How to break up with a Gem effictively

I am asking for insiders secrets here.
As you know, and I'm sure you're sick of hearing about it, this Gem and I had a good thing going on, but lately he's acting like I'm annoying. He blames everything on me. Will side with people who belittled me rather than being a knight like he used to be. Push me away when I want sex, but then, will ask for it under his own conditions hours later.
If I'm independent because I'm having fun with my friends, he will freak out and get mad, and when I talk to him, will give me attitude if I ask him what's up.

Exemple:
Me: Hey sorry I was with my friends, tried calling you didn't pick up.
Gem: I was showering because you went missing.
Me: What do you mean, what does a shower and me going out with friends got to do together?
Gem: Nothing jesus!!
(That kind of attitude.. And I still don't get what he meant by, I'm showering because you went missing)

We clash a lot. Sparks flies. He's passive like he doesn't wanna be around me. Still talks to me, just.. Not there as much as he used to be.
I know he's under a lot of stress and he's been more moody lately. Three days ago he was the sweetest man alive, and yesterday and today, he was a jerk.
But I'm sick of it and I want to break it off.

I know thought that if I do, he will go through a mental break down, because I'm the only close person he's got left. I know he loves me, but some of his actions are ones that's telling me he's not feeling the same way he used to be and that he only talks to me because I'm helping him and only because he's not feeling as alone with me in his life. Like I'm filling up a hole and nothing else.

So what's best.

-A clean cut? Remove him from everywhere online, ask for my key back and ignore him completely?
-Having a talk with him, explaining that he messed up too much and I'm sick of it?
-Go step by step. Becoming more and more distant to the point where we part ways?

Just be straight forward, then clean cut.

Posted by geminicandlelight
Anna,
Gemini or not, use your common sense and treat him like a human being. It sounds like he is under a lot of stress, so he is pushing you away. I am guilty of this too, I've done this when I have internal stuff going on to deal with.
I wouldn't say he is a jerk. A jerk is a selfish, narcissistic piece of shit man who doesn't give fuck about you, cheats, abuses, lies, manipulates, uses, etc...
Your guy isn't this, so give him respect, please. Talk to him by telling him what you told us. Then clean cut.
We, the geminis, have dignity, no matter how we come accross to others.

He did cheat -_-
And his internal stuff, they're caused by me.

Why are you pushing people away when you have internal stuff going on?

He went for a shower because you were missing, see thats you fault then hehe.

Okay better solution for this is the second one you suggested - Talk talk and talk and talk until it is being solved. And I dont meant to argue okay. Good luck Ann

I am a Gemini and have 5 good Gemini friends, male and female and not one of them ever have a bad cheating bone in them so if he cheated on you, leave move on. That is not the Gemini straight to cheat even though they can keep ex-partners as friends. There can be a bad egg in all star signs. I suggest live your life, dreams, work and stuff and give him space to think. Also when he contacts you, let him know you are busy at the moment and have a busy schedule in your life style and maybe can fit him in, that will drive him crazy for you.

Last night another thing happened that's just adding to the pile of things he does that's making me wonder.

He offered to help me with a problem I'm having that he has ties in, and as soon as he got of work, he called me.
We talked, he listened, offered to help with it all. But whenever I started talking about it, he mentioned other things like he was ADD.
When I started explaining again, he had to hang up to fill up his car.
Later, the second he got home, like 10 minutes later he talked to me but not about the problem I'm having. Was really sweet through the night though.
Then, at 9:58 when I reminded him about what we needed to talk and told him I'd be available later, it went like this:

10:00 Call me we're gonna talk.
10:03 Or don't. Guess you don't need my help.
10:05 Ok great guess you really don't need my help.

When I was done doing what I was doing that couldn't wait, he ignored me completely, and I told him I'd wait for him to be available so we can talk, and he read my iMessages but didn't replied. I waited.
Then, at midnight or so, he said "what" followed by a "good night A"
I replied with Grrrrrr (Meaning: I'm pissed)
He read it, didn't replied.

So I snapped at him and told him: Oh you're ignoring me again, and fucking leaving when I've been waiting a while for you to not be busy so I can talk to you about what can't wait. Don't fucking tell me you're gonna help me if you're gonna do things like this.

He read it this morning at 7:40 AM and I didn't hear from him since.

Yeah, I'm the reason he cheated and lied to me many times.. Sure! It's like saying a girl is getting raped because she wore a sexy skirt at the bar one night.

As for me figuring out. I know why he left last night without talking to me. He was tired and didn't wanna deal with it at that moment, but sometimes in life there are some things that cannot wait. Hence me insisting that we talk.

As for me wondering how to do it effectively; it's about me being over caring and doing it the right way for him because he's going through rough stuff in life right now. I may have enough of his ass, but that doesn't mean I'm a cord heart bitch.