Advice needed about this Gemini male coworker #4

. He hides nothing.
I think he may not be too sure in the way that I like him and that is the reason he is holding back.
I’m trying to figure out if he’s interested in more than friendship and am asking others what they might think, based on my long ramble of information.

Have a blessed day all


After the first message, I had seen that what I wrote was broken up so made 4 seperate posts.....I will get the hang of this....PROMISE! lol

Hi there! Next time you can just open a threat and write the rest of the story in the next post so we can have it all together 😉
Ok, now my opinion.... He likes you. When a gem wants to 'partner' with someone in something is because we like you and want to hang out with you.
And if we get all happy and chatty and flirty that means we like u as well.... And he might not be sure if you like him back.... He sires analyze every move you make.... But we always get insecure and enjoy having a steady grown to move forward even if it's in our own pass.

If you like him and want to date him, give him a bit of reassurance so he can do his thing and ask you out. I myself have a hard time doing so, I hate rejection so I rather keep myself away before I hear a no, but I'm a girl, guys know that it is up to them to make the first move must of the time.

Show him that you will like to date him, If that what u want, and u will see that he will make his move.

Thank you Tete for the advice about the post....I was looking for anyway to try to delete my posts after I had seen that my question was so damn long lol. Thanks for the patience in reading in all that.

I've noticed over the almost year that we've worked together and have known each other now that the relationship has been shifting...that's not on a negative note though. Before we started to go to the gym together, we were acting a little differently...feeling each other out I guess even though we totally "get" each other, we were still learning more about each other. We went from going to the gym 2 times a week to 3 times, always on his suggestions and he's trying to make it a daily thing. Since we started to hang out more, we are more into the comfort zone than the feeling each other out one. I knew he liked me, he's so damn obvious about it but I didn't know 100% if he had a romantic interest or not. My gut thought so. Only reason I didn't ask him if he liked me that way was because we work together and if he didn't feel that way towards me, I didn't want it to be awkward. I'm hoping I'm not just in the "friend zone" with him.

Posted by SB70
Thank you Tete for the advice about the post....I was looking for anyway to try to delete my posts after I had seen that my question was so damn long lol. Thanks for the patience in reading in all that.

I've noticed over the almost year that we've worked together and have known each other now that the relationship has been shifting...that's not on a negative note though. Before we started to go to the gym together, we were acting a little differently...feeling each other out I guess even though we totally "get" each other, we were still learning more about each other. We went from going to the gym 2 times a week to 3 times, always on his suggestions and he's trying to make it a daily thing. Since we started to hang out more, we are more into the comfort zone than the feeling each other out one. I knew he liked me, he's so damn obvious about it but I didn't know 100% if he had a romantic interest or not. My gut thought so. Only reason I didn't ask him if he liked me that way was because we work together and if he didn't feel that way towards me, I didn't want it to be awkward. I'm hoping I'm not just in the "friend zone" with him.

Yes Gem men be some tricky bastards! lol...anyway, yes I agree with Tete he likes you 🙂 To make sure though, you gotta flirt and see how he responds. What is his Venus/Mars and Moon?

Thank you for responding. You know, I am not sure the other aspects such as venus/mars or any of that. Oh, I am a virgo and a BIG flirt at that!. In fact I can out flirt him by a mile....but his way of flirting is by teasing the hell out of me, anyway he can think of and I do it right back. We're both extremely witty. We "get" each other and we have from the very start. I've dated Gems and had relationship with them and this one is different, he's not your typical Gem or doesn't act like one at all. He's a June 4th Gem. I've always known that he's liked me but there is a difference between friendship like or romantic like and I was trying to get feedback before I make a fool of myself lol. Thank you Moonbutter for responding to this.

Posted by SB70
Thank you for responding. You know, I am not sure the other aspects such as venus/mars or any of that. Oh, I am a virgo and a BIG flirt at that!. In fact I can out flirt him by a mile....but his way of flirting is by teasing the hell out of me, anyway he can think of and I do it right back. We're both extremely witty. We "get" each other and we have from the very start. I've dated Gems and had relationship with them and this one is different, he's not your typical Gem or doesn't act like one at all. He's a June 4th Gem. I've always known that he's liked me but there is a difference between friendship like or romantic like and I was trying to get feedback before I make a fool of myself lol. Thank you Moonbutter for responding to this.

You are welcome SB70,, and I think he is waiting on YOU to show which direction y'all are goin in 🙂

You know the statement " waiting for the right time?" What sucks is when you don't know when that right time is......I am trying to get the courage up to say something and the thing is, I'm not shy at all. It's trying to figure out if it's a deep friendship we have or if he has a romantic interest. I am pretty sure it's romantic but I don't want to be one of those idiots that read into things and make a fool of themselves..... lol

Well here's an update to my original post. 2 weeks ago I was fired from my job, they were down sizing and are letting people go. The Gemini who was my best friend made it clear that he still wanted to go to the gym, which we've been doing but just not as often. Also a little while ago, I had bought an xbox one so we could play games together. He's been sending mixed signals for awhile now so finally I came right out and let him know that I really like him and have for awhile now. I said that I was trying to be careful while at work so it wouldn't be awkward for him incase he didn't feel the same way. All his actions and body language showed that he wanted more than friendship. So I wasn't overly emotional but I made it clear that I liked him and how I've been feeling but also said that if he didn't want anything more than friends that I would accept that and change my view on things. He responds with telling me that he just wants to be friends. That's it, cut and dry. I pretty much had laid it out on the line and he responds with a one liner. Well at least he didn't leave me guessing right? lol I made it clear that I'd remain friends but now seen everything from a different point of view and will move on and thanked him for his honesty.

Thanks for the update SB70, I have to say I am a lil surprised and disappointed...but I had the same thing happen to me with my Gem friend. Who knows what goes on in male Gem heads sometimes, lol.

oh I am upset in certain ways. I am happy that I know and got it over with. My feelings are up and down as he seemed so clear about so many things but then again, it's his loss. I will remain friends for however long that may be but I will take on a different approach now. When or if we see each other again, I plan to be happy and silly and fun loving and if anything, it's not the kind of reaction he will expect from me. He can wonder what I am so happy about lol. But I am not the type that sits around and waits so it's his loss now.

oh I am upset in certain ways. I am happy that I know and got it over with. My feelings are up and down as he seemed so clear about so many things but then again, it's his loss. I will remain friends for however long that may be but I will take on a different approach now. When or if we see each other again, I plan to be happy and silly and fun loving and if anything, it's not the kind of reaction he will expect from me. He can wonder what I am so happy about lol. But I am not the type that sits around and waits so it's his loss now.