GEMINI GUYS & DISAPPEARING ACTS

Posted by RealTalk
I need some advice from you guys because I'm confused as hell. I was seeing a gemini guy (cancer moon & venus) for 6 months and it seemed as if things were good up until April. When we did meet though it was an instant attraction, instant connection. Things progressed pretty quickly with us and I didn't see him for almost 2 months but we kept in contact with each other, texts, calls. Ok Boom, the calls & texting stop for 3 weeks & he calls me out the blue. I didn't hang out with him either when he did and contacted him the following week and we hung out. Didn't hear from him for a while so I send him a general what's up text. He texted me back with some crazy shit and I texted him back disclosing a portion of how I felt for him. After that he did a 180 & we were spending time together mostly everyday. It was fun, light, airy, never boring, great convo, going with the flow. I never pressured him, I never probed him on where he had been, and I was never emotional with him so I thought it was cool. We had gotten really close & intimate with each other and even though he didn't verbally express that he had feelings for me, I felt it & he showed it. Then he left & I haven't heard from him since. I mean I've been dating other people & I'm attracted to someone now, but It's challenging for me to shake Mr. Gemini out of my system & I miss him. 😢 Why do you think he left like that? Maybe he lost interest in me? or he didn't want to get any closer to me? IDK but this shit is still bothering me.

well when we tend to 'move on', we dont completely lose interest of that person, for me, i think of them as like a life long friend, and i would consider the friend relationship to still be able to move somewhere into a romantic relationship(and this is saying something) unless something happened that convinced me otherwise, but i would definately know where my priorities lie. so if you guys do ever keep in contact, i think this is what his mindset would be.

Cut off, I know a gem-virgo marriage that's been going on for 40 years so in some cases they do. Different strokes for different folks...

As far as the Gem guys I've dated: as soon as they decided for sure that they wanted to get together with me romantically, I couldn't have knocked them off with large, thorny sticks. No more disappearances. I don't know if the guys would agree that this is typical or not.

Posted by strawberrybaby2241

Posted by RealTalk
Cut off, I know a gem-virgo marriage that's been going on for 40 years so in some cases they do. Different strokes for different folks...

I realise you have moved on and is dating someone else....But if u say u need a gemino's perspective cool with me....I thought you were open for opinion's as you did not specify who u wanted it from...

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Yeah I am open to it & anyone can state their opinion but being that this is about a gemini & I've posted it on a gem forum, It's just a preference, not stepping on any toes.

Posted by Whimsy
As far as the Gem guys I've dated: as soon as they decided for sure that they wanted to get together with me romantically, I couldn't have knocked them off with large, thorny sticks. No more disappearances. I don't know if the guys would agree that this is typical or not.

Right I agree...There were no disappearances for a while...we stayed in constant contact that's why I was like WTF?

Posted by westside

Posted by RealTalk
I need some advice from you guys because I'm confused as hell. I was seeing a gemini guy (cancer moon & venus) for 6 months and it seemed as if things were good up until April. When we did meet though it was an instant attraction, instant connection. Things progressed pretty quickly with us and I didn't see him for almost 2 months but we kept in contact with each other, texts, calls. Ok Boom, the calls & texting stop for 3 weeks & he calls me out the blue. I didn't hang out with him either when he did and contacted him the following week and we hung out. Didn't hear from him for a while so I send him a general what's up text. He texted me back with some crazy shit and I texted him back disclosing a portion of how I felt for him. After that he did a 180 & we were spending time together mostly everyday. It was fun, light, airy, never boring, great convo, going with the flow. I never pressured him, I never probed him on where he had been, and I was never emotional with him so I thought it was cool. We had gotten really close & intimate with each other and even though he didn't verbally express that he had feelings for me, I felt it & he showed it. Then he left & I haven't heard from him since. I mean I've been dating other people & I'm attracted to someone now, but It's challenging for me to shake Mr. Gemini out of my system & I miss him. 😢 Why do you think he left like that? Maybe he lost interest in me? or he didn't want to get any closer to me? IDK but this shit is still bothering me.

well when we tend to 'move on', we dont completely lose interest of that person, for me, i think of them as like a life long friend, and i would consider the friend relationship to still be able to move somewhere into a romantic relationship(and this is saying something) unless something happened that convinced me otherwise, but i would definately know where my priorities lie. so if you guys do ever keep in contact, i think this is what his mindset would be.

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I feel you.

Sorry I disappeared and didn't respond sooner, I was over at the Virgo boards telling a joke. 😛

Always a pleasure to read you, Wineaux.

Posted by wineaux
that cancer moon & venus don't help. gems think, cancers feel - so i can only imagine the kind of confusion this person might have going on in their head. gems act impulsively, cancers act deliberately. gems need freedom, cancers need space. all the while, this is confusing to the virgo because they rely on logic to get them through. it's impossible to be able to crack the core of either of these signs as they will leave you thinking and your mind wandering because the gem just does and the cancer just broods. although gems are quick to communicate, his cancer side would rather internalize it for later. you got a mess on your hands! i think if you have a next time, you need to lay it out on the line and let him know how you feel. gems need to hear it, cancers need to feel it. do both!!

good luck 😉
from a gem (with a virgo mother) who is in love with a cancer.

LMAO tell me about it...I just have a hard time expressing myself to guys though. I hate feeling "soft & pink" but as much as I hate to admit it, I have a soft spot for him. Got me all on the gemini forum "inquiring" lmao & smfh 🙂 Thanks.
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Hmm I'm a Gemini with moon/venus in cancer (a female). When it comes to relationships I need to be convinced that that is the right person for me so I go through all those "testing" modes. Sometimes I rush into a relationship just because the person I'm with confessed about their feelings and it makes me think hmm maybe it's worth a chance, but when I get the feeling he's not the person for me or that this relationship wasn't good enough I withdraw suddnely (it kind of shocked my libra & cancer ex's) I always communicate that I don't want to be a part of this relationship anymore though and don't just disappear.

Hope this helps 🙂

Thanks guys...appreciate it 🙂

Posted by Norcalman67

Posted by RealTalk
...he did a 180 & we were spending time together mostly everyday. It was fun, light, airy, never boring, great convo, going with the flow. I never pressured him, I never probed him on where he had been, and I was never emotional with him so I thought it was cool. We had gotten really close & intimate with each other and even though he didn't verbally express that he had feelings for me, I felt it & he showed it. Then he left & I haven't heard from him since... Why do you think he left like that? Maybe he lost interest in me? or he didn't want to get any closer to me?

Sounds just way too typical. That would have described me to a "T" in teen years and through my 20's. Hear one day, gone the next three months. Not positive if he's interested in 'more' than just having some fun and lighthearted time spent with you right now. It could turn int more, but I'd keep dating and not wait for him.

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Yeah he's 21, young & dumb. He asked to move in with me several times which I thought was very odd & he was kinda clingy sometimes. Trust me I plan on continuing to date, I was dating others when I was kickin' it with him but he just stood out. I'm actually feeling someone I'm dating now. I wait for no one, but I honestly still have feelings for him. SMDH.