What is up with this guy?? So cold!!

A Pisces girl here, and man are you guys the hardest to read. I??ve had a love/hate relationship with a Capricorn for around 5 or 6 years now. He drives me nuts with the silent treatments. We've never dated, but he has admitted to his friend that he was —interested?? in me, around 5 years ago. Around 5 years ago, we'd talk on aim for hours, but he'd never come hang out with me. We live very, very close. About 2 years ago, he told me that he has never been attracted to anyone more than he has of me and then I asked him if he meant physically or mentally, he said both. I was amused because he has had some beautiful girlfriends, and not to sound rude, but I am considered beautiful as well, it's just, man they were stunning, and they were my complete opposites. Tan, blonde, etc. I'm pretty sure my passion scares him though haha. But anyway, when he said that I had a boyfriend at the time, and he was going away to school. He is coming home soon, and I am single. He refuses to hang out with me if I am not single :/, like he can't just be my friend!! I??d love to hear everyone's thoughts on this. I would greatly appreciate them. I just want to know what is up with this guy. I feel like everything I do, is just, wrong in his eyes. Like I can do nothing right. It's annoying...

Oh also, we have hung out occasionally, but at first he was very cautious. I don't think he was very confident when we around 16/17. We're 22 now.

Interesting, and if I find that to be the case, i'll write him out of my life. Thanks for the response!

He wants to hang out when he comes back, I probably won't though. I don't like having to walk on eggshells with him. He's not worth it, nobody is worth that kind of stress.

Yeah, and as he gets older I think it takes him an even longer time to warm up to people. The night he told me that "he has never been attracted to anyone more than he has of me and then I asked him if he meant physically or mentally, he said both" thing, I tried getting him to open up about other things, just to connect with him, but he firmly, but kindly stated he wouldn't. When I asked why, he told me that someone from his past had ruined that for him, and now he never opens up. Oh yes, i'm much more cautious of an individual now. I refuse to lose my head, I will do anything to prevent it 🙂

I'm not sure what you mean, asking how I know if he feels that strongly? I'm confused. I just repeated the things he has told me. I'm not angry with him, but I am putting up barrier because I don't want to get hurt. I think when i'm guarded I might come off as needing to "cool my jets" haha.

I think he just wants to get in your pants... *shrugs*

I really appreciate your responses. I have a lot to mull over. I guess, all I can do is just be myself. I won't change for anyone, and i'll try my best to be patient with him, but I won't be strung along.

Maybe he has had a crush on you so long and is enamored of the "idea" of you and him that he's afraid to make it real. That it won't measure up to the expectations he has imagined. You probably also make him nervous.

Well, you can't fix that. So go about your business. Invite him on group outings and see if he warms up. Work on the friendship.