towards your crush...

what are you like around that one person that you are really really crushing on or into? do you engage them? or are they the one person you just cant seem to talk to? would they know that you like them? how obvious do you make your feelings known? how do you feel you come off to them?

it seems like that one person that i like a whole lot... i freeze up when i'm around them. the phrase 'painfully shy' kind of applies here. and it's perplexing to me because i'm otherwise a pretty confident and easy going person. dunno what's up with that. some days are a little bit better than others, but generally i freeze. i'm sure i come off as shy to those people as well. i'm also almost positive that they never have a clue that i like them. unless of course they see me around other people and can tell i'm not really like that. maybe they put two and two together. is this an illness? do they have pills for people like me? hrmmm, i suppose thats what alcohol is for. loosen up... 'put out the vibe' lol

what about you guys?

True for me also...half the time I have no clue if I like them...
I tend to ignore them to there face....


Well, for those guys that crush on me and i have an incling about...I usually take advantage of them...not monetarily, but mentally, yes. Im evil like that, its fun to watch them squirm.

JD, i'm thinking i'm the same. When I use the word 'freeze', I'm pretty sure I come off as cold to them. If anything they probably think I dislike! them. 😢 Which probably contributes to the fact that no relationship of any kind has come of those feelings and guys.

These crushes that I'm referring to, though, would be the guys that I dont really know. Like what you said, WBTG... its more of an intense admiration that get's a hold of me and I feel really inadequate or something. I dont know what else to do other than dodge them. lol. pretty lame. Otherwise, its as CGWL and bling say... i like someone and develope real feelings after getting to know them. Every important relationship I've been in has started like that. Which is cool with me. I just dont understand why I cant be normal around some people. 😛

I can sooo relate to that Creepypants

when i first realize i'm having feelings for someone, i'm usually really quiet around them and i guess you could say i keep them at arm's length. that's only because i'm trying to decide whether they're really worth paying attention to. once i get past that, i act like i do around my friends, and according to my mood of the moment. they basically become just another friend to me, whether i have feelings for them or not, and i act like nothing but "myself", the person i am when i'm comfortable. in general, i think that's a very good thing because, while sometimes it leads to confusion on their end as to whether my feelings are simply platonic, at least they have no illusions or false expectations of me that will deteriorate and leave them with a person they weren't expecting.

so true... i'm sure i've treated people that i actually do despise better than these people that i've crushed on.

it's a bit like being really involved with someone. why is it that they have the ability to tap into our worst selves ...very easily. i suppose this is the bad that comes with the good... they also get the best of us that we may never give to anyone else

hrmmmm... maybe it's that we are intimidating for them(back to infatuations) too! 😛 lol ahhh if only. well, even friends have told me that when i am quiet... it's intimidating. interesting. it cant be me, it's gotta be them. lol 😄

Message posted by: wheelhomies on 2/2/2007 3:44:11 PM ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.112
when i first realize i'm having feelings for someone, i'm usually really quiet around them and i guess you could say i keep them at arm's length. that's only because i'm trying to decide whether they're really worth paying attention to. once i get past that, i act like i do around my friends, and according to my mood of the moment. they basically become just another friend to me, whether i have feelings for them or not, and i act like nothing but "myself", the person i am when i'm comfortable. in general, i think that's a very good thing because, while sometimes it leads to confusion on their end as to whether my feelings are simply platonic, at least they have no illusions or false expectations of me that will deteriorate and leave them with a person they weren't expecting.


I agree, well put...same as me.