Confusing capricorn woman

Posted this on the Cap board for their take.

Basically she told me she just sees me as a friend and has no romantic feelings for me, fine. I accept that and I told her I was leaving and it was best cause she needed space to be with whoever shes dating now. But she keeps coming around and always wants to spend time, but is that right? I dont want to be mean and avoid her calls/texts or just tell her to go away. I always felt like we liked each other, but since she confirmed Im just a friend why doesnt she do whats best for me as a friend and let me be free? ofcourse I could just disappear, but why does she do that. Im Gemini by the way so I need answers. Im very considerate and wouldnt keep a person around I didnt like that I knew loved me. I do realise its hard for us to be apart as were close, I notice that..but why keep me around?I find it very uncomfortable if I know someone has feelings for me I dont feel for them?

ASK HER IF SHE IS AFTER FRIENDS WITH BENNYS
SHE MAY BE HORNEY AND NOT WANTING TO FUCK THE GUY SHES DATING SO HE THINKS SHE DOESN'T GET AROUND.

Keep moving, don't get caught with this lady.

As a Cap, I can tell you this: we are people who retreat if we don't feel safe to open up. And we always come back to what we truly want.
If you like her, make her feel as safe as possible and back everything you say with actions. Not words.

Posted by AnnaPhototaker
As a Cap, I can tell you this: we are people who retreat if we don't feel safe to open up. And we always come back to what we truly want.
If you like her, make her feel as safe as possible and back everything you say with actions. Not words.

Ive been here all along supporting her. Maybe Ive been too nice and generous. I see her flirting and spending time with some guy on fb so I approached her and told her I loved her and she said she didnt have any romantic feelings for me so I said ok, and left. I thought it was clear that we had both gone our separate ways at that point and that we'd never see each other again. Was so frustrated I didnt mind really if we never saw each other again. I tried to call to make peace but she wouldnt take my calls or texts so I said fine and accepted my loss and defeat and prepared myself for the transition from feeling something for someone to feeling nothing at all.

Then a week and a half later she wants to get together, like nothing happened. Out of the blue. I had even deleted her from my phone but I recognised her number. Im not even a fun Gemini, Im dull and quiet and arent much fun. She likes to go out, so she doesnt need me. Others can do what I can cause shes popular and every dude wants her. So why me, why keep me around and not let me go in peace—

Why you? You are kinda answering your own question without actually realizing it because you are too close to the situation and your 'love' for her is blinding your 'common sense'. She picks you because she has signed, sealed, and delivered you 'special delivery' to the infamous 'FriendZone'!

Now you're her safety zone where she can have fun and be herself without feeling pressure to have sex or make out. She can relax, enjoy peace of mind, and no obligation of a relationship, all at the expense of your 'love' for her. She clearly isn't YOUR friend because as you even stated, no true friend would keep someone around who they know loves them and the feelings aren't mutual.

Sorry guy, you seem like a good dude but man she is using you big time. Don't sell your 'manhood', especially so cheaply.??Frienemies are not in season so leave her like dead weight.

So right. Am meeting her tomorrow where I will inform her of my final exit. I dont need this. I was confused because we spent so much time together I thought she liked me, but nah. Thanks for the clarity.

Posted by GemiGem
So right. Am meeting her tomorrow where I will inform her of my final exit. I dont need this. I was confused because we spent so much time together I thought she liked me, but nah. Thanks for the clarity.

She does like you and she does care about you but not on the level that you care and feel about her so there lies the problem. Most people love to feel loved and admired so of course she likes you because she feels u love her and you show her that so she feels safe and comfortable around you.

It's hard to find people you can actually trust these days so she likes you for her own selfish reasons. It's all about her. How you make her feel, what you can do for her, all take and really no give. She doesn't care how deeply she hurts you or what she can do to make YOU feel special because she is too busy shining in the light you shine on her to make her feel special. Classic case of an unhealthy friendship, one that is not reciprocal. Reciprocity is the key to any true relationship and that is seriously lacking here.

Remember this:

Having someone that loves you, gives you Strength. .. but loving someone gives you Courage.

Sadly, a lot of people are 'strong' selfish cowards. She is stronger because of you. I give you a lot of respect for being brave enough to love her and also being man enough to tell her. She doesn't deserve you.

Good luck Gem.

Thanks. youre right, its hard to find people these days. So many games and BS. But I do feel better now. I have to get this off my back now, and also so she can breathe as well. Im not a problem child or trouble maker so why stay where im just going to cause problems for her and myself. Thanks so much.

Posted by james tate

ASK HER IF SHE IS AFTER FRIENDS WITH BENNYS

SHE MAY BE HORNEY AND NOT WANTING TO FUCK THE GUY SHES DATING SO HE THINKS SHE DOESN'T GET AROUND.

I think @KittenLaRouge would agree.