Could really use some help with Gem male - please!

I have had a Gem male friend for several years now and could use some help. It seems like he always takes our friendship for granted. I feel like I'm always the one making the effort and in fact not even really sure how he feels about me!!! I want to know if there is a way to get him to reveal that to me!! Also, I want to know how I can get him to stop taking me for granted. I'm very afraid that if I don't keep up keeping in touch with him that he won't keep in touch at all and I'll lose him. His friendship is VERY important to me!!!! Any ideas or thoughts would be soooo appreciated!!! When we first met several years ago he pursued me and now he doesn't. I guess I just want to know I mean something to him - any ideas how to recapture his attention?

Whatver you do...DONT TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL.....All he will here is that you want a commitment and that will make he run like hell......There's got to be something that he likes about you....it's going to take a long time for this one to come along..usually Gem Guys take forever....they are so caught up in whats going on with the rest of the world they dont look in thier immediate enviornment..Be kind to him....they like attention...tell him you appreciate him, respect and trust him....then let him open up...this works....however, I really am serious when I am saying don't make him think you want a committment...they are sooooo scared of that they run the opposite way...Good luck..

I don't think we run the other way all the time. Some of us geminis(moslty may born) are very committed in relationships. Some others like to experience every thing in the world at one time, not having time for one thing. We like the new, so maybe when a commitment comes along, it becomes too long for us maybe. I would show a lot of attention and talk about your deepest desires, ambitions and feelings with them. We like to talk about things. We like to know our partner has plans for a good successful future. Also, don't play mind games. Do what you say you will do. Keep them stimulated with going places a lot. They like to go different places. I think you SHOULD tell him how you feel. We like that. I hope this helps.

ah, the may born ones are the committed ones? They probably have all of the "good" qualities don't they twinkee.

Yes they do! LOL NO really, I wasn't knocking the june born .

Let me tell you about the "May Born" ones....they are not as committed as you think...sooner or later they stray..they like variety....they act like their committed and will even tell you they are...they only say this because they want you to totally come out of your character with them...please watch out...go with your instincts/

Sounds like you have a crush and are nervous about how to approach him with the news. I have never met ANY Gemini that takes another for granted. It may feel that way for you perhaps but I am sure that is not the case. Maybe you should try chilling out abit and stop putting him up there on a pedastool.

IF you ARE only interested in him as a friend then tell him how you feel. How can that hurt...one friend to another..what's the big deal here really.."Hi *****, just wanted to let ya know I see you as a good buddy of mine. Hope you feel the same for me."

IF, then, you still feel like he is taking you for granted..TELL HIM! Aren't 'friends' supposed to be able to talk openly with one another—?? If he does something you are not happy with them tell him to piss off and come back and see you when he treats you like an equivalent and not a doormat.

Could it be that you have a silent crush on this guy and you are afraid that if you address those simple concerns he may run the other way—?? You said he intially pursued you...perhaps he has found out all he needs to know and is happy being at a comfortable distance...you don't have to live in each others pockets to remain friends. I have Gem friends that I may not have had contact with in over a yr, but when we do catch up it is like no time has passed at all and the situation is accepted for what it is...LIFE.

I am not having a go at you at all...just trying to awaken you to other perspectives. I don't know your situation as am only guessing.

Ultimately, whatever your position, you are not happy with the status quo and you should do whatever it takes to make yourself ok with this all....You have already kept quiet..and that isn't working, so take a risk and put it out there.

Hey Lawgoddess! I totally agree with us not seeing someone in years and then when we catch up, it's like no time has passed! Sammie, I have to say that us gems do like variety. We will make you feel special and that you are the only one, but could be cheating the whole time. I have been thru that phase, but I now see it as horrific! I value others feelings now! We are not afraid of committment at all as long as you can keep up with us and always reveal you feelings.

oh twinkee - i forgot to say, i do have yahoo messenger - you have my email address?

Sammie,

I'm a may born gemini and my god i can be full of sheit when it comes to committment. Actually, I have no idea why anyone would want to be in a relationship with me! Aside from obvious charm/good looks/humour/intelligence & spectacular body, I'm an escapist at heart (oh that's right, I don't have a heart).

In my last relationship, I moved to another city (13 hours drive away), while still maintaining that i was completely committed to the relationship. Besides being really really cowardly, i think the way i justified it to myself was to say that this other person would take the break up really hard, so maybe it would be easier on them if i just drifted away quietly and let them get so annoyed that they broke up with me - that way they end up feeling good about themselves.

Sorry drifted off the topic completely. In regards to him not pursueing you, it either means that he doesn't like you, or that in his mind you're friends but that doesn't necessarily mean regular contact - I only speak to some of my best friends every couple of years - if you want to spend more time with him, then try and make the activities of your life intertwine with his.

Cortica, I don't have your e-mail address. Please give it again. Thanks!

Cortica..one question Male or Female...I was talking about Males...Females are great!!

Hello - I'm a female, though I have lots of male gemini friends who are equally as pathetic when it comes to relationships 🤢gt;

My email is cortica@yahoo.com or cortica@hotmail.com LOL - who would have guessed!