Vintage cap needs help ...

Hi gang ...I'be been auditing the boards off and on for a few mon ths and like the chatter and communication and insight. You are a together group that takes emotions serious. Name is ddsk. Don't ask, means nada.

OK. I'm a 50ish Cap (Virgo rising) who met a Virgo lass, my first experience with a V. WE hit it off as famously as I could have imagined, and every date was bliss. We covered so much and felt the pull hard and emoitonally.

Now the rub: When she gets overwhelmed by work etc, she tends to withdraw and starts to question all of her decisions, including me. It is a horrible feeling because it can often follow a winderful weekend or day together, and it throws me for a loop. That come-here/go=away stuff is so 7th grade, and while I'm tough enough to handle this, it isn't how I want to spend my time.

Is this typical of Virgo women, nearing the fire and then running awayt. Can she get so overwhelmed in her work that she finds no time for the men in her life, or is just a characterisic of the type.

Any thought?

im a virgo female 22 yrs old. been in 2 short relationships and doing the push pull thing jus like her... the attraction..intensity is strong. i think im overwhelmed by work too...so busy and i often doubt the relationship would work.

ddsk, I believe a lot of times, that behaviour is about either an insecurity or a "can't breath, need my space" reaction. Virgo's have nervous tendancies and when they feel smothered, their immediate reaction is to want to RUN. That's not to say they all do, but that could be the Push - Pull feeling you are experiencing from her. She is most likely drawn to your earthy, soothing nature, but becomes overwhelmed.

The best thing for you to do, is to be supportive without offering too many opinions. Be patient and allow her to have her space when she needs it. She will eventually settle into your relationship and be thankful you stood by her.

I JUST LOVE THE TITLE OF THIS THREAD!! he he eh 😉

Gemini .... Glad you appreciated it ..

sherob ... your analysis seems right on, because we've talked about the issue and she went out of her way to say she gets overwhelmed sometimes and it has nothing to do with me. I've dated enough women to know that withdrawing is the first step to goodbye (and done it myself). My Virgo is truly different. She does calm me in many ways, which is a surprise at this age. She says she's enjoying true intimacy for the first time, and that's a surprise for her. We have something special. I just have to be patient with her, maybe more patient than I've ever had to do ever. Seems worth it ...

Thx

Vintage Cap/ddsk

ddsk, your relationship sounds worth it. I am sure that in time, patience will bring balance to you both. My thoughts are with you ...