caught up in Gemini madness. Help!!!

This is my first time here and I don't know where to start. I am 40 year old Libra caught up in an internet affair with a gemini guy 15 years younger. He lives on another country with parents and I'm ending a bad relationship. Five months ago we started chatting on social media and though I've always been cautious and very conservative this guy swept in and before I knew it I was caught up in hisworld. Talking endless hours Skyping, cybersex as well. We were proclaiming love and a future together. He begged to visit as early as this summer but i wanted wait until end of year to get to know him better.well 3 months into meeting things went cold. He was no as attentive. We started the off and on talking. I've blocked him several times on social media and he emails begging to talk to me. Saying he loves and misses me. When i unblock him we still don't talk as much or as romantic. I cut out Skyping and cyber stuff think I got he'd go away but he still hangs around but not saying much. Finally a few days ago he wanted some cyber stuff and I said no and blocked him because it hurts that things aren't the same and he no longer tells me he love me like he once did. After I blocked him he immediately started emailing asking me to unblock him but I refused and told him why. I told him we needed to move on. He said he didn't want to lose contact. So I agreed that we could be friends but only e.ail. we talked all day for the first time in weeks. Today I didn't hear from him and it's bothering me. I need to let go and why is he still around if he's no longer interested. I don't get it. I've never believed in horoscopes until I started reading about others. Can anyone she'd light on this madness?

Posted by lovegoddess007
This is my first time here and I don't know where to start. I am 40 year old Libra caught up in an internet affair with a gemini guy 15 years younger. He lives on another country with parents and I'm ending a bad relationship. Five months ago we started chatting on social media and though I've always been cautious and very conservative this guy swept in and before I knew it I was caught up in hisworld. Talking endless hours Skyping, cybersex as well. We were proclaiming love and a future together. He begged to visit as early as this summer but i wanted wait until end of year to get to know him better.well 3 months into meeting things went cold. He was no as attentive. We started the off and on talking. I've blocked him several times on social media and he emails begging to talk to me. Saying he loves and misses me. When i unblock him we still don't talk as much or as romantic. I cut out Skyping and cyber stuff think I got he'd go away but he still hangs around but not saying much. Finally a few days ago he wanted some cyber stuff and I said no and blocked him because it hurts that things aren't the same and he no longer tells me he love me like he once did. After I blocked him he immediately started emailing asking me to unblock him but I refused and told him why. I told him we needed to move on. He said he didn't want to lose contact. So I agreed that we could be friends but only e.ail. we talked all day for the first time in weeks. Today I didn't hear from him and it's bothering me. I need to let go and why is he still around if he's no longer interested. I don't get it. I've never believed in horoscopes until I started reading about others. Can anyone she'd light on this madness?

the relationship sounds like its run its course as far as long distance goes? it's very hard without physical contact.

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Posted by lovegoddess007
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Thanks kittenrouge. I believe it has run it's course. I just need to let go emotionally. I believe his refusal to go away gives hope that it's more there than it is. I really wish I hadn't told him it was okay to email even as a friend. I need to cut all ties.

Well you know you're running in circles. it's time to let go and give yourself a break. You must heal emotionally & leave room for another person who will be better for you. I know how hard it is. Gems are never really out and neither are Libras. Closure is never permanent but at some point we have to be strong & say stop. I am a Libra on and off dating former big lover Libra with Gem Moon. Though we are very attached to each other, I know that I am the one who will have to definitely cut the ties for the two of us. If I don't do it, this will go on and on forever & who knows how much more relationships I'll have to miss out on because of this indecisive guy and my indecisive self. I guess when you've done your best and the person does not seem to want to be serious, it's time to let go. They are keeping their options open and you make them a priority for absolutely no good reason.

I think the worst in this case is when we as libras start resenting ourselves. We deserve better. We are better as friends with Gems.

Good luck dear. Think of yourself first the rest will follow.

Posted by Sublimitas
Well you know you're running in circles. it's time to let go and give yourself a break. You must heal emotionally & leave room for another person who will be better for you. I know how hard it is. Gems are never really out and neither are Libras. Closure is never permanent but at some point we have to be strong & say stop. I am a Libra on and off dating former big lover Libra with Gem Moon. Though we are very attached to each other, I know that I am the one who will have to definitely cut the ties for the two of us. If I don't do it, this will go on and on forever & who knows how much more relationships I'll have to miss out on because of this indecisive guy and my indecisive self. I guess when you've done your best and the person does not seem to want to be serious, it's time to let go. They are keeping their options open and you make them a priority for absolutely no good reason.

I think the worst in this case is when we as libras start resenting ourselves. We deserve better. We are better as friends with Gems.

Good luck dear. Think of yourself first the rest will follow.

sublimitas, you're so right. I must put myself first. I didn't think it was possible to connect to a person online. Lesson learned. We need to spend time with a person to really know them. I'm still smh that this has happened. I have judged myself harshly for involving myself with someone online, younger and falling for it. But like you've said we deserve better and why give your best to someone undeserving. Thank you for the wonderful insight! I will heal and move on.

wat the hell

Staelz I've already used those exact same words many times. So yeah, wat the hell is right. All I can do now is move on, which I have

Online affairs aren't real. That's why it cooled off within 3 months. You can't be friends with this man which is why you get emotional when you don't hear from him. You really need to accept this was a fantasy that never panned out and move on. Once you start the 'block you now' 'unblock you later' game, it's time to cash out the chips and go home. The only question here is how long it will take you to realize this and what you will learn from it.

Posted by Este8
Online affairs aren't real. That's why it cooled off within 3 months. You can't be friends with this man which is why you get emotional when you don't hear from him. You emotional need to accept this was a fantasy that never panned out and move on. Once you start the 'block you now I've unblock you later' game, it's time to cash out the chips and go home. The only question here is how long it will take you to realize this and what you will learn from it.

Good questions. I realize now that online relationships aren't for me. I've never had one before and never will again. I have moved on. I haven't responded to any of his emails the last couple of days and don't intend to. Real or fantasy, the pain is real and the emotional connection was real for me. I believe it will get easier soon. My schedule is busy so that is helping. I've been asked out for dinner this
Coming weekend. Maybe I should accept even though Im really not in the mood for anything that involves the word MAN.

Posted by lovegoddess007

Posted by Este8
Online affairs aren't real. That's why it cooled off within 3 months. You can't be friends with this man which is why you get emotional when you don't hear from him. You emotional need to accept this was a fantasy that never panned out and move on. Once you start the 'block you now I've unblock you later' game, it's time to cash out the chips and go home. The only question here is how long it will take you to realize this and what you will learn from it.

Good questions. I realize now that online relationships aren't for me. I've never had one before and never will again. I have moved on. I haven't responded to any of his emails the last couple of days and don't intend to. Real or fantasy, the pain is real and the emotional connection was real for me. I believe it will get easier soon. My schedule is busy so that is helping. I've been asked out for dinner this
Coming weekend. Maybe I should accept even though Im really not in the mood for anything that involves the word MAN.

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Of course the feelings are real. They are yours. It's the relationship, the two of you together, that didn't work out. I'm sorry you got your heart broken. So have I. More than once. And it's smart to take time to heal. You will love again. It's live and learn for all of us and kudos to you for not answering him. Keep up the good work! It sucks now but remember a fantasy lover will never keep you warm at night. You deserve the whole enchilada. Don't settle for bullshit.

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Posted by lovegoddess007

Posted by Este8
Online affairs aren't real. That's why it cooled off within 3 months. You can't be friends with this man which is why you get emotional when you don't hear from him. You emotional need to accept this was a fantasy that never panned out and move on. Once you start the 'block you now I've unblock you later' game, it's time to cash out the chips and go home. The only question here is how long it will take you to realize this and what you will learn from it.

Good questions. I realize now that online relationships aren't for me. I've never had one before and never will again. I have moved on. I haven't responded to any of his emails the last couple of days and don't intend to. Real or fantasy, the pain is real and the emotional connection was real for me. I believe it will get easier soon. My schedule is busy so that is helping. I've been asked out for dinner this
Coming weekend. Maybe I should accept even though Im really not in the mood for anything that involves the word MAN.

Of course the feelings are real. They are yours. It's the relationship, the two of you together, that didn't work out. I'm sorry you got your heart broken. So have I. More than once. And it's smart to take time to heal. You will love again. It's live and learn for all of us and kudos to you for not answering him. Keep up the good work! It sucks now but remember a fantasy lover will never keep you warm at night. You deserve the whole enchilada. Don't settle for bullshit.

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LOL well said!