The Idea of Courtship ... ?

Is it dead or in major need of a makeover?

""after three years, for most people, not just aquas...utterring the word friend is not that big a deal."

I would disagree that it's not a big deal for most people to call someone a friend after three years of getting to know each other, slowly sharing new experiences, and the growth of the relationship from acquaintanceship to the beginning of a sweet friendship. To me...in my view...that's a beautiful thing, one to treasure, enjoy and appreciate...meaningless as it may seem to "some" or according to you "most".

But if you are right, then I would say "most" people are truly missing out on the simple joys of life....overly concerned and focused on the result. This is indeed a very big deal for both of us. I know that and I appreciate it in my heart. That is all that matters. I'm simply sharing it with you all...for what it may be worth to anyone else...it certainly is worth a lot to me and I know it's worth a lot to mr. aqua as well. Why do I know, I don't know...but I do. And if it turns out I'm wrong...well...then I'm wrong. By believing that today, I will take the risk that I am wrong tomorrow.

"you are his friend. it seems pretty straight forward and simple."

That's right...and your point is? I am experiencing a wonderful time in my growing friendship with my mr. aqua friend and that is what I am celebrating and thoroughly enjoying."

^^ quoted by UC from the aqua board.

erm, i guess that should be quoted from UC. cause it wasn't really by her.

well, it was by her, just not QUOTED by her. gah!

makeover

guitar serenades?

if only the girl doesnt call the authorities😢

LOL!!! I should've been more specific. Hahaha, that's what I get for typing in a hurry.

I have this book that's called: Why Men Love Bitches -- I got it for my birthday 😉

I'm 1/4 of the way through the book (because of studying) and it just occurred to me ... why is it that women have to be "MEAN" in order to get a guy that's stable? Why?

I'm almost done wih the "From Doormat to Dreamgirl" section and I find it enriching 🙂

I also have this book called: "The Unhitched Generation"

It explains that commitment isn't important anymore because both men and women don't have to woem as hard anymore. Women open their legs before the relationship gets off the ground and men buy lavish gifts just to keep the girl interested.

There was also something on CNN that revealed that most men and women aren't familiar with courtship and as a result, are generation is totally lost in the relationship department.

Like, we think we know what we are doing and we really don't, you know?

I totally agree with you cappywench. Although many women don't want that responsiblity, its definitely theres. We are the ones who set the tone in relationships. I figured that out in January of 2008 🙂 Yeah, it took me that freaking long LOL

Also, I think gender roles are a HUGE problems. Like, what is expect of a women and what's expected of a man. For a while, it was expected that women are the nuturers and men were the bread-winners or leaders. Those labels are too much to live up to -- lets face it, not every man want to totally be the bread-winner and not every women wants to totally be the caregiver.

My question is this, what's so wrong with having a little bit of both in each gender?

Now, there is a basic difference between masculine qualities and feminine qualities -- some may disagree but it's true. However, gender roles can change.

Growing up and right now, I've always been puzzled by the fact that most career women are SUPER stressed ... to the point of no return. Why is it that most women who have careers feel pressure to carry the household too? Where's the guy (husband)? He can come home and do the laundry, clean, fix dinner ... etc. Oh yeah and pick the kids up from their daily activites. You know what I mean? It shouldn't just be one person doing it all ... but in many relationships/ marriages it appears to be that way.

Hey! You may have something there!!!!

I will reply more tomorrow, my Building Manager is closing and he's watching everything I do!!

I grew up also in such a family, feelings were noexistant. You dont need to be guilty, if you worry and your loved one/Partner can understand, explain.

I did worse, I was repressed so I taked it to the low bottom line, I was in the bottom of the well. But now I also fight for what I need, but for my loved one I want to do everything.

Its hard sometimes to split it (relationship with others and Husband/Wife), but we have to find that place in heart, the one that hurts.

On topic im a very timid person but I know what courtship is, I just not putted that in pratice because of being timid...but that is changing, when Im with her I have no restrains, is just a battle with my brain.

Very interesting article. Being the youngest, I actually worried more with taking care of my brothers (the two geminis closer to my age) because ... well, in my family, it's important to "take care" of the men. Which is really annoying.