Question for a Cappy :)

Dear Cappies out there in "Cappy~land",

I am wondering something as I have read so much about how Cappies have a tendency to keep their feelings inside or wait to express them till they are sure of the situation...is this true?

What exactly does it mean to you when you tell someone "I love you"...okay, not tell them but write it?

Thanks for your insights on this, I so do appreciate the help in understanding the Cappy heart.

AFx2

Oh that's an easy one...

It means EXACTLY what it says. We caps don't take those words too light-heartedly. Consider yourself extremely lucky. A phrase like that isn't very easy for us to throw around.

(Personally, I have problems just expressing my emotions on a day-to-day basis in the first place.)

Whoever this Cap is, I'm sure he or she really LOVES YOU. And if you want this relationship, I suggest you take your cue. I couldn't think of a better opportunity for you to snatch yourself yourself up a smitten little sea-goat.

Take it or leave it. It's a rare to find a Cap's heart served on a platter for you like that. Come get it while it's hot!! ;?)

I'm back by the way....

(It's been a week) I don't have an alias, but I DO post a lot 😉

....and also,

I forgot to even adress the fact that it was written. Which is also a typical action of a smitten capricorn. Since we can be very shy, it is really hard for us to come out and say how we feel about someone. I find that most times it is easier for me to write out what I'm trying to say than to actually say it. Especially in regards to emotions.

Anyway, the fact that this person wrote this to you in a letter, even further lets me know that he or she has probably "got it bad" for you. This isn't some kind of joke. We don't like to play games with people about this kind of thing, so do take it seriously, if that is your concern.

I am so floored sometimes by these opinions and they really do touch my heart, very much!!!

I would say to the poster wanting to know about a cappie's heart, I think she expressed herself very clearly! They broke it down, but very upfront and real. Caps are serious and responsible about there feelings too. It may take a sometimes a very long time to ever get them to say those words, but you can't analyze the words "I LOVE YOU"! ok— They meant what they said or they would not have said it! It's that simple!

Like the previous post declared, Caps don't throw words like that around! Take it quite seriously! They are in love!!!

BG

Well, I must say that it deffinitly matters where they are mentally. Most caps are true to thier feelings but some like anyone else will play games to test you. I find that cap's are constantlly testing thier potential lovers to see how loyal they can be to them. And only when they are sure do they really commit. They tend to play word games- but this is simply a part of thier quest. Would anyone agree with that?

sorry for the mis- spelled words above. Can't use spell check in this format. : )

Yes, but only with people they want for life!

I should have said, only with those they are serious about. We never know what the day holds when you walk out the door. How can we speculate on a entire life? You know what I mean??

I agree w/it 100% #198! But here's the problem? If it's a word game how am I supposed to know what he really means? My God... I'm a laid back black and white Saggie if you know what I mean? I'm as honest as honest as they come and having no experience with "word games" I wouldn't even know what to look for!? Half of the time I don't know what he's talking about! Most of the other half of the time I do well!

Define "loyal"? Geez the one that I know (Cap) KNOWS that I love him. I've more than told him one more than one occassion. Isn't that enough for him?? Forget the fact that he's married cuz even he's been knowing that it's been nothing but a lying mistake for the past 2 yrs.

AND HERE IS THE BIG QUESTION OF ALL....

When and what makes them think it's the real thing to finally make them commit— What will they be basing it on? Mine is EXASPERATING me!!! HELP!

Okay, heres the skinny. I once new a cap (guy) and sag (girl) who dated. He thought the world of her. She did everything in her power to please him, and he in return gave her all the material things a girl could ever want. After being together for about 2 years she wanted to marry him. We'll it seemed that once he knew he had her right where he thought he wanted her he started treating her less than. Although not completlly happy with the new change she worked even harder to please him. Cooking, cleaning, backrubs you name it. I don't think the sex was all that because I remember hearing complants from him that she didn't know how to please him sexually. He in return started to really take her for granted. Started dating other woman and even had a baby outside of the relationship. She therefor became very strong and determined to get all she could out of the relationship before she would make an amazing getaway. With all that being said I think that Sag's can be very stong willed and this is an atratcion for cap's but I also think this may have been the very reason for the relationship ending. I found out later that he did love her but was scard to marry such a dominate woman. He wanted to give out orders and feel like the tough side of the relationship when she in essence was the backbone of their union. I think cap's are very serious people but need a mate that will provide the softer side to his demanding life. A year ago he admitted that he really wanted to be with an ex-girlfriend of his (which was a picses chic) that he was with prior to being with Miss Sag. When I asked him why he felt that way he said because she really mad him feel like the man. Now that confussed the hell out of me because I thought sag girl too mad him feel that way. So im not quite sure on how to answer your question but pull from this story what you will and try and let your head and heart guide you through this one. Love will prevail if it is meant. Good Luck 🙂

He needs to make a choice. If he is not satisfied sexually, then he should just walk away from it! Maybe the Saggi woman could learn to please him sexually?? She seems like she is bending over backwards to make him happy. What the hell is the matter with him— Too many choices!! However, some men would rather be treated like crap. I have had this same experience myself. You could do everything right and the more submissive the worse you got treated. In the end, he got what he wanted a lously wife, who reduced him to a little boy, but they had a good time in the bedroom, unitl she ran off with the next best thing! I would say, that Ms. Sag has had to learn to be strong from hangin with weak men!

Well - I think a Cappie and a Sag relationship is doomed from the start. A Sag is much too independent for a strong Cappie male. I had a best friend (Sag) and she and her Cappie husband didn't get along for beans. It finally ended in a bitter divorce. Sag women are definitely too independent to please a Cappie male for long. They are more attracted to a soft, feminine, less demanding woman such as a Pisces or Cancer. It allows them to be more in control.

My brother is a Cap born on Christmas Day and his wife wife who is now his ex-wife (her choice) was not soft or particularly feminine and was controlling. He has since re-married but they still live next door to one another, and she is still very much a part of his life. This really bothers his new wife who is a really nice woman. She has all the qualities that you mentioned. I don't know? I find it interesting to say the least! I wonder why they remain so close?