Should i stay or should i go?

My Cap man has his moon in Aquarius, Cap rising. I'm a double Scorp with a Cap rising as well.

Because we've been friends for years, when we got together we were pretty comfortable. Yet the relationship isnt as intense as i would like (Ugh, Scorp) it to be and it frustrates me to no end. We are currently long-distance, but when we were physically together he already stopped 'chasing' and initiating things after winning me over. He just sat back, relaxed and there were no more calls/texts. I understand it's natural for Caps to push/pull, but i can't deal with it and i won't.

Now that we're thousands of miles apart it's worse. Not only do we not see each other, he still doesn't text/call me and we only communicate if we see each other online. Would Scorps even consider this a relationship? What the hell is this? Being the dramatic (Oops) Scorp i am i suggested ending things before i left because i saw no future, but he persuaded me to hold on and i took it as a sign that he really wants this. Am i wrong? Do Cap men play along with things they don't hold close? But why ask me to hold on yet show no love for me here.

That was a month back. I brought up the subject of us drifting again just now and it did come across a tad confrontational, which i know they dislike, but i am hurt and upset. That he doesn't care enough, that it's not intense. He seemed affected by it but he didn't say much, just that we shall see how things go. How much of this reflects his sincerity in this relationship? Because if this ship's not gonna move any faster than i'm not sailing with it anymore. I understand they like things slow, but slow doesn't equate with not caring, does it? Or not showing it. He also had a problem with holding back affection with me. I know they fear being vulnerable, but come on.. i need to see some emotions.

There are, of course, doubts about his fidelity and whatnot. It's so hard being far apart and i don't know if it's worth holding on. We have discussed our future (Marriage, kids whatnot). Do Cap men discuss their futures easily? Am i being too hard on him or should i go with my instinct. I hate how they chase and let it loose after getting it.

What should i do?

Cap men (some) are like this but that Aquarius moon is a bitch, they feel like they have accomplished there goal of winning a woman over and then *POOF* he's gone in a lot of ways, mostly emotionally distant, they are not romantics from what I'm told and they can be really cold. I usually go over to www.sassotrology.com and read what they say about cap men over there, I believe there is a scorpio woman that has pretty much mastered her guy over there (sorry don't have her link but if you shift through you may find her). All I know is you will need patience and tons of it and also if you can learn as much as you can about Capricorn men, you will need it.

In romance, it may be hard for the self-contained Aquarius Moon to ever completely merge. They??re happy to stick with a romantic friendship, and many of them find partnership later in life. A need for personal freedom keeps them from making ties that feel controlling or limiting in any way. They??ll thrive with a mate that is also taking the road less traveled, and simply wants to include them in the curious experiment of life along the way.

The Moon in Aquarius comes up with the grand ideas, but can have a hard time with the nuts and bolts. Some may find the mundane challenges of daily life, such as paying bills or doing the dishes, to be a herculean struggle. When feeling insecure, they may hide behind a veil of aloofness and try to blend in with the multitudes. Some find connection by simply sitting alone in a public place, such as a coffee shop.

They??re notable humanitarians, always trying to reach out to the masses through art, science or a cause. This makes them more oriented toward groups in general, and less comfortable with the intimate one on one. Their orientation toward the collective —all of us?? makes it hard for them to isolate their own unique emotional reality. To put it more simply, many Aquarius Moons don't know how they feel much of the time.

If your not happy, meaning if he's not filling up your love cup then why stay and when I say stay I mean stay as in make him your one and only, if you can date other men (date does not mean have sex) and date him too you will be able to balance what your not getting from him by getting it elswhere snd you won't be so focused on what he's doing and not doing and the more you focus on him the more claustrophobic he feels, you can't make him be passionate although they feel passionately for others deep down inside and yes it surfaces from time to time but not always, this guy is going to take a long time to trust and open up IF ever. I wouldn't hold my breath but damn those cappies I love em.

You have to figure out what's best for you

LOL@Long distance is tough, don't think I could ever do it again. It's already hard enough to trust someone locally...Ain't that the truth, very hard to maintain SC.

BINGO!! But like any man, of course he is going to try to talk you out of it. Men never wanna let us go, but they don't always wanna do what it takes to keep us. any man, of course he is going to try to talk you out of it. Men never wanna let us go, but they don't always wanna do what it takes to keep us.

Some men are like that, they just can't let a good woman go, no man really truly wants to lose a good woman from their life but they don't necessarily want to do the work it takes to keep her either, sucks but hey that's how the ball drops sometimes.

Posted by scorpio_chic
Yeah, they get selfish and too comfortable, but I've known women to be the same way. I don't think anything is ever set in stone though. I think actions speak a hell of a lot louder than words, especially with men. I NEVER discuss with a man whether I'm thinking about leaving. I've learned in the past, that just gives them too much time to lay on the heavy bullshit, then just to slip back to their old ways once they know they changed your mind. I don't even give them the opportunity to talk me out of it anymore, for that reason. If they really want to keep me around, they can SHOW ME instead of telling me. Man o man have I learned that actions speak louder than words.. LOL and when it comes to actions, most men aint got shit to say! Until you're already halfway out the door.

LOL@and when it comes to actions, most men aint got shit to say! Until you're already halfway out the door....You are cracking me up today.

You know SC that man is stupid if he doesn't marry you, any man for that fact. You are really very wise and funny too, I don't really get scorpio females sense of humor but you I get...I can tell you been through it so you have earned your woman stripes. Also I notice you talk with less sting, you got some earth or air in your chart?

Okay I found the answer on your profile, it's your moon...moon in cancer...is one of the most delightful characteristics of Moon in Cancer people is their loony sense of humor. These people can be extraordinarily funny.

I just enjoy how you write, you have grown so much, I remember that post and how anxious you were, I was saying to myself lawrd help this girl LOL but you just seem like a whole new person, beautiful attitude, I get all happy inside when you speak your truth. You have done what most women hate to do because she's either too afraid or too lazy or both, you took care of yourself, you took all the bitterness and negativity and fear and made it work for you, let it motivate you to change, you allowed yourself to take in new thoughts and you just changed your whole attitude and I'm sure your cap notices all of it and finds it very attractive, it's like you slowed all the way down emotionally because before you were sort of all over the place which made me kind of uneasy and confused but now your just solid and emotionally grounded, I'm sure you have your days when you feel out of control but it appears you have a level of acceptance and love to help you through that on your own.

Whatever your doing keep doing it.

Hey Buttercup hahaha yeah I actually don't agree with you or disagree, the male and female dynamics of these placements are so different, I dunno why but the men with these placements run like hell, women are more prone to try to have a commitment despite her fears because we are brought up well most of us are brought up to believe marriage and children are important so how women approach long-term commitments is quite different than men plus women tend to mature emotionally much faster than men and then you have hormones, those pesky nesting instincts and most not all but most women have those instincts and that will out weigh her desire to be single....you may take time to warm up, most females do but men with this placement lawrd jesus, even if he's sure he will stall.

Hey SC your ascendent is Libra, oh you are very pretty I bet, I hear men talk about this placement a few years ago and that always stuck with me.

Yep, I knew it, your an absolute beauty, my mom came by my house and looked over my shoulder and the first thing she noticed were your eyes, my mom said those eyes tell a story, she's deep. Guess the men were absolutely right about people with libra risings...

hehe shaka i'm sure your an absolute cutie too, I think there a few more libra ascendents floating around here.

I dont even know what my asscendant is?? But I think Im hot stuff...

Your welcome

A thank you is enough SC, I'm sure your eyes look beautiful with or without make-up, learn to take compliments without down playing your looks, always be proud of yourself, you deserve nice compliments!

shake what ya mama gave ya d:

I tried to post a couple of my virtual makeovers...but I cant figure it out how to post them

YEAH!!!! it worked! LOL...that is so fun SC...and btw..you are really pretty.

As always there are two story's behind every one. What I will say is yes, it is hard for people not to communicate in long distance relationship but NO it isn't unusual. You sound like you are insecure over this man, and that you have trust issues. That is essentially your problem to deal with not his. Therefore go. If you can't deal with the long waits in calls or communicating than date some one more nearer to you. If he wants you he will adjust time to talk to you if not then he won't.

I know men were begging you to arrest them that night SC...Are those shorts? You got a body like Jennifer Lopez.

Posted by scorpio_chic

Posted by buttercupSG
if i was not mistaken, scopio_chic, i first saw ur pic dressed in a police costume lol that was super sexy cute!! and i thought to myself wow i like this chica coz i dressed in something similar last halloween lol. it was really fun for me and my sagi girlfriend cuz some stranger boyz kept telling us they were turning themselves in to us lol but out of my respect for mr.scorp i have decided to dress like a nun this year lol 😛 😄. no joke tho 🙂.

LOL yeah this was Halloween of 2008.. me & my cap had only been dating for about 6 months at this point. I did not go out with him, I went to a halloween party with friends but he saw the pictures afterward and didn't say much. LOL I could tell by his silence that he wasn't too happy I wore that out of the house. LMAO I didn't dress up for halloween of this past year.. I was working. But even if I had, I would have dressed more appropriately out of respect for him, now that we are at a better place.



softy.. upload the picture to your photobucket or imageshack account and copy/paste the direct link here.

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:O OMG lucky Cap!!

I think you should make like a sheep herder and get the flock out