Please help?

I have this cap guy friend and he is trying really REALLY hard to make me give in to him... he likes me and only said after lots and lots of doubious talk and questions from me. I can see right through his techinics of manipulation and it kinda pisses me off. I already told him i like him as a friend but he still tries to convince me... I dont know what to do, i dont wanna hurt his feelings being more "agressive".
He is a cap sun, scorpio moon. So i guess i am in trouble here?

Difficult to help if we can not see the question. 🙂

Posted by eight67530nine
OMG I thought you were a damsel in distress.

And you of all people where going to ride to the rescue?

😉

Posted by truecap

Posted by eight67530nine
OMG I thought you were a damsel in distress.

And you of all people where going to ride to the rescue?

😉

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^^^^CAPINC TO THE RESCUE!^^^^

Posted by eight67530nine
Black armor is more my style .

Ask and thou shall receive 😉

Guess I did something wrong haha Just showed what i wrote now! Hope I can have some feedback 🙂

Posted by tay94
I have this cap guy friend and he is trying really REALLY hard to make me give in to him... he likes me and only said after lots and lots of doubious talk and questions from me. I can see right through his techinics of manipulation and it kinda pisses me off. I already told him i like him as a friend but he still tries to convince me... I dont know what to do, i dont wanna hurt his feelings being more "agressive".
He is a cap sun, scorpio moon. So i guess i am in trouble here?

Just ignore him and start dating someone else. He should get the hint.

Out of curiosity, how do you think he's manipulating you?

And what if I don't want to cut him off? :/ I want to keep his friendship... So I need to figure out a way to tell him that (even though I've said but he refuses to understand) or I might just say it directly!

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Posted by tay94
I have this cap guy friend and he is trying really REALLY hard to make me give in to him... he likes me and only said after lots and lots of doubious talk and questions from me. I can see right through his techinics of manipulation and it kinda pisses me off. I already told him i like him as a friend but he still tries to convince me... I dont know what to do, i dont wanna hurt his feelings being more "agressive".
He is a cap sun, scorpio moon. So i guess i am in trouble here?

Just ignore him and start dating someone else. He should get the hint.

Out of curiosity, how do you think he's manipulating you?

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Hmmm, I guess he thinks he is manipulating me making me accept going out with him and making me say things about myself and stuff. When he is talking to me, he never really says it all in hope I will be curious and keep the conversation to the point he wants the conversation to go u know? I think i give him the wrong impression, cause he said I am his challenge and that he couldn't figure me out yet... that is the problem with capricorn people I guess. Too much analysis... mentally and pshycally talking ( he is aware of my move either it is a look or if I pass my hand through my hair). I feel like I am being analyzed all the time.

Ahh I see! Yeah, Cap men seem to notice everything when they are interested in you..seriously.
They listen to every word too, and will think it about it later when you're gone. Not necessarily a bad thing as they are a cautious bunch!

However, since you're a Scorpio, I'm sure you know exactly what he's doing haha. If you want to be friends with him, but don't have a history together, I think you have to add value to his life in some way. Just my 2 cents...

He does think about everything I tell him! OH my... I can really see everything he is doing yes and already told that to him. I said like "Hey I can see all the engines in your head working on your next hint. Please stop doing that". But he just keeps doing it. I guess we are already friends but I will try to make some difference for him... just don't want him to go away when he decides it is time to give up on me.

Posted by tay94 I might just say it directly!

Yes, yes, and yes again. Say it straight and clear. Lather, rinse and repeat if necessary.

why not give him a chance...?

Well, if he is pressuring you and manipulating you, then he's not respecting your friendship. If you're not interested, you're not interested, so in this case a very rude, blunt no is in order. I wouldn't even worry about trying to keep the friendship. He only sees you as a piece of meat, not as a friend. So, if he's not respecting the friendship, why should you?

I hate guys like this. They are a parasite.

But you won't. Your Leo moon likes the attention too much.

Come on, admit it. We understand. 🙂

Thanks for all the help, guys!! I will try to make a resume here...

I will set boundaries as Champranger said and also say it really clear that my intenttions are only for friendship with him as SpicenSugar mentioned!

Cap, thinking about your question I guess I gave him that idea since I accepted when he invited me for a "date". But fordon't we were just there as friends... and also a walk by the beach? Idk I was doing it in an innocent manner but well I will cut these things of from now on, I was just trying to be nice :/ And again as champranger said i dont like cutting people I like off even though I only like jim as a friend.

Caplove, I am not attracted to him at all. I just would like to keep his friendship 🙂 and again I realise that i am being flirty wih him and giving the impression that I like him but didn't want to say it so fast kind of way u know?? :O Man... I sometimes only act according to my point of view (since in my head going out with him and having meaningful conversations were jusf to tighten up the friendship). That is a little selfish of me and only thought of it now. I was not thinking on how he would react to all that

Posted by tay94
Caplove, I am not attracted to him at all. I just would like to keep his friendship 🙂 and again I realise that i am being flirty wih him and giving the impression that I like him but didn't want to say it so fast kind of way u know?? :O Man... I sometimes only act according to my point of view (since in my head going out with him and having meaningful conversations were jusf to tighten up the friendship). That is a little selfish of me and only thought of it now. I was not thinking on how he would react to all that

Remember this next time a guy gives YOU mixed signals.

hahaha

Remember this next time a guy gives YOU mixed signals.

Great advice! Thanks!