Gemini man unfriends me on fb out of the blue?!

just said that with the distance, it's difficult for us to work with the distance (which is now permanent due to his job) but that he is happy to stay friends.. (which by this point was like well duh! to me as you don't have to be a genius to work that out) and I said that it would still be nice to be fb friends and he joked that I wanted to stalk him lol but it's mainly that having spent quite a bit of time with him before he moved, it seemed silly and pointless to cut contact completely and much better if we at least got a friendship out of this.. he joked around a bit more about me wanting to stalk him (how I wouldn't have known I'd been unfriended by his fb if I wasn't looking, etc) and then the convo kinda died off which was fine..

Now, it's been nearly a whole week and still no re-add..! I am not sure if he's even being honest about the fb restart causing it to delete friends off his lists (although I've read online that it's happened to some people in the past..) Also, he is constantly on facebook (I know he is busy with his new job but still) hardly takes a few seconds to re-add someone..

Also, he's got all of his (many!) exes on his fb still added, except for the most recent one (prior to me meeting him), who's unfriended but that may have been her who unfriended him?), he's generally quite friendly and unemotional, it was a fairly short "relationship" that we had, I don't post on his wall nor fill up the newsfeed with annoying updates.. I don't understand why he'd do something so "hostile" (yeah I know that's a bit dramatic) but I felt almost cold when I realised it.. I don't get it.. he has hundreds of friends on his list who weren't as intimate with him so it's like I am below all these random acquaintances of his who are on his list? I don't care about the break-up but to say we can stay friends (& he says we're only separating due to the distance - no issues) and then not even do a simple thing as to re-add makes me feel bad! I know I'd be able to completely move on if I had him added again as I don't hold a huge emotional connection to him and I'm fine with us being friends (I am an aqua after all haha) I just don't like to be completely cut out of someone's life when we get along just fine..

Why is he being so hesitant to re-add?!

Wow! I feel your pain. I know the pain of a Gemini switching up all so well. I am a Libra with a Gemini rising and Aquarius moon and I am guilty for abrupt terminations. Why? I can't speak for him, and since he isn't being honest with you, you may never know why he chose to unfriend you. What we do know that he is has unfriended you and has not made efforts to send a request or contact you. His behavior is screaming that he lost interest as a lover and a friend and he doesn't seem too concerned about your feelings.

I can't speak for other air signs but me personally if I cut someone off with like that, they have irritated me or I see no use for the connection. If I unfriend them they said something or did something that deeply hurt me. They may or may not be aware the offense; but usually I will communicate with them before severing the ties. But despite your apology and genuine efforts he doesn't seem interested in explaining his actions or continuing the relationship. So cut your losses and move on...Gemini men are said to be heart-breakers.

I had some guy do that to me recently. I don't know when he unfriendly me and tbh I hadn't even realized he had until he sent me a friend request. Lmao.

I think people put too much stock into social media

Posted by Shrewdsharp
Wow! I feel your pain. I know the pain of a Gemini switching up all so well. I am a Libra with a Gemini rising and Aquarius moon and I am guilty for abrupt terminations. Why? I can't speak for him, and since he isn't being honest with you, you may never know why he chose to unfriend you. What we do know that he is has unfriended you and has not made efforts to send a request or contact you. His behavior is screaming that he lost interest as a lover and a friend and he doesn't seem too concerned about your feelings.

I can't speak for other air signs but me personally if I cut someone off with like that, they have irritated me or I see no use for the connection. If I unfriend them they said something or did something that deeply hurt me. They may or may not be aware the offense; but usually I will communicate with them before severing the ties. But despite your apology and genuine efforts he doesn't seem interested in explaining his actions or continuing the relationship. So cut your losses and move on...Gemini men are said to be heart-breakers.

Thanks for the reply - yeah it's shocking how rude and inconsiderate of other's feelings someone can be - he was all too eager to add me at the start. I always find that people who are overly friendly and very open with people they don't know, treat those close to them like absolute rubbish, no respect at all as it's all about the chase but not the conquest..

I honestly know I haven't done anything to offend him as it was still very much the "honeymoon stage" where we were just getting to know each other and joking around and he's definitely not the most sensitive - I've seen him be quite harsh when joking around with his friends etc.

The way I see it, people only unfriend someone as a revenge for something they've done (virtually impossible to be the case here) or because they had soo many feelings for the person, when they break-up they'd rather unfriend them so they're not thinking about them all the time (also not likely to be the case as he's almost not capable for being deeply emotionally attached to anyone for long lol)

I feel like somehow he thinks if he gets with someone new, he can't post about it as it'll annoy me?! I don't know.. I hope that's not the reason as I'm not the jealousy type at all and he's free to move on..

Posted by scorpio19
I do that a lot too! Deleting everybody out of blue. My DISAPPEARING act as it is my talent and a cursed in personal life.

But I'm sure this man probably found out something that he did not like and was confused then unfriended you. Now he doesn't want to tell you the true reason.

Sorry 😢

Thanks for the reply - how can a flaw in someone be a reason to unfriend them though? I'm sure all his hundreds of fb friends aren't all amazingly perfect..

Sure, dislikeable characteristics can cause someone to break up but to unfriend them? He's hardly perfect himself!

Sigh..zomgbbqchickenwtf...not facebook!

But really you know there is a simple solution for this, right? Get off Facebook and then it wouldn't have been an issue to begin with.

Posted by AirManForce
lol why do yall mess with facebook. that shit is pure drama. and i didn't even bother read what you posted. not a word.

Lol neither did I

FB is the graveyard of relationships.

Posted by candyclouds
And yes they are quite unemotional and are always chasing for new things and they want to talk to loads of girls at the same time, because they get bored like a child.

Maybe he unfriended you because all of a sudden he switched to his 'casual sex' mode and didn't want you to find out , because to you he acted like a romantic.

Thank you for your answer. Yeah I suppose that could be true but he's always been quite careful not to post too intimate things in the past with ex-es etc. and it's not like we would have access to his fb chat so in theory, there should be no such proof on his profile even if he was playing around or else, it could be deleted off his wall anyway.. I'm totally clueless now as to why, haha. 😢

Posted by littlemegabyte
^ that's not entirely true. I met my gem online and he was never talking to loads of women, he knew what he wanted, and he did not only communicate with me because he wanted something in the end. It just sounds like someone is being sour towards Gemini's. That's only their behavior if you're a toy to them, not a woman they care deeply about. I am a Gemini myself and had 1 LTR with a gem that lasted 5 years and one that is going now with a gem.

I remember you asked this question a few weeks ago. I replied that the deleted you because there was something on his facebook that he didn't want you to see. I am standing by that response. You said that all was well because itortable around us. I've been on dates that were awful and they thought it went so good but it was hell on earth for me, it's a secret preservation mechanism. I'm not saying that's what happened between y'all, that's just my own experience that I'm telling you so you can better understand us.

Thank you for the reply. I am not sure what could have been on his facebook that he didn't want me to see? I know he has a "big past" i.e lots of previous partners, that he's quite flirty etc and he hasn't ever made anything with me public on fb and he generally hasn't much in the past with ex-es either... I don't feel the dates went badly as he always seemed very keen to organise another date by texting minutes after each date to ask about possible plans and he even said to me, on our last date that we have a perfect relationship as there is good in-depth conversations (that he feels he never had with exes in the past) as well as physical attraction (and that's all you need according to him). I know it's possible that he could have been saying that to be polite but it wasn't prompted by me and it's clear now he doesn't care about anyone's feelings so he can't have said it just to be nice.

If he started seeing someone else, surely they would not appear on his fb wall within days? (and he can choose what is displayed on his wall anyway) and now we're just friends and I even jokingly said to him that he's free to be with any girl in the new city he's moved to.. I am not a jealous or overly attached person - I'm not going to go green with envy if he had started seeing someone else and judging by his previous history, I'd be surprised if he hadn't already started on someone else

Posted by littlemegabyte
Yea, I guesin contact with him still when there is no desire on his end? I sure as hell don't want anyone in my life who doesn't want to be there.

Thanks for the reply - I just hate that all this time and effort, getting to know someone has been a complete waste of time if we at least don't even get a "contact"/friendship out of it and have to completely erase each other out of our lives as if it was one huge regret.. we got along just fine, he says the only reason we can't continue this is due to him moving hundreds of miles away for a job, never had any arguments, etc. he also said he'd be happy for us to be friends (I know people may just say to be polite but u can't say that and then unfriend the person?!)- really is there any loss to him by keeping me added? especially as I am not one to post endless posts on facebook, or "like" everything he posts etc. so it's literally hassle free..

I just feel rubbish at the fact he literally went out of the way to unfriend as if I cheated on him or did something else that deserved revenge/display of anger, especially as he's one of those friends with everyone, super social gemini guys! Loss of interest can't possibly mean the person has to be unfriended surely? Coz that would mean, he wants to date/marry the hundreds of girls and guys on his friends list in that case?!

The probability he's hiding something makes me even more curious as to what it might be that he would be being secretive about.. I can't think of anything so shocking really? I already know he's a total man-slut haha

By the way, I've never seen anyone who wants what they can't have, as much as him! He is incredibly selfish (had a instinct about him right from the start) and the proof's in the pudding haha.. he literally comments on EVERY single post his best mate's gf posts and puts loads of "x"s, kissy emoticon, etc. and clicks click on all her photos... it's actually strange as he didn't seem so overly "loving" with any of his ex-es.. I think it's because she's the only one out of his reach (being his best mate's gf), makes him desire her haha and honestly, he would put his selfish desires above morality and would happily have a fling with her if she'd say yes I think and then probably get bored of her as well.. all about the chase with him even though he strongly denies it!!

If I had an emotional attachment to him, then it would be difficult to remain just friends but with this one, I almost viewed him as just a friend when we were dating, so it would not be hard for me to remain friends with him, I don't miss the "romantic" aspect with him at all to be honest, but it was fun.

Posted by Koniucha
Seemed like the guy kept giving reasons why it wouldn't work out. Sounds like he was looking for a way out. I'm sorry

Well he only really give ONE reason - the distance as he just moved to a new place due to a job offer (he was just temp working before) He said that's the only reason, otherwise we'd have worked out (and whether that's a lie or not), still don't see that as a reason to unfriend.

Posted by Lust
Well, start get use to this. Air signs do this type of thing often. On and off and on an off We move freely.. Just like air...no reasons other then free to do what we like..

@Lust - Not all air signs do this. Using your "sign" as a scapegoat for lack of decent human behavior is simply immature and selfish.

Try not to take it personal. He is immature and so is his online activity it seems. I don't have a Facebook and I never will again. T-R-O-U-B-L-E.

i had a similar experience few months back. my gemini ex and I had a fight and broke up, he unfriended me in facebook instead of talking to me. at first i was pissed off and was hurt, but after a while I gave him his own dose of meds - blocked him in Facebook and everywhere else. I made sure I blocked him in Facebook before he can (so he can't block me and I still have the control lol!)

It's been months since that break up happened, I had the option to unblock him but I didn't even bother. i just remind myself all the headaches I had to go through with this guy, and I realize he's definitely not worth it.

I'm much happier now, having more fun and more optimistic. As for my ex, I see him in the office, I don't talk to him. I noticed him follow me twice or thrice and a colleague told me that they notice him stressed at work. I just wish him well but I haven't talked to him for months, it made a lot of difference - I rediscovered my worth.

don't be hard on yourself. geminis are like this when they are going through things. if he doesn't come back then it is what it is. if he comes back, think really well because this behavior is more of a pattern for them.