Question for the caps, male and female please?!

Have any of you, ever noticed a slight or major difference between December Caps and January Caps? This is something I've always been curious about... I've dated and currently see a December Cap (12/27) and in the past dated a January Cap (1/9), also have my father who's a January Cap as well (1/11)... Now the funny thing is, that the 12/27 and dad 1/11 Caps are VERY alike... In an almost freightening way, however the other 1/9 Cap is completely opposite of them all!!! It's almost like he doesn't even belong in the Cap sign!
Now some background.... My 12/27 and my dad 1/11, are both (dad's retired law enforcement of 36 years in his 70's, and finally completely retired almost two years ago), incredibly hardworking, very driven, highly accomplished, and lose sight of nothing type of men... Where as my 1/9 Cap, couldn't be further from that. Oh and I almost forgot, my eldest sister is also a Cap, she's 1/19. Now she is more like the 1/9 Cap... More so lazy, content with not accomplishing anything on their own, and would rather live off of others than do it themselves. And both do not work or can't hold steady jobs. Any insight Caps?! I'm just baffled! I suppose perhaps their Venus, Mars and such placements could help with this?

I'm 12/27.

You have good taste in men. 😉

Idk.

I'm a 12/23 Cap and more like your sister and the 1/9 Cap. I don't like to work, or rather value my freedom to work doing exactly what I want...whatever that is, where as my 12/22 and 12/28 Cap friends are the complete opposite of me. It's so weird because their birthdays are just days apart....we are all the same year....and the 12/22 and I basically have the same placements. My cousins father, who is a 12/28 Cap is very successful.

My dad is also a Cap, 1/16 and he works 6 days a week, been working that for maybe 15 years now. All of my mothers Cap exes are very established and are all in law enforcement.

I ran across a Cappie youtuber the other day, and she's like me. Although she has a youtube channel, which some consider work as it brings in an income, she said in a video she has no future plans and basically doesn't desire a career. I did when I was younger, but not so much now.

I guess in a nutshell there's no difference between the Dec and Jan caps.

Ive noticed a lot of Cappie homemakers. Where is ands, cause i believe he once said all a cap woman wants to do is be a housewife lol. For some reason I connected with that, although I cant say Id be 100% satisfied in that role either.

I forgot to mention my Cappie grandma who is 1/1. She worked for years in public service and fully supported all six of her kids alone. Even retired, she's still the rock of the family and has the most financial freedom.

My granny listens to me but I don't think she understands my issues with working at all. Although she never says anything and prays for me and supports my decisions, I do think the way i operate seems foreign to her.

CapTenn: don't I know it! 😉 he truly is the love of my life!! We've grown up with each other, and it's bonded us for life! I love his drive, ambitious nature, and his sweet affection when I'm with him. I say this, knowing that in most general websites when you look at compatibility, it's almost always negative for a Sag and Cap relationship.... Not true for us!

Inana: there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a homemaker and a mother! Not at all! But my 1/9 and sister 1/19, have literally always lived off of others... My sister goes from man to man with two kids. So they can all support her.... She's in a bad marriage but cheats on her hubs. And my 1/9, lives off of the women he dates! He's in his early 30's and sis is 34. I just don't understand that.

Capri: please know I mean no harm by saying anything about their laziness reflecting on homemakers. Bc there is nothing wrong with that! Not one bit. But to me, when you're an adult who isn't in the situation that you would be able to do that, and you choose to just do nothing and let others go out and bust their butts to pay your bills (childless and never takes responsibility for their mistakes or bills) then I see that as a problem. My sis and the 1/9 are just plain lazy. It's just who they are. Before sis had kids, she was lazy... The 1/9 doesn't have kids but bounces from girl to girl, living with them and living scotch free. That's where my issues lay.
I think what you do everyday, for your family is beautiful! And you deserve a ton of credit for it. 🙂

Pensive: I definitely agree about the differences between December and January caps with things like emotions/personal relationships and ambition/best at the work they do... I've noticed that a lot myself, from my friends, friends of friends, my own love life and from my family. It's definitely easy to spot the ones who do care about certain things, or how they handle things, versus the ones who do not... To me, on both December and January caps, I have noticed some emotional detachment.... (Not in ALL) but in some. Hmm... This is truly the sign that has made me the most perplexed, out of them all lol. In an interesting way. 😉

Capri: oh I know you didn't intend for it to be towards me!! No worries at all... I just wanted to make sure I didn't look like what I was writing was intended for you, or really any woman that is a homemaker. Trust me, as much as I am a workaholic, I know that when I do have children, I will be at home with them, and perhaps when they are able to attend school, would consider going back to work. It's what my mother was, and many women I know. I admire it, Bc raising and caring for kids, is no easy task or job! 🙂 and I respect you for your situation and remaining strong! It can't be easy. I appreciate you explaining that though!!

Posted by SaggyGirl85
Have any of you, ever noticed a slight or major difference between December Caps and January Caps? This is something I've always been curious about... I've dated and currently see a December Cap (12/27) and in the past dated a January Cap (1/9), also have my father who's a January Cap as well (1/11)... Now the funny thing is, that the 12/27 and dad 1/11 Caps are VERY alike... In an almost freightening way, however the other 1/9 Cap is completely opposite of them all!!! It's almost like he doesn't even belong in the Cap sign!
Now some background.... My 12/27 and my dad 1/11, are both (dad's retired law enforcement of 36 years in his 70's, and finally completely retired almost two years ago), incredibly hardworking, very driven, highly accomplished, and lose sight of nothing type of men... Where as my 1/9 Cap, couldn't be further from that. Oh and I almost forgot, my eldest sister is also a Cap, she's 1/19. Now she is more like the 1/9 Cap... More so lazy, content with not accomplishing anything on their own, and would rather live off of others than do it themselves. And both do not work or can't hold steady jobs. Any insight Caps?! I'm just baffled! I suppose perhaps their Venus, Mars and such placements could help with this?

I think this example right here proves a no answer to your question.
You listed a Jan and Dec cap who are very alike.

Truecap, right... I understand what I've written. However, the purpose of my question wasn't to explain what I've noticed, but to gather thoughts from others own experiences or from people they know. I just always thought it was quite interesting and me being a Sag, am always inquisitive and curious about others and what they see. 🙂
It was directed at just getting some outside perspective on something that intrigues me.

Inana: I just reread what your first post was... I found it interesting about you and your two friends and how close in proximity your birthdays are, and interesting as well that you're all in the same year!!
Maybe this is one of the reasons I love and get along so well with you Cappies... You all do a great job at keeping me on my toes and constantly guessing! Lol 🙂

Pensive; I actually agree that it's a big misconception about the emotional detachment thing... I believe it's conceived to be that from ppl on the outside (not cappys) Bc of how it appears to us. Some of my Cappy friends have told me that for them, it's more of a defense mechanism, to guard themselves from any vulnerability or rejection from others... Mainly concerning sexual or relationship ppl they are interested in. Again, that's what maybe a handful of them have told me. So just their reasoning... I could see why they said that, and why they do it. It's not a far off thing to do. None of us feel good when in a vulnerable situation and I personally, have some type of a guard up, against new ppl, whether that's romantically involved or in general with new folks. The level of the guard or wall, changes depending on which type of situation I'm in. Once I'm comfortable with someone, I tend to open up, but still remain slightly guarded. I don't think I really had a wall until my first heartbreak or emotional devastation. My own perspective from folks I know, is that it just takes time to really "get in" with caps... And even then, I just believe you all show your emotions and your "love" for a S/O in much different way than others... More so in actions rather than in words?! If that makes sense? I mean like doing something or helping the person you care for, with something... Or if they're in need, being there for them. Not by telling them more than a few times, verbally, that you love them. I hope that makes sense... But my from my experience that's what the caps in my life that mostly done to express their affection for me. Now my Cappy, tends to be less lovey dovey over written communication, or via calls.. But in person, that's a whole different story! He's all over me, hugging me, from behind a lot with his arms wrapped around my waist, and following me around like an adorable puppy! 🙂 it's really quite sweet! He's kissing me, holding me, playing with my hair, and not leaving my side for a minute. Now he does say I love you... But not as much as I've heard in the past with others. Do I mind that? Not one bit! Bc I'd rather you show me how much you love me, than you say a few words... It's more genuine when it's expressed through actions. 🙂 I love Cappys! You guys are definitely an amazing sign!