeatedly suggested that you should be in a relationship and he has declined every time, I would say that for some reason or the other, he does not want to be in a relationship with you. It could be the distance, it could be him feeling pressured.

Tbh, my sag venus pretty much ran screaming at your repeated suggestions and proclamations. But, as said, I am very sensitive to that sort of thing. I stand by my previous posts and would probably have done so without my sag venus. Let him initiate any further discussions about relationships or feelings between the two of you. Imo.

Posted by champranger
It sounds like the only way he would progress forward is if the distance no longer exists.

Thanx for the advice 🙂

Posted by evalani290
"We talk everyday. For few days he didnt msg me for a week"

That's the mistake almost every girls makes it with a Capricorn man,wait for him at the corner to test his limits.Why would you wait a week to see if he text you?You want to see if he'll come back running to you?It won't happen,it doesn't work like that. That's playing games and he detected that,if you want to talk to him just talk without testing him,you won't like the result and you'll be more confused than before.

"We live in a long distance and he tell me that he feels a bit insecure coz im 23 and in college and might find many guys in future. And he said its hard to build a trust in a relationship and he dont wanna let his gaurds down easily."

Believe this,there are no riddles here. Listen to what he says,listen and don't be too eager to respond before you understand. Don't tell him that he can trust you,why should he?Show him instead,by being stable,patient and supportive.
You can talk to him about loyalty all you want,prove it.

I dont have any intentions of testing him. He is the one who tests me. Isnt it enough that i show my feelings to him and always pay him attention when he texts me? He knows it very well that im always there for him. What more can a person do to prove his/her interest since they r living far apart? Its his insecurity that he tests me by ignoring me or whatever reason it is. he knows that he is the one playing hot and cold that why he always comes back to me. And when he does that im always there for him to text him back and listen to his stories of why he didnt text me.. (Even if he is just msking it up)

Posted by truecap
I don't see the point of long distance relationships unless the distance will be temporary. That seems to be what is bothering him.

It also seems like he wants you to do all the work in the relationship. Watch out for that. It should be 50/50 as far as contact, plans, etc.

Well im studying medicine in UK. And i have one more year left to for my graduation. And i have told him that if he is serious about us or if we keep talking like this till that time i might think of moving to his city.. He never says much about this just smiles, coz he dont trust me on my plans might change or maybe im just joking with him. Thats why he dont wanna show his excitement. But we were talking last night and i asked him if we keep on talking like this in the future how would it be then? He said " we might get impatient and that wont be a good thing." I asked him then whats the solution for it and he said " we should frequently meet untill u finish your studies, after your graduation things would be on track i believe." Since he never expresses what he feels, when he said this thing i felt a bit happy from inside that maybe he is started to trust me a lil, and thinking about us for the future.

Its been 1week and he is acting like a boyfriend again sigh.. He likes to listen to my feelings.. But never telling his feelings, but now a days he has been showing me a new side of his.. Which is he is flirting with me alot. I dont know why? What i have observed and read about capricorns is that they are shy and dont flirt. But i guess his moon is in pisces so i guess that could be the reason of him flirting with me. But i feel really uneasy when he flirts with me.. I feel he is trying to open a bit by flirting and using pick up lines which has double meaning. Im confused. Sometimes i tell him im talking to my mom on phone, he says that let me talk to her.. Same thing he says for my dad.. He has told his mom about me but as a friend. And expects me to tell my parents about him as my boyfriend..
Today he was again flirting with me while we were texting. I told him that he is a immature boy who likes to flirt rather than showing true feelings. Boys flirt men dont. He got pissed off. And said ok i wont flirt again. And logged off without saying bye. Then in the evening he started to talk to me again.
He is acting like a boyfriend now but a selfish, immature one. He wants to know who im going out with, who im talking to. He gets jealous. Since he knows thst i have girl friends in my circle n not even a single guy i talk to but still he asks me who im with..
He has many female friends and i doubt about it. When i say he is a good flirt and a casanova. He laughs out loud and tell me that i shouldnt say much. But he never gives me the reassurance with clear words that im the only one. He keeps me confused about his mysterious character.
He is acting like a boyfreind, wants my parents to know about him, flirting with me alot nowadays, never accepts his fault and manipulate the matter, want to know about who i hang out with, dont tells me about his lady frnds or when i make a joke of him being a casanova he elude the topic.

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