Whats up with this—

I'm a single 40 year old mother of 3 teens, I'm independant and very loving. Whats up with this now? I know this cap guy for almost 7 years, a neigbors best friend. My neighbor laid a hint a few weeks back that this guy really likes me and what I am about, so being me I called him up. Well to say the least he is one of the sweetest man I ever met! We hit it off laughing and sharing secrets of the past and present. We agreed we are both not into a realtionship but this friendship is very cool.Now the big oops, last week we had sex, very different fun loving sex But now did I hear from him ...Not!!! lol So whats up with this now? Have I been used and fooled, that can't be, I have been very guarded with any love interest before this! I suppose he tells all the girls that they are sweet:-) and If you guessed it He holds my interest, not b/c of the sex but b/c I like who he is and what he says he stands for, we both have the same heart on many many topics! I need to know what to do If anything there is too do, to have his friendship back? I'm 2 1/2 years older born on Feb 16 and he was born on the 30th of Dec........I've always been a spiritual person of the unknown but this has me lost!! :-) HELP!!!

Being a Cap man I am guessing he is confused as you. He probubly doesn't know where to go from here. He may even fell ashamed that it happened. He probubly doesn't want to loose your friend ship but doesn't know how to keep it. You need to call him and just tell him we need to talk and let him know where you are and how you feel. I am sure he will let you know where he is coming from. He will also be glad to have it out in the open.

Thanks Jake for your input:-)
I called and he wasn't home left a message saying as usual, just called to shoot the butter:-) Now the waiting game begins:-)

Now it begins, each night and day, sunset to dawn, the big hurt. Lets hope he calls.

Jake not to be rude but Oh please:-) I am a aquarius ya know:-) hehehe I don't rely on hope, I just wish people could be more open minded I already have moved on, I'm still enjoying life, I guess to say the least I lost a sweet friend:-) that I don't like at all:-)

You only have a few options
#1 get back with him on a friendly basis
#2 make new friend and move on.
#3 be a loner like me.
#4 get back with him on more than a friendly basis
#5 Bit-h slap him
#6 I am out of Ideas
p.s. never ever worry about being rude to me I live in rude and as my daughter tells me ( Da you are very rude to mum) I have to ask her to speak american so I could understand her dam english have a bad accent.

Jake this is how I look at it, (but to tell you the truth I'm a little hurt:-) I called and left message saying hi, so if he is not interested he won't call or if he is he will I kind know he has the characteristics of a Cap SLOW!! to responed. hehehe I went on a date Monday night with another Cap he is totally different at least he called ...hehehe I have a few close friends male and female spent the day yesterday with a male friend. The point is, so we treetrunked up and had sex, maybe I scared him off did have 3 kids and the bod isn't the way she use to be:-P But butter he did have a good time and he knows I'm not interested in a relationship right now just got out of one with a BULL and let me tell u I'm kind of scared of men after the last !!! s-h-i-t or get of the pot FRIENDS is what we were and now he hides— Time to grow up, I'm living Jake trust me😉hehehe Just hurt by it all that I made a bad call:-)

Oh ya another I could call him I suppose again but why should I at least I tried once !!!!Bad vibe I'm getting

treetrunk him, as far as the bod goes looks good from here. If three kids scare him he got problems, when I hit 40 people (friends ?) told me I would end up old an lonley, I told them I would not live that long. I was wrong I am old 60 but still not lonley.

Ya treetrunk him for sure:-) well maybe again if he calls ....heheheh I can be a sick puppy at times, but really in all honesty I'm too nice to people even if they are mean to me! I'm tired of being such a sweetheart, gets me nowhere, with a few markers that take my sweetness for granted, But I'm still a hopeless romantic and do Love men eveything about them good and bad and I'm a sucker for a sweet smile:-)Ya know it's not like I don't have any love interests, I'm hit on a fair bit..........but why does this have to happen, I'm whinning now I'm having a beer and chillin chat with ya later Jake:-)

maybe you should call and leave a message like "about the other night", because obviously, he's thinking it's something it's not, according to you. the subject has to come up. just leaving a message "just to talk" leaves him thinking your after something, he, obviously, is not willing to give. you should get that book "he's just not that into you". it's very enlightening. i don't agree with the thoughts in it though, that we as women should let men pick and choose us, like cattle or slaves. i do think though, that it should be called "he or she,is just not that into you", because it goes both ways. read it, and you'll understand.

Thx for your input pato:-)
When I did leave a message it was like always Just called to Shoot the S-H-I-T, nothing any different from before, so as of right now he hasn't called nor do I expect him too😢 Kind of hurts my feelings b/c Now I wonder why were we friends in the first place! I'm embarrassed myself, of the whole situation but for some dam reason I'm will admit I'm very hurt, but as a trooper as I am, Foward bounds:-) hehehe Owell life is a b-i-t-c-h and then u die:-))

Hey Jake hows your day goin? :-)

Today is a day like all days that change and alter our times.

Much love to you