talking to a cap man

recent update:

so cap and me are reaching the 5th of dating. things have gone great. he's been busy with work, but makes an effort to spend time w me.

so recently he invited me to his family party. and I asked if he was gng to intro me as gf or friend. he asked me what I wanted, so I said gf. then during the party he intro me as what I wanted, very fast attempt and I was happy.

this cap is rather superficial. he puts in so much effort to look good, spending much on clothes, etc. he has so much opinions on my dressing (eg. u should wear more colors, u should wear long dress, u should wear this/ perm ur hair, etc). while I tolerated, lately I just told him if he keeps expecting so much changes from it I can't do it. honestly speaking. I can't make myself change so much.

I have dated a couple of men earlier, this man is just so different.

do U think telling him how I really feel will push him away? he hasn't gotten angry before and seems to be able to tolerate rather well.

sometimes I think I need more affection but not sure if telling him is a good idea, reason being, he is not a very open communicator.

thanks for reading n ur tk in this matter. appreciates!

Don't be extremely blunt with him if you wanna keep him that will piss him off. If I were you I would say something like I like this one better blah blah. Caps can be controlling and if you let them they will make you a slave. You have to finesse it while standing up for yourself.

As long as you are respectful and not whiny or nagging he will be recptive to your thoughts. Doesn't mean he will comply, but he will respect them. Be logical and rational and present a reason behind your opinion.

Posted by truecap
As long as you are respectful and not whiny or nagging he will be recptive to your thoughts. Doesn't mean he will comply, but he will respect them. Be logical and rational and present a reason behind your opinion.

Yes she knows and @TripleCap too.

OMG, I missed the perm part. Oh heck no!

I think you should tell him how you feel, and I mean really tell him. He is the one that need to make some changes.

Yes. If he is a TRUE grown-up Capricorn man, he will listen to your true feelings and then feel ashamed of himself for pushing you the way you not are, and then fix it, than putting you in his favorite frame. Because Capricorns admire truthfulness. If you just pretend to serve his requirements, one day you'll explode, at when he will say: "Why don't you say that at the first place?" But you'd better be careful with the way you say this to him. Don't say "YOU ARE WRONG". Just say it to him your true feelings, in a gentle manner.

About the way he show his affection, please be understanding. We Capricorn men are pretty shy and dry when it comes to love. We are deeply romantic, but we are also pragmatic. We do much, and say less. We will hug you and say nothing the whole night when you are suffering rather than ask you "Are you OK?" just once and then stick to Xbox360. I, a Capricorn myself, have tried thousand times expressing my true feelings, true eternal-flame affection, but it is like there's a wall that blocks me walking on that path.
But again, relationships cannot survive without communication. If you need more affection, just say so. Capricorn men will do everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, for their love. Maybe he will happy to do that, because he may have been afraid you were not ready for that 😄 Just give him time, 'cuz that may take him a long time to adjust 😄

Good luck 😉