Sex monster?

Sex monster?

Are we talking about capricorns?

Nah, we are pretty mellow 🙂

Hello All!

I am enjoying reading all of your posts. Now I have one that may offend but I hope not. This sweetheart man of mine turns out to be a real freak. He's very professional, very sweet, polite, got it together.....but we were texting the other night teasing each other about someone being anal.....then comes the (here's where you may want to leave) question. Do I like anal? My response at first was "say what?!" then he texts anal personalities. I'm not buying it so I'm like "Do you?" Turns out he does and he supposedly has only done this twice. I'm thinking if he's tried it then I'm sure he likes it and just waiting on another girl who is into this.

Is it just me? Or isn't this disgusting? Isn't this painful? Is this a male Capricorn sex trait? He hasn't ran away after my freaking out texts..but I have. He keeps texting me so I know he's not trying to push this on me or else he would go find a girl who is down with this. So I appreciate that but I did tell him that he needs to be himself and I apologize for being judgemental and wish him well..........I so love him but this has changed everything. Is that wrong? He told me I didn't understand it so I was being judgemental.....understand what?

I'm lost.

What a way to join a forum huh? haha

Madiagoesmad, some girls like anal and some don't. It is a personal choice. Some guys like anal and some don't, once again it is a personal choice.

It all depends on you and your body. Obviously it makes you uncomfortable, but stats say alot of people have tried it atleast once. Your boyfriend is perfectly normal. And to answer your qustion it is a not just a Cappy thing its an adult thing.

Try to have an open mind because he is being honest about his personal sexual fanatasies. 🙂

Don't make him feel like a wacko even if it isn't your forte. Imagine if you revealed a sexual fantasy to your partner and then he get all judgmental.

er, i beg to differ. the cap males i know LOVE sex and ooze passionate lustiness. u just have to take a closer look and get to know them is all. they like to play up the whole aloof thing and get off on being mysterious. it's all bullshit.

Ninjamu your so right....he was that way and now he's so sexual....I still don't know. I've read upon this and all I see is "pain".....

Posted by Shaks
PP..do you carry an "anal" detector while surfing on dxp? I ask you because you seem to pop up out of nowhere wherever the word anal appears 😛

Lol

Cappygolightly I'm a virgo.

Sagi I made it very clear of my disgust without having to say much so he's not after me for that but still...........I got hangups on that. I mean, it's an ass, right? Ewww. One way street. Right? Geez so blown away here. He does ooze sex tho but a perfect gentleman. When I got to asking him questions he commented about being uncomfortable telling me. I love him tho but I look at him differently for some reason. Like maybe those girls had a two-door garage, you know?

I can't be the sex kitten I think he wants deep down. I'm a good girl so I would bore him I'm sure. So even tho were so drawn together it's a good reason to run. His very experienced self and my "what do I do" self couldn't keep up. The lust is there between us altho we haven't done anything just makes me wonder what it would be like since the emotional aspect is so strong. But I'm going to run away. Safer.

I guess the Virgin is the appropriate sign for Virgo womens LOL!

His question about anal is perfectly natural. Despite their aloof demeanor, Cap men are some of the most sexual & erotic lovers out there. They are into experimentation and exploring of sensual pleasures. This deeply sexual aspect of Capricorns seems to one of the greatest secrets of the zodiac and peeps are often surprised that it comes from some of the emotionally coolest and unflappable signs.

But people forget that one of the many ancient symbols of Capricorn is Pan, the God of merry making who was always chasing & sleeping with all the nymphs in the forest. They don't call them "randy old goats" for nothing. Also, remember that Capricorn is not a fully Earth sign. They are Mer-Goats , ie, half-Water. So that explains the sensual side of them. Therefore, this highly sexual side of them might seem difficult for fully Earth signs such as yourself to understand.

I don't think your Cap man's interest in anal is unusual at all. People THINK it's unnatural because they only see the stoic business-like personality of Caps & not their sensual side.

Shaks, stop pissing me off or I'll send my favorite ninja, Naruto after you:

http://www.freewebs.com/narutoownsall/naruto.jpg<BR>
🙂

He likes to omit the fact that Pan is also one of the main demons worshipped in Satanism.
Well, the tarot symbol for Capricorn IS "The Devil" after all.

But seriously, why y'all coming down hard on Madia's Cap man just because he has a certain sexual preference? cappygolightly, I'm pretty sure if a hot scorpio guy wanted anal on the first date you'd let him. And Shaks, you Virgo, I KNOW you'd like to give anal to a Pisces at the first chance 🙂

Why do you Caps always try to deny your sexual wants & needs? What's so wrong about being upfront about your sexuality right from the get go? scorps & saggis are allowed to get away with it, so why not you mergoats too?

Madia, admit it, as much as the thought disturbs you, you ARE curious & intrigued about what it'd be like for your Cap man to do it to you "back there". Why not let go of the Virgo's usual self-restraint and just go for it? Wouldn't it be better to experience it from a man you actually like rather than at a ONS from some guy you met while drunk at a party?

Posted by cappygolightly
Beowolf, granted that people have all sorts of different sexual fantasies and kinks, but to mention this to someone at such an early point in their relationship makes it seem as though the guy is after an anal sex partner rather than a deep and meaningful emotional relationship. Anal sex turns some on and disgusts others.

The astro symbolism is also highly misleading as for a start the pan analogy is I understand newer than the original unicorn cap symbol, I think this was followed by the seagoat and has only later morphed into a goat. As for virgos being the sign of the virgin that is also rather misleading as judging by the virgo boards some virguys have the same level of interest in discussing anal sex as scorps.

As a guy I totally disagree with you. If a guy ask for anal sex it doesn't mean he is looking for an anal sex partner. There is no proof of that. It just means at that moment he wanted anal sex. For obvious reasons for a guy anal sex isn't a monster deal so it isn't like we are thinking ahead. Lol. 🙂

For a woman, it is understandably a bigger deal so I can see why some women might think so.

I do agree however that it would be pretty dumb to ask a girl you like on a first date if she liked anal sex. Unless of course she brings it up.
🙂

"cappygolightly, I'm pretty sure if a hot scorpio guy wanted anal on the first date you'd let him."

Bewolf you are a brave man. Lol. 😛

Posted by cappygolightly

Posted by BeoWulf

But seriously, why y'all coming down hard on Madia's Cap man just because he has a certain sexual preference? cappygolightly, I'm pretty sure if a hot scorpio guy wanted anal on the first date you'd let him. And Shaks, you Virgo, I KNOW you'd like to give anal to a Pisces at the first chance 🙂

Why do you Caps always try to deny your sexual wants & needs? What's so wrong about being upfront about your sexuality right from the get go? scorps & saggis are allowed to get away with it, so why not you mergoats too?

Madia, admit it, as much as the thought disturbs you, you ARE curious & intrigued about what it'd be like for your Cap man to do it to you "back there". Why not let go of the Virgo's usual self-restraint and just go for it? Wouldn't it be better to experience it from a man you actually like rather than at a ONS from some guy you met while drunk at a party?

I think beo you are the one who wants someone to do it to you...you are the curious one or maybe you have satisfied that curiosity... 😉

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Nice. 🙂

Let me clarify. We've know each other almost two years so it just came up. He's also still chasing regardless of my disgust in my response to him. So he's not running; I am.

Beowulf: Madia, admit it, as much as the thought disturbs you, you ARE curious & intrigued about what it'd be like for your Cap man to do it to you "back there". Why not let go of the Virgo's usual self-restraint and just go for it? Wouldn't it be better to experience it from a man you actually like rather than at a ONS from some guy you met while drunk at a party?

No disrepect Beowulf but I've never hooked up so far and I hope that I never do. But you never know. Anyway, I don't hook up at parties no matter how much I drink; I'm totally not into that shit. I have an emotional relationship with him and it's very deep. I've given him my worst behavior and been so icy cold; yet he sticks around. Confusing? Or maybe he likes a challenge. I guess being inlove you would try different things but no one has dared answer the question. What's it like? Very painful? I can totally understand why the guy would like this; tighter. Considering some girls have a two door garage; a can opener if you will. Disgusting. I'm not a big girl in anyway so he would be happy. 🙂 BUT he has tried this so I know it's a fantasy for sure.

I guess my suprise is his demeanor does comes across shy so now I'm finding out how sexual he really is. I've apologized for what he called judgemental response. I want him to share everything really but it's shocking. Astrology is way off in this regard. Reading upon Cappies they are not into experimenting but the same ole rountine and boring. Not with this one I guess. I also read they like the classier kind of girls. I know this post doesn't really help; but I am. I haven't been around the block but he told me he has. So why chase me? Why not go after the overly sexual freaks?

If someone told you they have been around the block alot; does that mean experienced or with many women?

This was his actual text:
I've been around the block. A few times. Some experiences were good and some experiences were bad. It's made me a better person.

My response is that he has been with alot of women and he said no years of experience. If you re-read the above it's good and bad experiences and to me experiences is different women. What ya think? He has a way of being vague or flipping his answeres depending on my reaction so I'm not getting him at all.

"No disrepect Beowulf but I've never hooked up so far and I hope that I never do. But you never know. Anyway, I don't hook up at parties no matter how much I drink; I'm totally not into that shit. I have an emotional relationship with him and it's very deep. I've given him my worst behavior and been so icy cold; yet he sticks around. Confusing? Or maybe he likes a challenge. I guess being inlove you would try different things but no one has dared answer the question. What's it like? Very painful? I can totally understand why the guy would like this; tighter. Considering some girls have a two door garage; a can opener if you will. Disgusting. I'm not a big girl in anyway so he would be happy. BUT he has tried this so I know it's a fantasy for sure."

You find it disgusting because you never tried it. The only women who find it disgusting are the one's who never tried. It doesn't mean it will be your cup of tea, but you will never know unless you try.

And I agree with Bewolf. It is better to do something like this with some one you love then some stranger. I really think you are being judgmental about it.

Thank you Xun5. I agree with you.

Eric11, have you had it stuck up your ass? Would you look at your member and would it "feel" good if you could insert this in your own ass? I mean, your talking also about something you have never experienced, right? Or have you? 🙂 I would not have sex with a stranger thank you very much so you can get off that nonsense. I love him very much and he's not pushing me on this subject; but I was shocked that this was an experience with him.

It's amazing how people fail to read. I'm not asking for the experience just for the experience. It came up in a text. Never had this type of discussion with anyone, ever.

Posted by Madiagoesmad
Thank you Xun5. I agree with you.

Eric11, have you had it stuck up your ass? Would you look at your member and would it "feel" good if you could insert this in your own ass? I mean, your talking also about something you have never experienced, right? Or have you? 🙂 I would not have sex with a stranger thank you very much so you can get off that nonsense. I love him very much and he's not pushing me on this subject; but I was shocked that this was an experience with him.

Have I ever had something stuck up my ass? It was a full physical examination which I needed to get before I want to Japan. So I guess in that sense yeah I know how it feels😛 And I guess I can make an educated assertion that it is not for me. Lol.

Posted by Madiagoesmad
It's amazing how people fail to read. I'm not asking for the experience just for the experience. It came up in a text. Never had this type of discussion with anyone, ever.

I don't think anyone ever suggested you have the experience for the sake of the experience. I said if you are going to have an "informed" opinion on the subject, it is better to have experience to support it. I also said it is better to experiment with some one you love instead of a stranger. I was not implying you did one night stands with strangers.

Posted by Xun5
Don't do something you aren't comfortable with. Doesn't make you a lesser person, Madia. He was being judgemental by calling you judgemental ( why do people do that? Are they that stupid?). Be true to who you are.

Ah when did her boyfriend call her judgmental? And BTW she was being judgmental. And yes I am being judmental for calling her judgmental.

However I agree with you that some one shouldn't try something if they feel uncomfortable. It is also true, if you are going to carry an opinion it is better it be informed than uninformed.

So I guess we are both right.

Hmmm, I never said Madia should experience things for the sake of experiencing it. I said opinions should be informed rather than uninformed. 🙂

To answer your question: one, I don't find guys attractive, and two, I would say no thanks and leave it at that. Not just because of my first hand experience with a medical examination, but because one, I don't find guys atractive, and two I don't find being penetrated desirable. For me it is instinctive.

Now Madia is in her right to say "no thanks, I don't find it attractive for my bf to penetrate me there."

That's fine.

The point were I raised to Madia is that her boyfriend should feel safe to reveal all his secrets/fantasies without being judged because it takes a hudge amount of trust and love to do so. To insinuate that her boyfriend is dirty for having this kind of fantasy is a slap to the face. It puts into question how safe is he in this relationship. Women don't realize how their words can cut down a guy if they are not considerate of his feelings.

Anyways I don't think ignorance is bliss. I think knowledge is bliss but you and I can agree to disagree on this. 🙂

Posted by cappygolightly

Posted by eric11

It is also true, if you are going to carry an opinion it is better it be informed than uninformed.

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Yes but that is your opinion! Opinions are easy to acquire, but I would say it is more important to be informed about the risks of gathering evidence for opinions vs the benefits. Once you are informed there is no going back to ignorant bliss.

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It is my opinion but it is an informed opinion so there. 😛 lol. I think you are more likely to get into trouble if you do not try to be informed about your beliefs. Life is a risk. It doesn't mean I am going to shelter myself from a good experience just because I might have a bad one. 🙂

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Posted by Madiagoesmad
Hello All!

I am enjoying reading all of your posts. Now I have one that may offend but I hope not. This sweetheart man of mine turns out to be a real freak. He's very professional, very sweet, polite, got it together.....but we were texting the other night teasing each other about someone being anal.....then comes the (here's where you may want to leave) question. Do I like anal? My response at first was "say what?!" then he texts anal personalities. I'm not buying it so I'm like "Do you?" Turns out he does and he supposedly has only done this twice. I'm thinking if he's tried it then I'm sure he likes it and just waiting on another girl who is into this.

Is it just me? Or isn't this disgusting? Isn't this painful? Is this a male Capricorn sex trait? He hasn't ran away after my freaking out texts..but I have. He keeps texting me so I know he's not trying to push this on me or else he would go find a girl who is down with this. So I appreciate that but I did tell him that he needs to be himself and I apologize for being judgemental and wish him well..........I so love him but this has changed everything. Is that wrong? He told me I didn't understand it so I was being judgemental.....understand what?

I'm lost.

Uh...he called her judgemental in that statement that I just bolded........

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I stand corrected but I would have called her judgmental too.

Posted by Xun5
It's like this:

I'm really revolted by the idea of killing someone. I'm not going to shoot someone, let them die, so that I can have an "informed" opinion of whether or not I like killing someone. Somethings come from within.

You can reach for the most extreme case, but I am sorry 9 chances out of 10 having an informed educated opinion is much better than ignorance.

There are enough judgmental people in the world as it is.

Sagigoat your too funny! I was thinking the same thing too. I texted either she has had experience in this department or he's you know...he said quickly that he's been told he's average. So I don't know. Either way I'm shocked coming from a normally classy guy. He's never shared anything like that and in fact is careful of what he says to not offend me.

I think he knows he messed up sharing with me but he keeps chasing me knowing this is a turn off.


Cappygolightly...OMG!! I'm so hurting reading those tv stories. There are truly some strange people in the world. I guess to each his own and what goes on between two people should stay between two people (but ya don't know me so its good ha) and it shouldn't hurt! To me, that's perversion.

Anyway, Eric you have called me judgemental as he has but until your willing to take it in the ass, don't comment on having anything inserted. We women know what we deal with and it can be painful the normal way too. It was extremely my first time and I haven't been with anyone but one guy; this guy if ever we go there will be two. But I will have my hands on guard if you know what I mean; to steer him right (hold the boys). haha

I hope I didn't disgust anyone too much. I just had to share that Cappy men are very lustful but can be gentlemans for sure. I guess I didn't explain well that this topic accidentally got started by texting and went too far. He told me he was very uncomfortable discussing but you know; he started it so finish it. Supposedly the first time was an accident and the second time; heat of the moment so I don't know.

I do know from what I've read that girls can experience little tears that you can't see. Men get the "ewwws" from her you know what up in their urethra which goes directly into their bloodstream. Another form of STD and the quickest way to get AIDS. Just sharing.

Lastly, he has a hard time looking me in the eye now. He acts like a little boy so I'm sad in a way that I made him feel bad for sharing after I kept asking him questions...HE DID START IT PLAYFULLY and I took it from there cause you know virgos have to know who they are dealing with. 🙂 Anyway, he would not ever be the type to push anything on me. I just was wondering if I was normal cause I am very very conservative. Wonder how I can make him feel he can share with me anything now but know that I'm entitled to my opinion?

"Anyway, Eric you have called me judgemental as he has but until your willing to take it in the ass, don't comment on having anything inserted. We women know what we deal with and it can be painful the normal way too. It was extremely my first time and I haven't been with anyone but one guy; this guy if ever we go there will be two. But I will have my hands on guard if you know what I mean; to steer him right (hold the boys). haha"

If you say so, but being judgmental is not a sure way to win some ones confidence. People got to feel safe in a relationship before they can open up.

Madia you must be talking about the same guy I know. He was into that stuff and his wife told him to get it out of his system but now she wants him back....but no butt love ha. None from me either. Guess they are all freaks.