Taurus Boyfriend leaves Capricorn girl high & dry

We have known each other for 7 months been dating since November. He asked me to be his girlfriend officially last week. The same day we run into my ex and some drama happened but we talked about it and both agreed to brush it off. We decided to take a trip to SF this weekend because we needed some alone time, some positive time away from what just happened with my ex. Every thing was going great the car ride up (6hours) was fantastic.

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We get food and come back to hotel and he wasn't making any moves on me so I started to..and then he said lets talk. So he opened up and said that interaction with my ex really kind of set him back he said it's fine and we are fine but he just needs time to get over that. He said also I was his first girlfriend to ever ejaculate inside. And he was just starts to get worried about it. So he wanted to postpone for awhile until he can figure out what he wants to do. We talked it out and both agreed no sex until he decides. Saturday everything was fantastic! Saturday night we went out dancing and we both drank not a lot but enough to be tipsy kind of starting to get drunk. We come back to hotel start fooling around he starts having Sex with me but I stop him after awhile and he gets mad and turns over. I explained to him I stopped because I wasn't sure what he wanted to do in regards to this..and we just talked about something Friday night and I didn't know if he already decided or what? So he tells me he decided because he proceeded to have sex with me so that means he decided. So I just simply told him I didn't know that's what it meant he didn't make it clear. So I tried to brush it off and start up again kissing him. He said he's not in the mood and turns over... I'm a Capricorn and we like to solve problems and we don't like when things feel awkward.

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So I tried to talk to him but he just kept getting more and more mad. Eventually we went to sleepFor some reason I decided to take his phone I don't know why but I wanted to see if he was talking to other girls. I waited until he started falling asleep and took it, I looked at It but I only saw he was talking to one friend who was a girl maybe flirting with her little bit. So I said whatever. Then he turned over and tried to play nice with me( at this point I think he noticed his phone was gone) he said let me hold your hand and I dropped his phone out of my hand on the bed but I think he knew i had it. He started being nice all of a sudden I was pissed cuz I knew he was doing that prob cuz I saw that convo with his friend who's a girl, so I said "oh now u wanna be all nice" he immediately shot up out of bed and was angry and yelling about all kInds of butter how I wont let him sleep blah blah all I wanna do is argue.

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He starts packing his clothes andEverything telling me he's going back to los angeles(we drove together from la to SF) he said are you coming with me or staying here? I told him I wasn't going anywhere at this time..it was now about 3am. We kept fighting back n forth he left the room a couple times and came back. During one of our fights he said this is ridiculous we shouldn't be fighting like this early on in the relationship and I kept telling him to break up with me then obviously I was intoxicated and that's not what I wanted and I was angry and had built up anger from Friday. So he did, he said it was too much and we are over and left.

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Then he sent me a text at 4am saying it doesn't matter if we are broken up or not he will wait for me until morning then leave together with me. I fell asleep at this point. Then at 5am he texted me "Ok then if u not talking to me there no point in me waiting I'm going to go on I didn't want to leave you I came back to the room 3 times and asked u to please come with me , in sorry it had to end like this" he hasn't texted me or called me since.

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I AM SO HURT and I feel like he doesn't give a crap about me. Not even to say he's back home or ask me how I got home or if I got home. No concern at all. Maybe it's guilt for leaving me? Maybe he's just done? I have no idea what's going on in his head. I still have stuff of his and he has stuff of mine so he's going to have to see me eventually. Maybe? I don't know what's going on, we get along so amazing 99.9% of the time and we are a great match otherwise. We both just didn't know how to handle each other that mad communicate and I pushed him over the edge , and we were drinking..he never drinks too so he's a light weight. I don't know if the relationship is repairable? I really need advice..I'm pissed he left me but should I just not try to get him back because of that? Do I try? I really cared about him but he left me...Who's at fault here? Will he ever text??

Posted by Capri-sun
Give it time. If he wants anything to do with you, he'll let you know. No you shouldn't reach out. Both of you were at fault & had a break down of communication. Cap & Taurus fighting is a stubborn death till the end. Give it time to pass.

Agreed 😉 thanks! I def see where I was at fault

Did he actually left you in the middle of the night and took the car back home leaving you with no means to return?!

Posted by IamAries
Did he actually left you in the middle of the night and took the car back home leaving you with no means to return?!

Yes I'm afraid so. We were fighting and he packed all his things and said he was going back to los angeles and asked if I was coming. Obviously we were just in the middle of a heated argument so I told him no. We fought back and forth many times, he came back and forth into the room but never calm never trying to talk it out or settle down. Then he went into his car and sent me a text saying it doesn't matter if we are broken up or not he is still waiting for me until the morning to leave. I fell asleep and when i woke up at 7-8am and i saw another text he sent at 5am saying since I wasn't responding he was going to leave. The most hurtful part is yes he left, but he didn't even send me a text asking if i got back ok or I'm home. He hasn't made any contact since.

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Posted by IamAries
Did he actually left you in the middle of the night and took the car back home leaving you with no means to return?!

Yes I'm afraid so. We were fighting and he packed all his things and said he was going back to los angeles and asked if I was coming. Obviously we were just in the middle of a heated argument so I told him no. We fought back and forth many times, he came back and forth into the room but never calm never trying to talk it out or settle down. Then he went into his car and sent me a text saying it doesn't matter if we are broken up or not he is still waiting for me until the morning to leave. I fell asleep and when i woke up at 7-8am and i saw another text he sent at 5am saying since I wasn't responding he was going to leave. The most hurtful part is yes he left, but he didn't even send me a text asking if i got back ok or I'm home. He hasn't made any contact since.

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Goodness me. No matter how in the wrong you could be that's just low. No bueno.

Left you alone in a hotel room, 6hours away from home, and didn´t even check on you to make sure you got home ok?

He would never see my face again!

Posted by IamAries
Did he actually left you in the middle of the night and took the car back home leaving you with no means to return?!

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WTF

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Posted by IamAries
Did he actually left you in the middle of the night and took the car back home leaving you with no means to return?!

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WTF

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Posted by capricorngirl25

Posted by IamAries
Did he actually left you in the middle of the night and took the car back home leaving you with no means to return?!

Yes I'm afraid so. We were fighting and he packed all his things and said he was going back to los angeles and asked if I was coming. Obviously we were just in the middle of a heated argument so I told him no. We fought back and forth many times, he came back and forth into the room but never calm never trying to talk it out or settle down. Then he went into his car and sent me a text saying it doesn't matter if we are broken up or not he is still waiting for me until the morning to leave. I fell asleep and when i woke up at 7-8am and i saw another text he sent at 5am saying since I wasn't responding he was going to leave. The most hurtful part is yes he left, but he didn't even send me a text asking if i got back ok or I'm home. He hasn't made any contact since.

Goodness me. No matter how in the wrong you could be that's just low. No bueno.

Left you alone in a hotel room, 6hours away from home, and didn´t even check on you to make sure you got home ok?

He would never see my face again!

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Thank u for that

It's over. I chalk this up to being immature and inexperienced.

Girl, don't look back. That was messed up for him to leave you like that.

I am imagining him alone in the car driving for 6 hours, doubting his decision to leave you in a hotel room like that. For that 6 hours, he had to be thinking about that. And if he wasn't.... But, he ultimately decided to leave without you, which tells me that he is incredibly self-centered and/or insecure. Selfish and self-centered people are a dime a dozen. That is the complete opposite of a gentleman. I don't care how mad someone is, you don't do that to someone you care about. Could you ever trust him again after this stunt? Be honest with yourself. I am sure that if the tables were turned, you wouldn't have left him there. Demand the same respect and consideration you would gladly give the man you love. I'm sorry that happened.

This story actually reminds me of a situation I've been through that I actually had forgotten about.

And again, not minimizing the things you also could have done better, but the leaving thing for me, it is the worst.

Just after I finished with my last ex bf, I started going out with this Virgo guy. He was hot and cold. Somedays he was totally absent, then randomly he would come with this display of emotions and random romantic acts, full of love.

I was already tired of it and one day we were at a terrace and were discussing something. Not about us. I think it was politics. I was giving my opinion and he kept on jumping and interrupting me. I said: let me finish and then you speak! He said: no no, listen to what I have to say or I leave! I said: ok, then leave!

He stood up and actually left! People seating next to us started asking me if I was OK (because he was shouting and left very abruptly). So I stood there just chatting with this guys etc. They were quite cool, telling me they were married and they would never treat their wifes this way, etc.



He then started calling and texting asking if I was still there and I didn't answer. It was about 1am. He came back, sat down and didn't even apologized. It was the end for me.